araven Posted August 7, 2009 Share Posted August 7, 2009 'My guy' has enough money to come visit me now. If you read my other thread you know he's not really my guy, but it's a long story and I don't feel like re-explaining it here lol. I moved back in with my parents this year because I was laid off from my job due to the economy. I don't have a place for him to stay here. The only option would be a hotel but those are very expensive. I suppose if he really wanted to meet me he'd just have to save up for money, but we're kinda running out of time because the only vacation time I ever have is in December. I've offered to go over there, but he said he wants to come over here and meet my family and my friends (yikes!). He asked me to ask my parents to let him stay at our house. For some odd reason he thinks it's perfectly acceptable thing for me to ask my parents. I think he doesn't understand how different my parents are from his. I did mention to my stepdad about him staying here and he seemed uncomfortable with the idea and said, "I don't know about that. Are you willing to talk to your mom and see how she feels about it?" ech... he knows i hate talking to my mom about this stuff. What should I do? Should I just go over there? Everytime I talk to someone about the two of us meeting each other, they say he should come here because he's the guy. Yet when I ask where he would stay if he came here, they don't have an answer. It's very frustrating. Link to post Share on other sites
Thornton Posted August 7, 2009 Share Posted August 7, 2009 I don't see why you can't go to his place, as long as people know where you are and you check in with them at set times so they know you're safe. If your parents don't want you going to stay with him, then perhaps they should compromise a little and allow him to stay with you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author araven Posted August 7, 2009 Author Share Posted August 7, 2009 I don't see why you can't go to his place, as long as people know where you are and you check in with them at set times so they know you're safe. If your parents don't want you going to stay with him, then perhaps they should compromise a little and allow him to stay with you? I suppose I could get my mom to agree for him to stay here if I told her the alternative was me going there. The problem with that is it would be a reluctant 'yes', and I don't like putting my mom in uncomfortable positions. Heck, I don't even know if I'm comfortable with having him stay here. It'd be awkward for me with my parents around. o.O Link to post Share on other sites
4givrnt4gtr Posted August 7, 2009 Share Posted August 7, 2009 Im kinda in the same position as your boyfriend. I will be visiting him for a few days and though at first i thought i could just easily stay with him and his mom I realized it makes her uncomfortable. Yet, i love my boy, a lot, and thats not gonna stop me from coming. So i told him i may have to come for less time and just stay in a hotel. (cut my trip from 5 days to 3). Hey, its worth it for me to pay the hotel. My point is, if he is considerate at all he shouldnt push you to do something that makes you or your family uncomfortable. Now, if he has the money for a hotel, even if its a 60 bucks per night hotel, then why doesnt he do that? Fortunately for me I think my bf either talked to his mom or something cuz he offered that i stayed at his house instead. Again, consideration is key. I know is not the best arrangement so I agreed to stay two nights and then rent out a room in a hotel. Win win situation. Compromise is great Why dont you want to tell your mom about it? are you guys pretty young?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author araven Posted August 7, 2009 Author Share Posted August 7, 2009 Im kinda in the same position as your boyfriend. I will be visiting him for a few days and though at first i thought i could just easily stay with him and his mom I realized it makes her uncomfortable. Yet, i love my boy, a lot, and thats not gonna stop me from coming. So i told him i may have to come for less time and just stay in a hotel. (cut my trip from 5 days to 3). Hey, its worth it for me to pay the hotel. My point is, if he is considerate at all he shouldnt push you to do something that makes you or your family uncomfortable. Now, if he has the money for a hotel, even if its a 60 bucks per night hotel, then why doesnt he do that? Fortunately for me I think my bf either talked to his mom or something cuz he offered that i stayed at his house instead. Again, consideration is key. I know is not the best arrangement so I agreed to stay two nights and then rent out a room in a hotel. Win win situation. Compromise is great Why dont you want to tell your mom about it? are you guys pretty young?? So I talked to him just a little while ago, and I told him that asking my mom if he can stay here is something I'm not comfortable doing. I could probably persuade her to let him stay here, but it's not something she would be comfortable with so I'm just not comfortable asking such a thing. He's not trying to push it. We're trying to think of other options now that I've told him. He plans to stay for 2 weeks so a hotel would be very expensive. He's already paying ~$1000 for the airplane ticket. My mom is just not someone I feel comfortable talking to about this stuff. We're not close. I'm 23 and he's 20. Link to post Share on other sites
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