How about third, fourth, and fifth chances? That's what I keep giving him.

[Candygirl925]

[color=violet]I posted the following letter to my "boyfriend" on Craig's List and thought I would copy it here rather than go into all the details all over again. It pretty much sums up my relationship. I got a bunch of angry responses from people telling me how stupid I am, etc. I realize it's a bad situation, but, geesh. They were harsh! I've edited it a bit to make it a little more *polite* CL is pretty much a free for all so all language is acceptable.[/color]

 

Dear Clyde:

 

I knew when you left for L.A. you'd forget all about the fact that it's been one month since I "officially" became your girlfriend (although the jury's still out on that issue). Hell, if your a-- was home I'm sure you would've forgotten anyway. But at least then, MAYBE, you would've called me and given me the opportunity to remind you. What did I give you that damn cell phone for, anyway??? 'Cause your broke a-- couldn't buy one for yourself and I got tired of waiting for you to find 50 cents and a pay phone to call me. It sure wasn't for you to be calling your so-called "ex" girlfriend, (more commonly referred to by you as the "B---"), 5-10 times a day. If she's such a b--- why do you always call her right after you get off the phone with me? Yeah I check your calls, I'm paying for that s--- so I think I have the right. To top it off you tell me not to text message you on the phone I BOUGHT because she'll see it. So what?!?!?! If you're supposedly "in love" with me, not her, why do you care? Because you're a lying b---, that's why!

 

Tomorrow will be the one month anniversary of the first time we had sex...remember that? How romantic it was. I thought we were at least going to go out somewhere too, but no, we just did it in your car and then you dumped me in the park to walk home. In the dark. All because I started questioning you about why you had to go home so soon. Well, I know now, right? Didn't she notice the glitter and perfume all over you? Well, you ARE the best liar I've ever seen in my life so I'm sure you came up with a good one for that too. When she found my number did you tell her I'm just some psycho chick who wont leave you alone? That's your standard story, right?

 

What is it about me? Why couldn't you have just kept walking past me that day? You said you had just gotten out of a relationship. First words out of your mouth, and they were lies. Why did you have to feed me all the BS about love, marriage, having babies together?? I fought it so hard in the beginning. You just kept chasing me until I wanted everything you said to be true. You convinced me then that I was something special to you - now you just pull me along by the skirt like some kind of ragdoll. You tell me what to say, what to wear, how to act. You said you just need to know that I'm on your side, how many times do I have to prove that I am? You used to call me your babydoll, your sunshine girl...your girlfriend. Now I'm your little sl*t, your servicer, and all those other wonderful pet names that hurt me so bad these days. But I said I wasn't going anywhere, no matter what, and I'm not going to be a liar too.

 

You say you love me. Sometimes I believe that still. Like when you hold my hand while we're riding through the city. When you try so hard to make me laugh and look so disappointed when all I can do is cry. When you look me in the eye and tell me not to go. I heard it in your voice when I told you it was over for good this time. I saw it in your eyes while you were pacing the room, searching for the right words. You ended up just silently watching me put on my makeup in the bathroom mirror, and I saw it then too. I try not to think about how only hours before you told me not to get too attached, and how you said it again the next day. Why do you do that to me? Maybe it's really you telling yourself not to get too attached. Was it true when you said the way you feel about me makes you nervous? I told you I'm not going anywhere. Believe that. If I was, I would've been long gone when the truth started coming out about you and her. Yeah I tried to walk away...but it took me less than 10 minutes to come back. Because I love you. I can't explain why to anyone, especially when they see how bad you hurt me. I just do.

 

Baby, I know you hurt too, there is so much pain inside you, but you try to hide it. I can't leave you like that. Maybe she doesn't see it or doesn't care...but I do. You make it so hard to love you sometimes but we'll make it. No matter what obstacles are in our path, we'll make it through. You said that too, and I believe it. Happy Anniversary...I Love You!!!

 

~*~ XOXOXO ~*~

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-Bonnie

[Arabess]

Well Candy.....the first 3 paragraphs were QUITE the MEANIE MAIL and almost had be laughing. Then you CAVED......just like we all do till we get to a place where we simply refuse to take it anymore. Love is supposed to make you happy....not make you feel used and abused.

 

I'm not saying he didn't mean everything he ever said to you about the future.....I'm just thinking he's treating you a little shabby now. Maybe you need to take some time away from the relationship and really evaluate if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who dumps you off in a park after sex. DAMN....that's just CRUEL!!!

[quankanne]

seems to me there'd be more productivity in banging your head against a brick wall than there would be in staying with this guy. He's using you ... and that's his decision. Putting up with that kind of BS isn't worth wasting your time. Unless you plan to be miserable and in love.

 

dump his sorry butt. There are so many more fish in the sea, and not all of them bite when you catch them!

[ArdeaCandidissima]

...crawling female with "USE ME AND ABUSE ME" written all over her forehead in her own tears.

 

Especially one who appears to be intelligent and articulate.

 

Lies, cheats, calls you a slut, messes with your head with his love talk, dumps you in the PARK to walk home after banging you in his car, and it's AFTER DARK??? I hope he didn't forget to kick you in the a** so you sprawled in the gutter while he peeled away back home to his lucky lady. Even $20 crack whores get treated better than that.

 

Stop loving him, PLEASE get clean from him, I can't stand reading many more of these rubber-stamp "why does he use me when I love him so" stories.

 

Sheesh, even my cr*ppy marriage is starting to look pretty good next to all this.

 

Sob.

[Candygirl925]

Yes, everything posted in reply is true. I can't even believe my own stupidity sometimes. But, in all fairness, I was the one who got out of the car after we started fighting and he did tell me to get back in (once) before leaving. Excuses, excuses, I know. Nevertheless, since he had been gone for a week I actually started to realize that I wouldn't die without him being around. I started feeling pretty good for once in the last few weeks. Then today he called, said he loved me, and, well....