2sure Posted August 3, 2009 Share Posted August 3, 2009 Oh, I recently saw something Karma related that I liked: You know the "tip jar" at your coffee shop? Sometimes the employees put notes on them as to what the money will be used for or what they are saving for like, "Kims vacation" or "Books for College"... At my local ice cream shop the jar has a sign on it too: Karma Jar I love it, and tip very very well. Doesnt hurt right? Link to post Share on other sites
Peanut9330 Posted August 3, 2009 Share Posted August 3, 2009 Well here is what I dont understand about Karma, I never wished anything bad on anyone even if I got screwed over badly and I did by my ex and everytime he did something bad to me, something bad would happen to him even though I did not wish anything on him and my last words to him were I wish you the best in life and I hope everything works out for you take care of yourself, and I didnt look back since, and never have wished anything bad on him but he still keeps on getting hit in the face. I wonder if someone else is wishing something negative on him... but all I know is that everytime he did something to me the next day something bad would happen to him and like I said I dont wish anything bad on him only the best. I dont feel you should hold anger in and no matter what someone did you should always forgive them if not for their sake then for yours. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted August 3, 2009 Share Posted August 3, 2009 jeesh, I feel like I'm threadjacking, but honestly, I don't mean to.... In Buddhism, we are taught that The Buddha declared that there are four Unconjecturables - that is, four different things we really should not try to figure out.... One of these, is the complex Laws of Kamma. Nobody can really say for certain why your ex- keeps getting hammered, but it may be a remnant of something he did in a previous life. But see, that's not a certain given...although we hold that re-birth is a Buddha's teaching.... so it's not worth questioning, because there is no reply. The best counsel I could give you, is that - it's not so much what Life deals us, it's how we deal with it and react to it. Link to post Share on other sites
Peanut9330 Posted August 3, 2009 Share Posted August 3, 2009 jeesh, I feel like I'm threadjacking, but honestly, I don't mean to.... In Buddhism, we are taught that The Buddha declared that there are four Unconjecturables - that is, four different things we really should not try to figure out.... One of these, is the complex Laws of Kamma. Nobody can really say for certain why your ex- keeps getting hammered, but it may be a remnant of something he did in a previous life. But see, that's not a certain given...although we hold that re-birth is a Buddha's teaching.... so it's not worth questioning, because there is no reply. The best counsel I could give you, is that - it's not so much what Life deals us, it's how we deal with it and react to it. Your not threadjacking I find what your saying quite interesting and helpful. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted August 3, 2009 Share Posted August 3, 2009 something bad would happen to him even though I did not wish anything on him ... I wonder if someone else is wishing something negative on him... No, it's that he is doing it to himself; creating his own experiences/reality. Karma is about facing the consequences of our OWN actions and inactions, including beliefs and emotions. Nobody has the power to "wish" good or bad Karma onto anyone else -- we're just always doing to/for ourselves Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted August 3, 2009 Share Posted August 3, 2009 As to bad things happening to someone whether they have been wished on them or not.... Karma isnt up to us. We dont dish it out to each other. We dont create other peoples Karma. I have been Karma's recipient , messenger, and vehicle ...but Ive never caused or created someone else's. Link to post Share on other sites
lupa Posted August 3, 2009 Share Posted August 3, 2009 I don't believe in karma as some kind of force that dictates what happens or leads to an outcome, nor do I really believe in the existence of a higher power or deity...I think people's own outlook directly effects their world and what is around them. Case in point: For many years I was very confident in my dealings with women, and quite frankly as I was dating I basically "cheated" on all of them, playing the field. It was wrong, but we weren't married, and without that level of commitment, I always felt like my actions, while ugly, weren't exactly reprehensible. Then, I got married, swore off other women, but changed my whole complexion in terms of my behavior. I got complacent, I think, and probably stopped the whole game and pursuit that had brought energy to previous relationships...the marriage is in the process of fizzling out and dying right now. It just so happened that I ran into an ex girlfriend a week or so ago, and for whatever reason I went and talked to her like the old me -- but not exactly the same person. I'm a lot more mature, and have been looking at this whole situation as an opportunity to learn some things about myself and life. I'm taking this terrible experience of getting a divorce and viewing it as a chance to make myself better...and I think that carries a lot of force behind it, more so than building up a positive or negative energy as a result of thoughts or actions. Except, and here is where it gets weird, trying to maintain a positive outlook and view this as a chance to improve myself...plays right into the definition of what TaraMaiden is telling us karma actually is. Creepy. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted August 4, 2009 Share Posted August 4, 2009 The trick (to take the 'creepiness out of it! ) is to quite literally, watch what you're thinking. As is often said: "All conditions are Mind-wrought." That is to say, everything you FEEL, think say and do, begins in your mind. here's the clincher: If you feel depressed and down about something it's because you began to have depressing negative thoughts in the first place. These are a trigger, releasing the equivalent emotions..... So if you begin to think about how much s/he hurt you, or what s/he did, then your feelings of sorrow, resentment and despondency will arise, almost instantly. If however, you 'watch yourself' thinking these thoughts, and realise you are self-sabotaging, you can stop yourself, and refuse to entertain such thoughts. You can discipline yourself to say: "No! Enough! I'm done, thinking this way! we had something great, and now it's over! I'm moving on, because I'm worth it and I matter!" It takes enormous discipline and practice. And sometimes, habits will prevent you from stopping the thoughts. But that's what it is. habit and self-conditioning..... You can change it, for the better. And by thinking well, you'll speak well, act well and be well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted August 4, 2009 Author Share Posted August 4, 2009 this is some excellent advice. mantras and daily affirmations are a good way to take control Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted August 4, 2009 Author Share Posted August 4, 2009 Releasing statements for the day: You can say outloud: "I release to let other people around me define, who I am and what kind of a person I am." "I release to give my power away to other people (...maybe family members, friends,..or people I imagine) to define who I am and what kind of a person I am." Affirmation: "I allow myself to be who I really am." I am who I am. So it is!" I will post these as often as I can....time to turn this into a thread oif helping instead of bitterness (on my part)...Thanks Tara for pulling me together Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted August 5, 2009 Author Share Posted August 5, 2009 Releasing statements for the day: You can say outloud: "I release the belief that I have to do everything on my own in order to call myself a success, and that if I achieve anything with the support of others, its not considered a REAL success." "I release my need to prove to the people around me, my family and the whole world that I can achieve and handle everything alone by myself." "I release to feel unsupported by the world around me." (...maybe family, friends, colleagues, spouse) "I release to never ask for support." "I release my fear that if I ask for support that I will be rejected." Affirmation: "I choose to ask for support when I need it and to fully allow it in all areas of my life. I open myself to see all the support that is available to me. And I receive it NOW." Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 Don't be who you think you should be. Don't be who they think you should be. Don't even try to be anyone at all. Just Be. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted August 6, 2009 Author Share Posted August 6, 2009 Releasing statements for the day: I release my fear of changes in life. I release my fear to make the changes in my life, in order to live the way I really wish, out of fear it may not work out. Affirmation: I choose to follow my heart and I allow myself now to live my full potential and abilities. Link to post Share on other sites
Bobby2010 Posted August 7, 2009 Share Posted August 7, 2009 no karma for me yet... i'm still waiting for that bitch to get what she deserves.... You and me both. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted August 7, 2009 Author Share Posted August 7, 2009 nothing will change if you are bitter and dont forgive. forgive yourself and forgive them, bless them, love them, forgive them and set them free. you dont need to break NC to forgive and let go. The Universe works in mysterious ways Link to post Share on other sites
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