It's just a game... well apparently not

[aerogurl87]

Hi there I felt like introducing myself since I'm new here with my boyfriend and I's story.

 

We met in a game called Second life through a group we had both joined. His avatar was pretty cute I thought and that was about it. I had gotten to a point in my life where I was pretty jaded and didn't want a boyfriend, let alone a serious relationship. At first we started off as friends with harmless flirting. I listened to him and we talked a whole lot, spending alot of time together on the game. Then he sent me a picture and surprisingly enough he was cute, really cute. I will admit I thought he wouldn't be that attractive physically, I don't know why but I did. I sent him my picture also and he was pleasantly surprised as well, which led to him asking for my number.

 

I didn't think he'd actually text me, but as soon as he had my number he did. We texted each other constantly over the next few days until one day I decided that I wanted to hear his voice. So after mustering up the courage to call him, I did and we had a long conversation about life in general. It was like I had known him my whole life and I felt completely at ease with him. Well a week went by and he asked me to be his girlfriend. As much as I wanted to say yes, I felt like I couldn't yet. See the problem was he lived in Massachusetts and I lived in North Carolina which was about almost 900 miles away. I had my doubts and fears about saying yes to a relationship, especially a long distance one since I feared getting hurt again. But he was persistent and a week later he became my boyfriend.

 

We spent the next 3 months texting, talking on the phone, doing cam chats, and hanging out in Second life together. Our relationship was going great, although we hadn't met yet in person. We both knew we wanted to see each other, but we couldn't figure out when or how it would happen. Then one day while I was studying I got a random text from him out of the blue. It simply said he was coming to see me in a week. I was so happy since I had about two weeks of school left before I would be heading back home for the summer. The next week he showed up at the airport around 11am. I was so nervous as I waited for him, pacing back and forth and fidgiting with my book. All I could think was of the negatives, like what if he was different in person? What if he didn't like me? Or what if I don't like him? Then he called me when he landed and I got even more anxious. I could hear his voice on the phone, but in a few minutes I'd be hearing it for the first time without the help of my cell phone.

 

Now usually I don't believe in love at first sight, but when he walked through the gate to where I was standing, something clicked in my head. Not only was he the same person I had imagined he'd be, he was more than that. He was the closest thing to perfection I had ever seen as he walked towards me and gave me a big hug. For the first time in a long time I felt like I was in the arms of someone who truly cared about me and made me feel safe, needed, and wanted. That moment confirmed for me that I did truly love him. We spent the next week together which was just amazing. He was everything I had ever wanted and needed in a guy, plus more. I was so sad to see him leave, although I knew I'd be surprising him in 2 days to go see him for his birthday. That week made me realize something though. It made me realize that he was no ordinary guy, no quick college fling. He was the man I wanted to marry.

 

We've been together for 5 months now and everytime I talk to him or see him things just get better. He's asked me to move in with him by next summer and we're saving up to get our first apartment together. Yes, it's been hard and we've had disagreements and a few arguments. But at the end of the day I know I wouldn't want to be with anyone else and I know that he feels the same. He is and will always be my best friend and true love.

[digitalwizard]

Congratulations! Reading your post made us have flashbacks of how our relationship started over 9 years ago. We first met online in a chat room with absolutely no intentions of anything but just chatting and over time, like you, we started talking on the phone and spent almost every spare moment in contact in some way or another. When you described the airport scene, it gave us chills because it brought back so many memories. We are very happy for you and know exactly what you are talking about. She was in MS and I was in the military in NC. I drove almost every 4 day weekend to see her. Our point is, we've been together for 9 years. There have been ups and downs. We are even going through a difficult time right now. But, meeting online and it being long distance is the best way to meet someone and build a foundation for a future relationship. Because all you have to do is talk. You aren't distracted by the other things that come up in a close-contact relationship. And through talking, you discover EXACTLY who that other person is. And, like you, when you finally meet them it is as if you have known them since the beginning of time. Our best advice is to not lose the communication factor that built the relationship to begin with. Do not fall into a traditional marriage (when you get married) and be the typical husband and wife. In fact, to spice things up every once in a while, go online and talk to each other through the computer or call each other on the phone and talk. It is vital to maintain the communication side of your relationship. Best of luck

[aerogurl87]

Congratulations! Reading your post made us have flashbacks of how our relationship started over 9 years ago. We first met online in a chat room with absolutely no intentions of anything but just chatting and over time, like you, we started talking on the phone and spent almost every spare moment in contact in some way or another. When you described the airport scene, it gave us chills because it brought back so many memories. We are very happy for you and know exactly what you are talking about. She was in MS and I was in the military in NC. I drove almost every 4 day weekend to see her. Our point is, we've been together for 9 years. There have been ups and downs. We are even going through a difficult time right now. But, meeting online and it being long distance is the best way to meet someone and build a foundation for a future relationship. Because all you have to do is talk. You aren't distracted by the other things that come up in a close-contact relationship. And through talking, you discover EXACTLY who that other person is. And, like you, when you finally meet them it is as if you have known them since the beginning of time. Our best advice is to not lose the communication factor that built the relationship to begin with. Do not fall into a traditional marriage (when you get married) and be the typical husband and wife. In fact, to spice things up every once in a while, go online and talk to each other through the computer or call each other on the phone and talk. It is vital to maintain the communication side of your relationship. Best of luck

 

Thanks! Yeah I was thinking meeting him online was for the best too since it gave me time to get to know the real him based on his personality and not just his looks. Also, I don't want to be the typical married couple with him. Like I always tell him, I may be his girlfriend but first and foremost I'm his best friend. I think keeping that attitude has really helped us to continue getting closer to one another and I don't plan on changing my views on that anytime soon, lol. But thanks for the story and I hope you two can work out what you're going through now.