can you interprete this guy for me? !!

[trueluV]

a guys perspective on this would be greatly appreciated.

 

so, two weeks ago he asks me if i want to have dinner with him(mutual friend set us up), so we decide to meet up. I had high expectations of him as i always heard about him from my friend, but when i first saw him he wasn't what i expected (appearance-wise) so i just kept pretty "cool"(not rude though-just pretty quiet) during dinner. i was doing most of the listening and he was so into telling me about his work (he is so successful). however he didn't ask me many personal questions, which i think are signs when guys are interested in girls. and later when we were parting he hugged me and said 'i hope to see you again soon'.

(i thought we'd just part , so this was a bit of a surprise to me)

 

we exchanged a few emails during that week and he invited me over to his place that weekend (a week later from the first date), and told me his friend (the one who set us up) will be there also. I thought he would be interesting to know, so i go there .

and this time i see him, i feel the chemistry! he has the most wonderful personality i could imagine (i thought no wonder he is so successful in a young age) and i just started falling for him right there.

we had a great time talking non-stop, drinking, laughing a lot.

 

so my question is: there was absolutely no flirting or touching, but we had a great time.

also, he texts me back right away, and replies to my emails within a day. but still there is no "obvioius signs".

i think he is just being very polite, or wants to be friends, or maybe more-i have no idea. but i want him more than friends!

oh,i'd have to tell you we are both asians, (means not so opened to these physical things) in late 20's working crazy hours.

 

do you have any idea how he is thinking about me?

i can give you more clues if those are needed..

 

i'm really falling for this guy now so i don't want to ruin things up by rushing things or scaring him off by making flirty moves.

 

thanks a lot for reading this long post!

[pelleblue]

Guys are shy sometimes. Take the pressure off him and give him an harmless flirt, like touch his shoulder while you talk or ask to "read" his palm. I predict that once you touch each other the sparks will ignite a flame and you'll be irresistible! Go for it girl!! If he responds coyly, don't make it into anything and just have fun. Relax and be yourself. Don't make a big deal out of it. Guys are attracted to comfortable and confident girls.

[Crusoe]

Some fellas are shy, some are also just plain useless at reading the signs and little flirts and can simply think you are a friendly tactile person instead of understanding you are intersted in them ( I have made that mistake many a time in my youth).

 

Why not ask him out on a date and use the word date, everybody understands that word means more than meeting just as friends. Good luck.

[trueluV]

thanks for your sincere responses.

 

but don't you think unless he is interested in me,i can back him off by making a move?

also,he doesn't seem like a shy type-he's outgoing...

 

i am just afraid of blowing it off.. should i be safe by taking it slow...?

 

so lost..so far i'm not so confident whether he's interested in me or not.

[Mariat]

I may understand him and think he's just being polite and doesn't want you think something bad of him...

[monkey00]

I say let things go at its current pace. Maybe he doesn't want to screw things up by moving (what he thinks is) fast with you. I think it would be fine if you initiated or suggested some date ideas also. But it's also fine to let him take the lead if that's what you want.

 

Though he sounds really shy, maybe you can provide some encouragement on your part. When you guys go on a date, tell him you had a good time after. Initiating physical contact while emphasizing it is good also.