Dreamgirl03 Posted November 12, 2003 Share Posted November 12, 2003 I am in a relationship and i love the guy very much. I have told him I love him, and he knows how I feel about things. But, every time i have a few *guy* friends over and we all hang out, he acts different. He is very quiet, and he hardly says 2 words as he is leaving when he goes home. He is acting as if he getting jealous, but will never admit it. He says he doesnt care if I talk to guys and all that..but when I have alot of guys over, he acts as if he is upset or something is wrong, but when i ask, he says everything is fine and he doesnt care. Also, I am happy and everything but do get sepressed every now and then..he knows it. He says he loves me and cares about me and doesnt want to lose me, but he can be kinof abusive to me sometimes. A little hitting on the shoulder or something every now and then is ok, but he hits me way to hard, way to much. He practically beats me to death half the time..then rips half my hair out of my scalp. The more I ask and tell him to stop, the more he does. I dont know what to do..I love him and everything, and i dont want to leave. I can tell he cares every time i have the guys around, when he acts like its hurting him not to say anything. But I just wish he wouldnt be so rough..i dont know what to do. Is is jealousy that he is too proud to admit to? Link to post Share on other sites
ArdeaCandidissima Posted November 12, 2003 Share Posted November 12, 2003 Forget the other guys and whether he cares. What you should be worried about is: A little hitting on the shoulder or something every now and then is ok, but he hits me way to hard, way to much. He practically beats me to death half the time..then rips half my hair out of my scalp. We don't want you to be beaten to death, or have your hair ripped out, or be strangled. Call a battered women's shelter and ask for help in getting free. The most dangerous time is when you are planning to leave but have not yet done so. Write again for more help. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted November 12, 2003 Share Posted November 12, 2003 Is is jealousy that he is too proud to admit to? NO. This is called 'abuse'. No matter how much you love him, you must leave this person. He will continue to hurt you, and the beatings will get worse. Yes, there may be things you love about them, but none of them can outweigh this aspect of his personality. Save your life and leave and do it quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
lostforwords Posted November 12, 2003 Share Posted November 12, 2003 I can tell he cares every time i have the guys around, when he acts like its hurting him not to say anything. But I just wish he wouldnt be so rough..i dont know what to do. Is is jealousy that he is too proud to admit to? First he may care for you, however he has issues and problems he needs to seek professional help from an outside source as he is not dealing with his problems the way a "normal" person would..... hes an abuser!!! Second I wouldnt be concerned at all as to whether he is too proud to admit hes jealous.... honey, that will be the last thing your gonna think of if he makes you do a face plant or smashes your head through the wall trust me.... its not your problem at all whether hes jealous like i said earlier.... he has issues he needs to deal with but on a professional level. it will NOT get any better.... unless he seeks help. I would leave immediately to a safe place and possibly seek counselling yourself because i honestly think you feel its ok for him to treat you like this.... and its not.... know one ever deserves to be treated like this.... however a lot of women do blame themselves and its not thier/your fault. Link to post Share on other sites
toots307 Posted November 12, 2003 Share Posted November 12, 2003 My gosh, If he is roughing you up you need to get out and he needs to get help. His jealousy of you and other guys sounds to me like a guilty conscience. A little jealousy is healthy and normal to me but if he is always seemingly upset when you are around guys then there is something very wrong. I hope you will find the strength to get out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dreamgirl03 Posted November 12, 2003 Author Share Posted November 12, 2003 I know i need to get out..and he is getting better about not hitting me and stuff..so something must be working. But Thanks for the advice guys Link to post Share on other sites
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