aloneanddepressed Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 It has been a rough couple of weeks or so,after my breakup with BF. I'm feeling a little better in general, but the past few days my hormones suddenly kick in out of no where...LOL. I feel like I'm going to go crazy. I then am reminded of how much this TRULY sucks going from a relationship to being SINGLE. No intimacy, no affection..NOTHING. Of course, I start thinking of all the intimate times with my ex; its a horrible feeling. I try not to think about him, but I can't help it. It's not like I've been with a lot of guys. I really miss the intimacy and the connection! I just wish I hadn't had all these flash backs because now I feel more sad and incredibly frustrated. Not trying to sound like that is all the relationship was based on, but yeah. :DSorry just feel like venting.:lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
northstar1 Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 It has been a rough couple of weeks or so,after my breakup with BF. I'm feeling a little better in general, but the past few days my hormones suddenly kick in out of no where...LOL. I feel like I'm going to go crazy. I then am reminded of how much this TRULY sucks going from a relationship to being SINGLE. No intimacy, no affection..NOTHING. Of course, I start thinking of all the intimate times with my ex; its a horrible feeling. I try not to think about him, but I can't help it. It's not like I've been with a lot of guys. I really miss the intimacy and the connection! I just wish I hadn't had all these flash backs because now I feel more sad and incredibly frustrated. Not trying to sound like that is all the relationship was based on, but yeah. :DSorry just feel like venting.:lmao: You need to get out and release some endorphins to feel better. Go for a run, or hit up a gym for an hour. Nothing helps you to feel better than a good cardio workout. Link to post Share on other sites
BTLC23 Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 damn i wish you were closer you sound like you need to meet someone to get your mind off him which is exactly where i'm at Link to post Share on other sites
Author aloneanddepressed Posted July 30, 2009 Author Share Posted July 30, 2009 True. I actually don't feel all that bad today, or at least not compared to how its been being. I try to walk daily a few miles at least; it helps, but I probably need more Cardio. It does help a great deal. You need to get out and release some endorphins to feel better. Go for a run, or hit up a gym for an hour. Nothing helps you to feel better than a good cardio workout. Link to post Share on other sites
Thomas X Forever Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 You know I love you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author aloneanddepressed Posted July 30, 2009 Author Share Posted July 30, 2009 yes I do, jk lol You know I love you! Link to post Share on other sites
bluejeanbebe Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 I know EXACTLY how you feel and am in EXACTLY the same place you are in. So, you're not alone. Mostly you miss just the connection. I remind myself of what drove me nuts about him, so that helps..... but it still hurts, the flashbacks of being close and the intimacy. I tried to get rid of everything that reminded me of him, but still everything else still reminds me of him. I try to get out and do things, meet new people, that sort of thing, but still, walking back to my car, alone, sitting in the movie theater, alone, driving home to an empty house, alone, pulling into the garage and glancing at the empty seat next to me... it doesn't even take a sad song before the tears start to fall. Link to post Share on other sites
moo Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 hey a and d, it does suck. I explained in another thread today that I had a set back and crying fit, but still kept NC. I just want this bad feeling to go away. Link to post Share on other sites
Thomas X Forever Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 I just want this bad feeling to go away. What? You mean you don't like this feeling? It's so wonderful though! Link to post Share on other sites
moo Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 yucky uky mucky Link to post Share on other sites
Author aloneanddepressed Posted July 30, 2009 Author Share Posted July 30, 2009 hey a and d, it does suck. I explained in another thread today that I had a set back and crying fit, but still kept NC. I just want this bad feeling to go away. hey, sorry you had a set back. its strange. as soon as you have a setback, this is the first day I'm feeling somewhat better. The crying fit I had the other day really helped. It was pretty horrible. maybe after your crying fit you will feel a lot better. I probably will have to cry some more eventually. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 When we go through a break up our bodies go through a steep decline in serotonin. Crassssh. Booooom. The people who advised you to excersize have the right idea completely. A good, intense cardio workout gives you an endorphin kick which feels amazing. I think one of the best things a person can do during a break up is be kind to their bodies. Try and maintain a schedule or regularity with sleep, watch what you eat (it isn't about gaining weight, but about how crappy your body feels when you fill it with junk in comparison to when you're eating healthy) and get excersize regularly. A healthy body helps out with a healthy mind. I forced myself to eat right, excersize and volunteer at the homeless kitchen after my last break up. It did a lot of wonders for me. Volunteering got me out of the house, and got me thinking about others instead of myself and how bad I felt. The excersize helped to stabilize my chemicals and made me feel less insanity. Link to post Share on other sites
moo Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 Thanks a and d. That make sense, hoping2heal, since depression is related to having too little serotonin in the brain. I went off my diet today. But going back on tomorrow. And, I am going to exercise today. I'm so close to breaking NC, but I'm gonna try to keep staying strong. Besides, he can't help me. He's not human. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 There are other ways to increase endorphins besides exercise That's true. However, I don't reccomend breaking a bone or smashing your thumb. Link to post Share on other sites
moo Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 Gee, been trying to call the depression line but they are busy. Link to post Share on other sites
moo Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 so, what do you mean a and d....give it to us straight:) Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 so, what do you mean a and d....give it to us straight:) What does this mean? Link to post Share on other sites
Thomas X Forever Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 I believe she's referring to sex, or possibly drugs. Either way, bad idea for someone suffering from the loss of someone else. BAD idea. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 I believe she's referring to sex, or possibly drugs. Either way, bad idea for someone suffering from the loss of someone else. BAD idea. Oh god, DUH. Wow misty, way to be a do-do. I thought a and d, had something to do with the depression line she couldn't get ahold of. LOL. Okay, sex and drugs are a bad idea. But I'm confused, can either one of them actually release endorphins, now sex has the potential provided it's strenous enough. Our body releases endorphins in response to pain or extreme strain on the body. Typically the chemicals released (unless again, it's very intense sex) would be crap what's the name of that one. It's on the tip of my tongue but I can't remember. It's the "bonding" chemical released in females in high quanities following orgasm. Also, it's possible dopamine might be released. But with drugs I'm wondering, I guess endorphins could be released in response to the damage the drugs are doing to your body? I don't know, I'm just thinking out loud trying to figure this out. I don't know the answer hence I'm working it out on paper. Anyone else know? Link to post Share on other sites
Thomas X Forever Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 Climax produces endorphins And ecstasy does as well. Link to post Share on other sites
moo Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 I finally got thru to the depression line, but no woman counselor was there, only a man. Can't talk to man on the phone...reminds me of lunkhead. A and D, I took your message that you were implying rough sex. Maybe you were just kidding? I hope you were. You sound more upbeat and better today. Do go backwards by doing that. Okay? Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 Climax produces endorphins And ecstasy does as well. I didn't know that on the climax note. Then again, some hindu believe that abstaining from orgasm during sex is better for the brain, as with orgasm the brain becomes hyperstimulated and maybe the endorphins are a response to that? Ectasy makes sense, considering people get all lovey dovey on it. I don't do drugs, but one time I had a really long and intense session with cardio/running and after. Man, it was like I just had the best, most satisfying sex ever. Whatever you do A-D, do NOT drink alchohol. You probably already know that, but I'm just re affirming. Link to post Share on other sites
moo Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 A and D, I took your message that you were implying rough sex. Maybe you were just kidding? I hope you were. You sound more upbeat and better today. Do go backwards by doing that. Okay? EEK! I meant DON'T go backwords...okay? I tried to edit it but the computer wouldn't let me. YIKES. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 I finally got thru to the depression line, but no woman counselor was there, only a man. Can't talk to man on the phone...reminds me of lunkhead. A and D, I took your message that you were implying rough sex. Maybe you were just kidding? I hope you were. You sound more upbeat and better today. Do go backwards by doing that. Okay? Moo, do you want to talk to me? I'm a woman. Link to post Share on other sites
moo Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 YIKES, I looked back at the topic. No, no, no. There are healthier ways to get thru your pain. Don't do it. Link to post Share on other sites
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