Trialbyfire Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 Can you elaborate? Not sure I totally follow.He's the rubberband man between you and his ex. This has been going on for three years. Link to post Share on other sites
Author stace79 Posted September 1, 2009 Author Share Posted September 1, 2009 you're fat, lose some god damn weight ffs. Like seriously, 30 pounds at least Lol... you're immature....what's your point? At least I can improve my station in life. You're stuck with your miserable attitude. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted September 1, 2009 Share Posted September 1, 2009 Yes I could stand to lose 20, maybe even 30 pounds, but I have been relatively consistent minus that one bad patch of starving myself. You are, let's average, 190 pounds. Actually, you could stand to lose 40-50 pounds. The Met Life Insurance chart puts an average framed woman of 5'7" at 128-143 pounds, the US Center for Health Statistics puts a woman of 5'7" at 152 pounds, the North American Association for the Study of Obesity puts you at 144 pounds, and the US Army puts a 5'7' woman of age 21-27 at 143. I would guess that actually your fiance does believe that you are beautiful, but that you aren't as attractive as other women who have trimmer bodies, and that seeing you at the wedding could have shown him that a slimmer you could be an even more beautiful you. I think that this is a good time to start this diet, yes - calorie counting. Make it a life goal to eat healthier, rather than looking at this being a drudgery. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted September 1, 2009 Share Posted September 1, 2009 I can't edit my post, but would like to change it, as i just realized you are pregnant (and apparently he mentioned your weight prior to knowing about the pregnancy). I would be very careful during your pregnancy to eat healthy, and to limit the amount of weight that you put on. Many women take this as an excuse to 'eat for two' which is medically unsound and unhealthy. Overweight women do not need to gain as much weight as underweight women, and any woman only needs about 100-300 extra calories a day for natal nutrition. There are FAR too many stories about women who are overweight to begin with, who pack on pounds because of babies and then never lose the "baby weight". If your fiance is already concerned about your weight, then becoming even larger isn't going to help the situation at all. Talk with your doctor about this (although I suspect he will bring it up before you do), but according to this one website ( http://www.babyyourbaby.org/duringpregnancy/weightgain.htm ), at your height and weight and BMI of 30, you should gain less than 15 pounds for a healthy pregnancy. Good luck with the pregnancy! Link to post Share on other sites
Author stace79 Posted September 1, 2009 Author Share Posted September 1, 2009 Thank you... trust me I'm already freaking out about that. Thankfully I have not really been that hungry but I did read somewhere that I could gain as few as 11 pounds for a healthy pregnancy. I just want to make sure I'm doing the right exercises to be safe -- I read swimming is pretty good, as well as swift walking. No more stationary bike though. I can't edit my post, but would like to change it, as i just realized you are pregnant (and apparently he mentioned your weight prior to knowing about the pregnancy). I would be very careful during your pregnancy to eat healthy, and to limit the amount of weight that you put on. Many women take this as an excuse to 'eat for two' which is medically unsound and unhealthy. Overweight women do not need to gain as much weight as underweight women, and any woman only needs about 100-300 extra calories a day for natal nutrition. There are FAR too many stories about women who are overweight to begin with, who pack on pounds because of babies and then never lose the "baby weight". If your fiance is already concerned about your weight, then becoming even larger isn't going to help the situation at all. Talk with your doctor about this (although I suspect he will bring it up before you do), but according to this one website ( http://www.babyyourbaby.org/duringpregnancy/weightgain.htm ), at your height and weight and BMI of 30, you should gain less than 15 pounds for a healthy pregnancy. Good luck with the pregnancy! Link to post Share on other sites
harmfulsweetz Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 Only lose weight for you. If you are happy and healthy at this weight, then there's your answer. You haven't changed-just tell him he should pile on the pounds! Congrats on the pregnancy, yeah, I heard 250 extra calories a day only, and these should be gained healthily, not through having a chocolate bar (though it sounds much better). Swimming, walking, aquareobics are good exercises for pregnant women, so just keep that up. If he complains again, tell him where to go. He likes you as you or not at all I say. Nothing wrong with encouraging you to lose weight for health reasons, but the way he's painted it, is so vain and blooming awful that it makes no sense at all. If my man told me that, I would tell him 'what a shame, I always wanted a bigger man too, don't always get what we want, do we?' Link to post Share on other sites
Thornton Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 It's possible for obese women to eat enough to sustain a pregnancy and still lose weight overall... and it isn't dangerous, ask your doctor about it. If your weight is in the obesity range then you're probably eating too much anyway... your current diet could probably sustain a pregnancy (and then some!) without eating any extra at all. Link to post Share on other sites
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