Is being skinny/having very low muscle mass the single biggest turn off to women?

[joseffrost]

I'm 6ft 3 and weigh just under 170 pounds (12 stone) - but I tend to dress 'indie' (skinny jeans, et al) and go for 'indie' girls, so it's never done me any harm.

 

Just get some tight jeans, a feathered haircut and some winkle-pickers and get down to Camden Town on a Friday night, you won't have any trouble then...

[Panopticon]

Do you wear skinny jeans? Don't put on baggy clothes- stick on some cool, hip, tight skinny jeans and try to look like the Jonas Brothers.

 

I hope that was a joke.

 

Anyway, i'm really trying to gain weight now. Some people are suited to being skinny, but i'm definitely not. Clothes don't even fit me properly.

[Not the love ace]

That's what i figured. Well, that's me screwed then.

 

I'm also the quiet, shy type so that makes it even more difficult for me.

 

 

Work and out. Workout, exercise dude you're not that helpless.

[Art_Critic]

Agree with Fay too...

 

One thing to remember is that no matter how skinny you are when you are young, you will put on weight each year on into your 40's as your metabolism slows down.

So..

You won't be skinny your whole life..

 

I don't think I have ever posted this info before but I was skinny when I was young..

 

When I graduated from high school I was 114 lbs and 5'9"... Skinny

28" waist..

28 years later I'm 155 lbs and still 5'9" but I have a 31" waist .. I had a 29 inch waist until I was almost 35

 

I have always eaten what I wanted to eat and never had to portion count until my 40's.. even now at 46 I still eat what I want and pound twice as many calories as most normal people do and don't gain any weight.

 

So count your blessings...

 

It's your personality that counts..and I read earlier form another poster about dressing so as to not enhance your thinness.. good idea..

 

I never had any problems dating.. women generally like being around someone thinner as being overweight counts against you worse.

 

Women all like a well dressed man.. so maybe you could put some effort into your dress and make sure your hot..but thin.

[BeautifulBrunette]

My boyfriend is 5'11" and just under 160lbs...I LOVE IT!

[HappyAgain]

People who've listed there stats here are just slim to my view. Now being 6'6" and 160lbs is skinny...emancipated actually.

[LePalsy]

I'm about 6'0 and 148lbs, still kinda thin but I used to be like 132 and I look much better now every improvement in your self image counts.

Start weight lifting and eating more, try different clothes until you find ones that fit, they don't need to be skinny type clothing, but jeans for example shouldn't be too large from the knee down, clothes make you look much better when they follow your natural body shape.

[manaja]

I was 10 and a alf stone 7 years ago and 5ft 10inchs, and for four years I dated a woman who looked like the model caprice, im no oil painting, but she loved me, she was probably up to now the best girlfriend ive ever had, not just because of her looks her personality too, I ened the relationship 3yrs ago , sometimes regretfully , she has since moved on and is with someone else, I did a couple of course using steroids to enhance my physique and she thinks now I look ridiculous...lol..were all different !

[sunshinegirl]

Rather than focusing on manipulating your outer appearance to attract more women, I'd suggest you work at least as hard on developing more self-confidence.

 

A self-confident man is extremely attractive to women. Not cocky, not narcissistic, but self-confident. A man who believes in himself, his smarts, his abilities, his accomplishments, his goals, his ability to treat a woman well....now THAT'S a guy that women want to get with.

[dk_in_mn]

I was the same way, I am 6'2" and was 165. I could gain weight to save my life no matter how hard I tried.

 

First thing I did was quit smoking and started taking better care of myself, including the food I ate. I now average about 3,500 calories a day plus have used the P90X workout program. I have already put on 15+ pounds.

 

The main key, eat healthy and workout 3-4 days a week. You'll get there! It just takes that extra step on your part!

 

Good luck!

[EarthGirl]

Actually I prefer skinny guys..it's a turn on for me. maybe I'm weird I don't know..but I like even from really skinny with not much muscles at all to average with a little meat, like small muscles, and a little bit of fat isn't a turn off either..just not very overweight..but my ideal ideal is lean muscles and thin but not toothpick thin...I like just a little something to hang onto to, it's really romantic and hot if you have a guy that you feel you can really sink into a hug and he'll just enfold you in his arms. but I do prefer a certain lean body type in guys. and being as I don't like guys super tall, and I am a short girl (I like guys to be about average height, a few inches taller than me of course, but not 6 ft, even though I hear the statistics are that most women prefer tall men), and curvy, it's quite likely that even at my ideal body weight I may weight as much or even a little more as my eventual mate. That doesn't bother me. but I am, was never, and will never be into beefcake guys. it totally turns me off a guy with huge chest muscles...and especially those guys that work out so much they actually walk different, kind of like a gorilla walks...must be something in the way they've developed their leg muscles...gross.

[pricillia]

If the guy is skinnier than the girl, the girl ends up feeling fat.

 

This can be true in some cases, however if the girl is confident with herself and the guy is skinner then there should not be a problem, if she is attracted to him then they are good to go.

[kizik]

Now being 6'6" and 160lbs is skinny...emancipated actually.

 

Or even emaciated.

[pricillia]

Just a general topic. In my experience it certainly doesn't help a guys case.

 

Is the original poster attractive in some way.. good personality, clean cut, good dresser talented or have a interested in something that is unique or well you see where I am going

 

I would rather have skinny then smelly you know takes showers regularly, does laundry cleans under fingernails, shaves...

 

There is an extreme to everything, I would rather have a lean man then professional body builder that have extreme muscles...

[thegoodlife]

I know many many girls who prefer skinny guys, rather than buffed up or overweight guys.

[Sandita]

Just a general topic. In my experience it certainly doesn't help a guys case.

 

Hmmm well personally I like a guy to be rather strong and have muscles... But I know girls who are really into skinny guys... So I think it depends on the girl

[HappyAgain]

Or even emaciated.

 

 

Can you tell how happy I am to be free from him with that Freudian slip?!?

[Brady_to_Moss]

I and 6'0 and skinny as well but workout every other day now and i am getting stronger and somewhat bigger. Women don't like skinny in my experiance as well.

[my_new_haircut]

girls dont give a **** about your weight man. they are attracted to guys who are secure with themselves

[Yukikazi]

I will agree on the chicks prefer slimmer to fatter..

 

I got off my ass and went to eh gym and dropped 50lbs.. Soon after that.. had a younger girl hookup for a few days while on vacation (that was a first)

Had another girl flirt with me till I asked her out and we started dating..

 

Never did or woulda happened when I was overweight.. mind you I'm not in top shape yet.. still working on the remaining excess.. went from 5'11 @ 195 and am now at 145 give or take 2.. working out 5-6 days a week doin cardio and occasional lifting..I;'m stronger and have more lean muscle but still got a bit of a fat coating to eliminate (but damn is it difficult).

 

My personal problem is while I look great now clothed.. not so muhc when I'm not.. still trying to get over the years of being overweight.. I know I'm not overweight.. just not defined enough.

 

In short.. overweight.. not a second look

Currently in the lower weight limits for my height... had 2 girls come onto me...

[JohnP82]

Ehh, I don't think it matters too much. I'm skinny and have always been. No real problems getting women.

[jahidas]

If the boy is cute, I don't think it matters as much. I personally like thicker guys because I feel protected.