Trialbyfire Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 Yep. I have someone on ignore now and it feels good whenever I see that they have posted and I don't have to read it when it used to just irritate me. I have a great time with the ignore feature. It's comparable to why every male contact on one of my email accounts, has a pink label and all the female contacts have blue labels, unbeknownst to them! Link to post Share on other sites
TwinkletOes26 Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 Yep. I have someone on ignore now and it feels good whenever I see that they have posted and I don't have to read it when it used to just irritate me. I just left a site that had NO ignore button..but i think the admin liked the drama that went on there so sad when the admin is a 40 something yr old man enjoying the drama of 18-30 yr olds so sad ...so from now on i will not join a forum that has no ignore button it really cuts down on drama Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 I have a great time with the ignore feature. It's comparable to why every male contact on one of my email accounts, has a pink label and all the female contacts have blue labels, unbeknownst to them! ....Until now, that is....... Link to post Share on other sites
In_Repair Posted August 6, 2009 Share Posted August 6, 2009 In my opinion, the sincere and consistent posters who offer advice based on reality are sometimes called mean. This is a support forum where people come with real life problems and get answers based on real life experience. I guess it depends on your definition of "experience". I haven't really paid attention, so I can't speak for the other boards, but go check out the OM/OW board... some of the people on that board who consistently throw in their two cents worth of "reality" have never even been involved in an affair, except maybe as a BS, and they have no real experience in those matters.. at least not from the proper perspective to be giving advice on a *support forum* for OM/OW. I'm not saying that their advice is wrong or that it is never helpful, but it's obviously not a product of any personal real life experiences. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 6, 2009 Share Posted August 6, 2009 I've recently started signing up and contributing to some forums on the internet. Most recently I visited another relationship forum. I was quite surprised by the attacks. Before I start getting comfortable was wanting to know what this forum like? How would you characterize the nature of most the interactions you've had with fellow posters here??? Are there judgmental mean people? How often are you likely to get attacked? Don't want to start posting, with a sincere desire to engage any discussions if I have to worry about people being mean. ALSO P.S. How do you deal with those types when you do come across them??? I think you can read around this entire forum and make that decision for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 6, 2009 Share Posted August 6, 2009 I guess it depends on your definition of "experience". I haven't really paid attention, so I can't speak for the other boards, but go check out the OM/OW board... some of the people on that board who consistently throw in their two cents worth of "reality" have never even been involved in an affair, except maybe as a BS, and they have no real experience in those matters.. at least not from the proper perspective to be giving advice on a *support forum* for OM/OW. I'm not saying that their advice is wrong or that it is never helpful, but it's obviously not a product of any personal real life experiences. I don't think any of the people on these boards are "professional" counselors" nor pretend to be. These are people who give their opinions and what they would do in your situation. I think if you are a BS you are involved in an affair even though you don't want to be. An affair effects the entire family and you gain experience in this area even though you didn't ask for it. You don't know the background of every poster on the OM/OW forum to know whether they have had real life experience in this area or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 6, 2009 Share Posted August 6, 2009 ....Until now, that is....... I'm teasing, well kinda', well maybe not!! Link to post Share on other sites
In_Repair Posted August 7, 2009 Share Posted August 7, 2009 I don't think any of the people on these boards are "professional" counselors" nor pretend to be. These are people who give their opinions and what they would do in your situation. I think if you are a BS you are involved in an affair even though you don't want to be. An affair effects the entire family and you gain experience in this area even though you didn't ask for it. You don't know the background of every poster on the OM/OW forum to know whether they have had real life experience in this area or not. Stillafool, you should have also quoted the post that I was responding to. I have never expected anything from anyone on a message board other than an OPINION... and we all know the old saying about opinions. My comment was a response to the specific wording of a previous post. Posters on the OM/OW board are constantly attacked by the same group of ignorant posters. I'm sorry, but how in the hell does being a BS give you any insight into the life and struggles of an OM/OW? How do I know anything about their personal experiences? Read their posts. All they can do is either harp about how wrong the OM/OW is, or they give over-simplified answers based on nothing but their own sense of right and wrong. This shows a lack of understanding, and fully understanding any situation requires actual experience in that particular arena. Most of the OPs on that board are fully aware that the majority of people do not agree with their lifestyle, so why use forum space to say it... over and over and over and over....? You might also want to check out the thread on the front page of the OM/OW board titled "Has anyone here ever been in a 100% faithful relationship?" I think that thread also sheds some light on the qualifications of our more vocal posters in that section. Link to post Share on other sites
Peanut9330 Posted August 7, 2009 Share Posted August 7, 2009 I think most people on here are quite nice and understanding, but like anywhere else once in a while your going to come across a rude person but don’t let them discourage you some people just hate everyone and everything, but overall since I been here I didn’t have any bad experiences people on LS are the best. Link to post Share on other sites
Shygirl15 Posted August 7, 2009 Share Posted August 7, 2009 I've recently started signing up and contributing to some forums on the internet. Most recently I visited another relationship forum. I was quite surprised by the attacks. Before I start getting comfortable was wanting to know what this forum like? How would you characterize the nature of most the interactions you've had with fellow posters here??? Are there judgmental mean people? How often are you likely to get attacked? Don't want to start posting, with a sincere desire to engage any discussions if I have to worry about people being mean. ALSO P.S. How do you deal with those types when you do come across them??? The bullies around here tend to be very rude to newbies so no surprise there. I think some people are simply miserable with their lives so pay no attention to those. Just hang in there because in the end it's not all that terrible plus there are some really nice posters (both newbies and longtimers) here whom you can learn a thing or two from. Once you understand who is who and what means what you'll be good to go .. Link to post Share on other sites
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