bolso4 Posted August 7, 2009 Share Posted August 7, 2009 I always had been respected in my 3 year relationship (were our first, college sweethearts), but my ego took a big hit lately when I started to contact her ....as a friend. (only to be rejected by her, saying she wasnt ready to see me or talk for awhile) My contact history follows: 1- See how she's doing on email....led to MSN fight. 2- I said horrible things (like her), and i apologized in an email and wished her luck. 3- found out about a guy...got jealous....and texted her a week later to offer friendship. (This obviously bothered her, but explained she wasnt ready to talk to me until she was ready again.) 4- email next day, explaining shortly that she was a good friend of mine, and I just wanted to wish her luck in her trip.....nothing else. **We were very tight, so id like to be friends with her in 1-2 years. and yet i feel she's always feel condescending to me.....as if "Oh hey, there's that pitiful little boy i dumped and who wanted to contact me/wish me well" Link to post Share on other sites
BackonTrack2 Posted August 7, 2009 Share Posted August 7, 2009 I feel sorry for you so I hope these words will help you. You are a loser. Your relationship is OVER. Your girlfriend no longer wants you. She is sucking someone else's cock as you read this post that I am typing With that said, do not try to be friends. Who cares what they think? In a few months your going to NOT think about her, maybe even a few years. Eitherway its OVER. Forget about her. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 7, 2009 Share Posted August 7, 2009 During the next 14 days ....I'm moving to another state for grad school, been dealing with a rebound guy, preparing for the move, working a full time job..........................so i havent felt the loss of my 3 year boy friend (college sweetheart and we were our firsts), as much as I thought I should. (I loved him, ). Im just too busy! I really like the re-bound guy too so far. But im wondering, when Im done moving and settled..........will i eventually miss my first b-friend? Is there any way to avoid the grief part, or does it postpone itself no matter what you do? I always had been respected in my 3 year relationship (were our first, college sweethearts), but my ego took a big hit lately when I started to contact her ....as a friend. (only to be rejected by her, saying she wasnt ready to see me or talk for awhile) My contact history follows: 1- See how she's doing on email....led to MSN fight. 2- I said horrible things (like her), and i apologized in an email and wished her luck. 3- found out about a guy...got jealous....and texted her a week later to offer friendship. (This obviously bothered her, but explained she wasnt ready to talk to me until she was ready again.) 4- email next day, explaining shortly that she was a good friend of mine, and I just wanted to wish her luck in her trip.....nothing else. **We were very tight, so id like to be friends with her in 1-2 years. and yet i feel she's always feel condescending to me.....as if "Oh hey, there's that pitiful little boy i dumped and who wanted to contact me/wish me well"bolso4, can you decide which gender your 3 year sweetheart is and stick to it? While it doesn't matter which gender since I'm not homophobic, I'm getting whiplash from trying to keep track. Link to post Share on other sites
fabulous_chk Posted August 8, 2009 Share Posted August 8, 2009 Yes as a dumper i feel sorry for my first ex-bf. Condescending? Sometimes. Guilty? Yes. No third party involved it just was not gonna work out. Did we become good friends? Yes! But it took years of him patiently communicating with me. I didn't wanna be friends with him, but I found out he is the greatest friend one could ever have! We are best friends for life. Link to post Share on other sites
Devil Inside Posted August 8, 2009 Share Posted August 8, 2009 I think that she has made it clear that she does not want you to contact her right now, and that she will let you know when that changes. It's not that she doesn't respect who you were in good times, it's hopw you're acting now that is making you look pitiful. Just stop trying to be friends, wishing her luck, and everything else. I've been where you are, made the same moves, gotten the pity emails and brush offs...don't go that route. Time to get on with it and move on...sorry bro. Link to post Share on other sites
Soul Bear Posted August 8, 2009 Share Posted August 8, 2009 Yes as a dumper i feel sorry for my first ex-bf. Condescending? Sometimes. Guilty? Yes. No third party involved it just was not gonna work out. Did we become good friends? Yes! But it took years of him patiently communicating with me. I didn't wanna be friends with him, but I found out he is the greatest friend one could ever have! We are best friends for life. is this the same one that said he still had feelings for you? Link to post Share on other sites
fabulous_chk Posted August 8, 2009 Share Posted August 8, 2009 Yes Soul_Bear. Same one. I will never ever get back with him, he is more like a brother to me now. Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted August 8, 2009 Share Posted August 8, 2009 Do the dumpers feel condescending and pity towards their ex for years to come? No, but this might depend on how the R broke apart. A girl I broke up with after 5y relationship needed a year of (almost) NC to heal, but now we regularly talk to each other, and became good friends again. I still feel sorry for her, for the pain I caused her, but I'm glad she was able to forgive me and move on. But she had self-respect, unlike you. My contact history follows: 1- See how she's doing on email....led to MSN fight. 2- I said horrible things (like her), and i apologized in an email and wished her luck. 3- found out about a guy...got jealous....and texted her a week later to offer friendship. (This obviously bothered her, but explained she wasnt ready to talk to me until she was ready again.) 4- email next day, explaining shortly that she was a good friend of mine, and I just wanted to wish her luck in her trip.....nothing else. Well, you are pitiful. This does have nothing to do with the fact that she dumped you, but with your behavior afterwards. Link to post Share on other sites
Loxx Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 I always had been respected in my 3 year relationship (were our first, college sweethearts), but my ego took a big hit lately when I started to contact her ....as a friend. (only to be rejected by her, saying she wasnt ready to see me or talk for awhile) My contact history follows: 1- See how she's doing on email....led to MSN fight. 2- I said horrible things (like her), and i apologized in an email and wished her luck. 3- found out about a guy...got jealous....and texted her a week later to offer friendship. (This obviously bothered her, but explained she wasnt ready to talk to me until she was ready again.) 4- email next day, explaining shortly that she was a good friend of mine, and I just wanted to wish her luck in her trip.....nothing else. **We were very tight, so id like to be friends with her in 1-2 years. and yet i feel she's always feel condescending to me.....as if "Oh hey, there's that pitiful little boy i dumped and who wanted to contact me/wish me well" Think back when she talked about an ex boyfriend to you. She is now talking about you like that.... Keep this in your head and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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