themasonsfan Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 both me and my boyfriend are high energy in the sex dept. or at least we were until a few months ago. now it seems like im the only one who wants to do anything any more. i prefer to have sex about 3-4 times a week, and when we got together he kept me more then happy in the sex dept. now though he rarely ever wants to do anything. he says he no longer has that spark and only wants to do it when he starts it. i said id try it but his idea of about 3 times a week is more like once a week. am i a nypho who is expecting to much or is he just not in to me any more? Link to post Share on other sites
headlesschicken Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 it's nympho. and nymphomania is a psychological disorder in which a woman is addicted to sex and seeks it compulsively despite adverse consequences. so no i don't think you're one. i think you're experiencing normal slowdown in sexual activity in a couple who has been together awhile. it's quite common. Link to post Share on other sites
stepka Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 Hmm, I don't think you're a nympho--I think you're the normal one. Once a week for a couple who's not married? I think he's either lost interest or has a lower drive than you do, so you should probably look for other signs that the relationship has faltered. Also, don't let him call you a nympho or make you feel bad for wanting to make love--if he does, you'll have your answer and should start making exit plans. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 am i a nypho who is expecting to much or is he just not in to me any more? It's not a 'one-OR-the-other' situation. As already pointed out, no, you're not displaying any "nympho" symptoms -- if that even ought to be a 'disorder', really. (But that's a whole different rant .) There are any number of reasons that women and men experience a lowering of sex-drive. Stress, depression, lingering anger/upset, fears, fatigue, biochemical, physical, natural effects of aging. Or he's become lazy or complacent in the relationship, or he's just not that into you anymore. (Which does NOT mean that you have all-of-a-sudden become any less attractive, desirable and sexy!) Or. He could be using sex to make a "power play", gain control. The book 'Why Men Stop Having Sex' by Berkowitz & Yager-Berkowitz might help you to open up a more in-depth conversation as to what is going on for him. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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