Saxis Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 Girls probably would.... Women might be a different story. Link to post Share on other sites
smile23 Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 I don't understand the point of this post? You're asking for opinions in regards to your attractiveness, yet you refuse to post a picture. Also, it is evident that you already think the world of yourself based on your first post, so it seems to me as though you are just looking for attention and for people to say, "wow I would love to date a man like that!" As others have said, if you're happy with yourself, does it really matter what others think? Link to post Share on other sites
Author pelleblue Posted August 5, 2009 Author Share Posted August 5, 2009 I don't understand the point of this post? You're asking for opinions in regards to your attractiveness, yet you refuse to post a picture. Also, it is evident that you already think the world of yourself based on your first post, so it seems to me as though you are just looking for attention and for people to say, "wow I would love to date a man like that!" As others have said, if you're happy with yourself, does it really matter what others think? Since no one says they're the least bit attracted to me on any level, I guess that tells me all I need to know. A picture wouldn't change anyone's mind I'm sure. Though my mom is proud, I guess my dog's opinion of me is closer to what most women think since she could care less. I thought someday success would impress women. Turns out that's not true judging by the brutal responses of this thread. Not that I need the boost in confidence or anything. Just checking the pulse of the shifting goal posts of what modern women want today. I'll be sure to take everyone's sincere advice and criticism to heart. Thank you for that. Have a great day! Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Drawn Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 Since no one says they're the least bit attracted to me on any level, I guess that tells me all I need to know. A picture wouldn't change anyone's mind I'm sure. Though my mom is proud, I guess my dog's opinion of me is closer to what most women think since she could care less. I thought someday success would impress women. Turns out that's not true judging by the brutal responses of this thread. Not that I need the boost in confidence or anything. Just checking the pulse of the shifting goal posts of what modern women want today. I'll be sure to take everyone's sincere advice and criticism to heart. Thank you for that. Have a great day! 3 of your girlfriends have asked you to marry you You're confident and optimisitc But you're talking about your mom, your dog, and asking what modern women want because no-one is attracted to you? Seriously, do you realise that none of us can see you behind that screen? Tell you what, why don't you ditch the handle, create a new one then come back, be honest and ask advice about whatever your real problem is. You don't need to be "proud" on an internet forum, no-one cares/ Link to post Share on other sites
Author pelleblue Posted August 5, 2009 Author Share Posted August 5, 2009 3 of your girlfriends have asked you to marry you You're confident and optimisitc But you're talking about your mom, your dog, and asking what modern women want because no-one is attracted to you? Seriously, do you realise that none of us can see you behind that screen? Tell you what, why don't you ditch the handle, create a new one then come back, be honest and ask advice about whatever your real problem is. You don't need to be "proud" on an internet forum, no-one cares/ Just for the record, I said it seems that no one "on this forum" thinks I'm attractive. That's clearly not true in real life. Since this is the "in search of..." thread here at Loveshack, I thought I'd see what response I got in my "search". Turns out this whimsical search has turned into a dead end thread. I appreciate your input and will take your advice into consideration. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted August 5, 2009 Share Posted August 5, 2009 My analysis : You are a BORE and likely not that attractive.. What have you DONE for people , good tasks and deeds ? Don't tell me what you have and what you are...show me what you have done for those less fortunate ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author pelleblue Posted August 6, 2009 Author Share Posted August 6, 2009 My analysis : You are a BORE and likely not that attractive.. What have you DONE for people , good tasks and deeds ? Don't tell me what you have and what you are...show me what you have done for those less fortunate ? Yeah, I'm a bore. You got me. I have no way with words and no one wants me. Jeez, you like have esp or something! Look out Kreskin! BTW, I'm REAL big on saving the environment and practice what I preach. I've built homeless shelters, I design ONLY green buildings, done lots of low-income affordable housing, I'm an assistant coach for my nephew's soccer team and adopted my pets from the Humane Society....oh wait, that's not what you want to hear...ok, I sit on my big fat butt all day and order extra spicy Chinese take-out so I don't have to drive. I live in the basement of my Mom's brothel and pretend the banging on the floor above are people practicing the tango. Whew! That was such a relief to get off my chest. There's salvation in honesty!! I'm sure that sounded boring...please carry on with your otherwise exciting day. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted August 6, 2009 Share Posted August 6, 2009 I think you sound like a great guy: You have an interesting profession which it seems you enjoy You have been college educated (see profession) Your Mom is proud of you You have a dog You do some volunteer work You self reflect You have relationship experience You have achieved some level of financial success You speak two languages You are health conscious You're a kids soccer coach Really, it all looks good on paper - enough so that even if you were below average looking in some way - it shouldnt matter much. Not that you are, I am just agreeing with you that with all that going for you, looks should not be that big a part of attractive. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted August 6, 2009 Share Posted August 6, 2009 Yeah, I'm a bore. You got me. I have no way with words and no one wants me. Jeez, you like have esp or something! Look out Kreskin! BTW, I'm REAL big on saving the environment and practice what I preach. I've built homeless shelters, I design ONLY green buildings, done lots of low-income affordable housing, I'm an assistant coach for my nephew's soccer team and adopted my pets from the Humane Society....oh wait, that's not what you want to hear...ok, I sit on my big fat butt all day and order extra spicy Chinese take-out so I don't have to drive. I live in the basement of my Mom's brothel and pretend the banging on the floor above are people practicing the tango. Whew! That was such a relief to get off my chest. There's salvation in honesty!! I'm sure that sounded boring...please carry on with your otherwise exciting day. WHY didn't you just post a picture ? Instead you wrote a huge commentary about all that you have. By posting that , the only girls you will get will be those that CARE about all that. Why didn't you post that first about yourself ? Me thinks you have a problem getting girls ... Why don't you get off your soap box and tell us about your successful relationships you have had that lasted more than an hour... You know ," hey ladies , here is a pic of me ...how do you rate me ? " See how EASY that was ..? Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted August 6, 2009 Share Posted August 6, 2009 me thinks that if you go on a website and post about how you Give to the poor, save babies and puppies from death, and you can bech press over 300lbs and that your poop smells like fresh apple pies even if it is absolutly honest to god truth people are going to mess with you on the internet. So maybe this guy is the greatest guy in the world, as far as I'm concerned I'm not going to post on his thread about how I wish I were great like him and ladies must be throwing themselves at you... So do the women constantly throw themselves at you, or is it hard to get a women when you can give her an orgasm simply by looking at her? On the flip side I don't have many of your qualities in fact lately in life I've been a real loser and low and behold Girls do find me attractive. Not all girls find me attractive maybe a more accurate statement would be most girls don't find me attractive... But hey I have a Beautiful GF... So what can we learn from this... well Girls find all types attractive and I'm sure girls will find you attractive because you are so perfect please post about how girls find you so attractive Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted August 6, 2009 Share Posted August 6, 2009 What * I * want to know is : Why do you post this huge monolouge about yourself to us strangers ?? What are you hoping to get out of this ? : "Oh gee you sound fantastic ! ( ? ) Don't you already know if you are fantastic or not ? Like I said , we have had posters who put up their picture and had us rate it , mine is on my profile btw, but I dont need validating like a parking ticket at a hotel... You either have it or you dont . If you dont have it and want to get it STOP artifically pumping yourself up and show your TRUE side. A real BIG turnoff when a guy spouts all about himself... Tell us about your friends and family.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pelleblue Posted August 6, 2009 Author Share Posted August 6, 2009 What * I * want to know is : Why do you post this huge monolouge about yourself to us strangers ?? What are you hoping to get out of this ? : "Oh gee you sound fantastic ! ( ? ) Don't you already know if you are fantastic or not ? Like I said , we have had posters who put up their picture and had us rate it , mine is on my profile btw, but I dont need validating like a parking ticket at a hotel... You either have it or you dont . If you dont have it and want to get it STOP artifically pumping yourself up and show your TRUE side. A real BIG turnoff when a guy spouts all about himself... Tell us about your friends and family.. I already mentioned them... Everyone here has great advice. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Chubbi Posted August 8, 2009 Share Posted August 8, 2009 Pelle, you say you know people very well but yet, you were surprised by how people recieved you. Did you really think that posting an essay about your accomplishments would get you praise from anyone but your Mom?? You can't know people well enough at all. You should get out more. I bet you're the only child- am I right? Link to post Share on other sites
Devil Inside Posted August 8, 2009 Share Posted August 8, 2009 Pelle...bro..I know the peeps in here have been harsh. Let me clue you in: the number one killer of attractiveness is insecurity. Asking for others to comment on your resume just doesn't paint the picture of a man that believes he is of high value. If you don't think that, why should any woman? Link to post Share on other sites
caduceus Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 To love oneself is a virtue. However, there is a fine line between a healthy love of self and narcissism, just as there is a fine line between a sense of accomplishment and outright vanity, or confidence and arrogance, self worth and Ego. No one is attracted to praise seeking psychophants, with an over-inflated sense of self. Your accomplishments will be better recieved by others when delivered with a touch of humility. Especially women. Link to post Share on other sites
EarthGirl Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 Pelle...bro..I know the peeps in here have been harsh. Let me clue you in: the number one killer of attractiveness is insecurity. Asking for others to comment on your resume just doesn't paint the picture of a man that believes he is of high value. If you don't think that, why should any woman? actually I find insecurity a huge turn on. I like a shy boy who is a little unsure of himself. It's kinda sexy. I was saying in another thread...there is something wrong with us as humans if we cannot find worth in another human being simply because they don't know the worth of themselves. There is worth there, wether ANYbody acknowledges it or not. And the truth is as babies we NEED the validation of our parents and our other caregivers that love us in order to know our worth..that's just the way we work. AND the reality is no matter how hard we try or how many times we look in the mirror and say (what was that old SNL thing?) "I LIKE MYSELF"... even as adults we STILL need validation from others...on a level that we cannot access by ourselves no matter how we spiritually awaken ourselves or whatever. I believe we can actually will ourselves into to getting ALMOST all the way there, and vastly improving our self esteem, and our potential for happiness in a deep way. And it's really sad that so many people don't find whatever it is for them that is in the world that they can use to help them get to that place, wether it is religion or art, or just some epiphany they finally have. It's sad that it takes so much and so long sometimes just for people to realize that they are supercool, instead of spending every day of themselves with their head hanging down in shame. It's sad because maybe it doesn't have to be that hard, and yet it was and is and will be for some. Because we can't always count on the fact that anyone will ever love us...as sad as that is, or that we will be treated well by the people we love. And there's great power inside each one of us that we can use all on our own. And yet, I believe, that there is a part of us that still needs validation from others we respect to reach our full potential. And I don't think that is something to be ashamed of. We're not weak, it's natural. Link to post Share on other sites
EarthGirl Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 I also want to add on to these thoughts that not all of us get as much validation as babies and young children, which is detrimental to our development of our very brains and our self esteem, and sometimes the damage is irreversible. Nevertheless we will go looking for validation even though it's not kosher in our society to do that as adults. It can get us in to trouble for sure..but theres nothing to say that it's exactly wrong or unattractive. Link to post Share on other sites
EarthGirl Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 What * I * want to know is : Why do you post this huge monolouge about yourself to us strangers ?? What are you hoping to get out of this ? : "Oh gee you sound fantastic ! ( ? ) Don't you already know if you are fantastic or not ? Like I said , we have had posters who put up their picture and had us rate it , mine is on my profile btw, but I dont need validating like a parking ticket at a hotel... You either have it or you dont . If you dont have it and want to get it STOP artifically pumping yourself up and show your TRUE side. A real BIG turnoff when a guy spouts all about himself... Tell us about your friends and family.. I think that's a great idea Mary. I think all of us should go up to people and tell them they are fantastic more often. p.s. I have a sneaky suspicion that a lot of Pelles posts are somewhat satirical and he should not be taken too seriously. And anyway, Mary, what are you doing for the less fortunate...well maybe Pelle is a successful architecture and quite fortunate, but it's not like you are doing him a big favor by being so harsh. It makes me wonder how well you treat the less fortunate anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 I think that's a great idea Mary. I think all of us should go up to people and tell them they are fantastic more often. p.s. I have a sneaky suspicion that a lot of Pelles posts are somewhat satirical and he should not be taken too seriously. And anyway, Mary, what are you doing for the less fortunate...well maybe Pelle is a successful architecture and quite fortunate, but it's not like you are doing him a big favor by being so harsh. It makes me wonder how well you treat the less fortunate anyway. Lets see what have I done for the misfortunate lately. I gave a free TV to a 21 year old struggling student yesterday along with those CD albums and a Laundry Basket. 2 days ago I gave away free a lighted Santa and a Gingerbread house to a nice lady. I gave away 5 days ago a very comfortable outdoor chair and a compact stereo system. I also gave alot of price breaks on things I sold on Craigs List . ALOT ! lol..like dirt cheap prices for people. I have paid in line in front of me for an elderly ladys purchase. That is FUN ! The look on their faces is priceless. I bought my friend Dinner a week ago . My friend in turn bought me dinner. Need I mention I am jobless for over 30 days .?? Was laid off. Giving never stops . Kindness never tires... I don't do these things for anything back. But I feel I am blessed Link to post Share on other sites
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