4everloveu Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Sometimes I think promises is hard to make, but do they really follow. My friend was in the A for 10 yrs, his MW never promise anything (divorcing, leaving or be with him). He's still waitting for her to Divorce. He know and told me that he's stupid to wait for her, but he truely, deeply lover her so much that he can't never leave her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tx_hrt Posted August 10, 2009 Author Share Posted August 10, 2009 I am not married Link to post Share on other sites
stampdaddy Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Stamps, Sometimes with all the hurt, tension, stress and everything other rotten feeling that I have been feeling. I don't really care if she gets caught. Maybe she will feel some of the pain that I feel. Maybe if her world is shaken she will realize what she has done. I know everyone will say...you made your choice knowing she is a MW. You caused yourself this pain. In ways I believe that...but I also know that if those Maybes, Somedays, One days and We Wills would have never occured my feelings may not be as strong as they are. All those empty promises causing me to believe and hope. She knew what she was doing. With all that said...Because of my love for her, I would never want her to hurt or see anything bad happen to her. I know what you mean, my friend. (I am from Dallas by the way, my parents live out east). I know that the mind and the heart get pretty far separated with all of this, and when you ask your mind is this really what you want, of course it screams NO! But then the heart kicks it's ass for saying it... DOn't get me started on on all of the promises that I was made. And yes, she kept most of them. Heck, she hasnt sleep with her H for over 4 years. BUT, where is she? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 So what was all this talking she wanted to do? Complain about her vacation? That's it? She just needed you to listen to her whine so she'd feel better about her marriage? Is this all she wanted to talk about? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tx_hrt Posted August 10, 2009 Author Share Posted August 10, 2009 My MW has kept most of her promises also. I do trust and believe her most of the time. She just isn't totally honest with everything. Promises and honesty are two different things. Link to post Share on other sites
stampdaddy Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 My MW has kept most of her promises also. I do trust and believe her most of the time. She just isn't totally honest with everything. Promises and honesty are two different things. But of course her dishonesty is to protect your feelings... yeah right! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tx_hrt Posted August 10, 2009 Author Share Posted August 10, 2009 We talked of more...she is getting tired. She has been trying. I realize that I give her an outlet to vent. That is the trust that we have with each other. We will see... No hopes!! Just Days!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tx_hrt Posted August 10, 2009 Author Share Posted August 10, 2009 Stamp - She has said that also!! "I just don't want to hurt you anymore!!" She could of prevented that a long time ago. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 My MW has kept most of her promises also. I do trust and believe her most of the time. She just isn't totally honest with everything. Promises and honesty are two different things.[/quote] anything but the ABSOLUTE truth is still a lie... it's a form of deception to allow you to draw your own conclusion. even not answering is a form of a lie. don't even listen to her empty words - pay attention to her actions! her actions say that she's not available, that's she's willing to betray the one she claims to have loved, to string you along for HER benefit knowing you could easily be very hurt. is that what you want from someone you love? tell her you'll see her AFTER her divorce is final... that might force her into her actions matching her words about how much she hates her marriage. have you had sex with her yet? yes, this is somewhat important... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Her and the kid had a great time. He was never there to help when she needed him. He complained the whole time. I did ask if they had sex. She said no. I am not too sure of anything she tells me. So, I will take it all with a grain of salt. Do you honestly believe he complained the WHOLE TIME, and didn't lift a finger to help her out when she needed him to? Yet she bonded and had fun with her stepkids.. I wouldn't have asked if they had sex..That's quite a loaded question and chances are, if she did have sex, she isn't going to tell you "yes I did." What good would that do? She is pointing fingers constantly at her husband and blaming him for everything. She has a helping hand in this, yet I'm sure she's made herself out to be the victim and he's the one who's being an azz most of the time. She lies to him, exaggerates truths, don't you think she's capable of doing that to you as well? Link to post Share on other sites
CheatedOnHusband Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 "Central Texas!! Well, just got back from lunch with MW. I mentioned she said we have a lot of talking to do. She said that vacation was hell while H was around. Her and the kid had a great time. He was never there to help when she needed him. He complained the whole time. I did ask if they had sex. She said no. I am not too sure of anything she tells me. So, I will take it all with a grain of salt. She missed me and she thought of the many things that we have talked about in the past and how it seems that I was correct. (about his behavior) She said that I seem different. I asked, "What do you mean?" She said different, reserved, cocky." I couldn't help but to add my post on this comment. In one of your post you did say that MW couldn't call you or at best made quick calls during her vacation. Here you state that "she said that vacation was hell while H was around" "Her and her kid had a great time". Meaning that H wasn't around all the time. You see what I mean! You need to get your head back to normalcy. I am not one to advocate cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
stampdaddy Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Stamp - She has said that also!! "I just don't want to hurt you anymore!!" She could of prevented that a long time ago. and YOU can prevent it from happening from here on out..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tx_hrt Posted August 10, 2009 Author Share Posted August 10, 2009 He was there the whole time. I do believe he was not helping and probably complaining the whole time. I know this man and have known him for a while(didn't mention that earlier). It probably got to the point where she just disregarded him all together and her and the kid just enjoyed themselves. Stamp - How do you get over the Wants and Shoulds? Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 He was there the whole time. I do believe he was not helping and probably complaining the whole time. I know this man and have known him for a while(didn't mention that earlier). It probably got to the point where she just disregarded him all together and her and the kid just enjoyed themselves. Stamp - How do you get over the Wants and Shoulds? you are being TOTALLY delusional!!! married folks go on vacation to renew and rejuvenate the relationship. if she had no intention of this - she wouldn't have gone in the first place. her actions again... not her words. every time i went on holiday with my husband - i knew - as a wife - that we would have a LOT of sex... that's part of why we went on vacation. she is still married to him - that right there says enough!!! Link to post Share on other sites
stampdaddy Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 He was there the whole time. I do believe he was not helping and probably complaining the whole time. I know this man and have known him for a while(didn't mention that earlier). It probably got to the point where she just disregarded him all together and her and the kid just enjoyed themselves. Stamp - How do you get over the Wants and Shoulds? Well of course I am the expert here. It only took me a week of all the good advice given to me here at LS to figure it out and then I was OK.. No, wait, that didnt happen... I can tell you now that I "get it". It is still hard though, but it is the simple fact that she wasnt coming to me, she wasnt willing to do the "right thing", EVER, that helps me. Why on this earth would I want that in my life? I was always given "just enough" from her to keep me in the game. And that is EXACTLY what is happening to you. Is it "conscious" on her part? Maybe, maybe not. But it is the fact, Jack! For you, all I can tell you is to find the words, and write them on your desk, say them over and over, have them in your car, by your bed, heck, write them on your wanker, so when you take a wizz, you'll see them there too. These words should say "she aint coming and I aint havin' no stinkin' affair". or something to that effect. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tx_hrt Posted August 10, 2009 Author Share Posted August 10, 2009 I am leaving for the day. I will post more later tonite. Everyone...Everyone...Everyone!!!! Thank you for being there! We don't know each other but am thankful for all that has responded. I may not like what some have said. I may not agree with everything. But I have listened and you all are very helpful. If I do decide to stay with the strength I receive from all of you maybe this A will be on MY TERMS and not hers. Your strength gives me strength and makes the hurt and pain more bareable. Well I say that now...I do have to go home and sleep alone. But right now I feel pretty good. Not invincible but more in control of me!! Thanks everyone Link to post Share on other sites
stampdaddy Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 If I do decide to stay with the strength I receive from all of you maybe this A will be on MY TERMS and not hers. IMPOSSIBLE there is no way in hell this is possible. Try it and report back, cause I want to see just how quickly you get kicked in the cajones... Link to post Share on other sites
Solear Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 all of the above is a carbon copy of the relationship i had with my married woman. "her husband is useless" doesnt speak to her doesnt try and touch her they havnt had sex for years. The more I read on here the more I realize how blind i've been. Shes stringing you along, shes a saleswoman, I bet she pays for your nights out and buys you gifts. Its to cover her guilt for treating you like crap Link to post Share on other sites
fooled once Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 I am confused on why you keep having lunch with her, etc I mean, you know she isn't leaving her husband. She lies to you. And I agree - you caught her in a HUGE lie about him not being around; yet she couldn't call you. ACTIONS speak louder than words. Are you hoping to just keep hanging around and one day she will divorce her husband? If he is this HORRIBLE man that YOU and her make her out to be, why doe she stay? Link to post Share on other sites
StarChick Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 Thank you for being there! We don't know each other but am thankful for all that has responded. I may not like what some have said. I may not agree with everything. But I have listened and you all are very helpful. I don't think you've listened to anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 LOL he just doesnt get it. she is using him!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tx_hrt Posted August 11, 2009 Author Share Posted August 11, 2009 StarChick you can quit posting now!! It is comments like that that will strongly discourage anyone. Situations like these are not as cut and dry as your comment make them seem. It is the encourgement and support that builds that will give one the strength to make the decision. It may not be the one YOU believe they should make or it might. Giving negative feedback will just cause that person to stop communicating and who knows what steps they may take. Turn your PC off!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tx_hrt Posted August 11, 2009 Author Share Posted August 11, 2009 She may be using me. That is why I am here posting on this forum. I am gaining support and strength. Draccula - You can stop posting also!! When I see your pic I already know what is will say. I don't even read it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tx_hrt Posted August 11, 2009 Author Share Posted August 11, 2009 I mean Chrome Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 I always read what draccula says, he is 99% spot on and in this case..100% so. Link to post Share on other sites
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