trueblue72ny Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 just wanted to write a quick post. day 5 here & no contact with the ex gf. i know its not very long time. but it feels like it. since i work with mine its more difficult to avoid her, but so far i havent tried to speak with her once. or attempted to initiate any kind of communication. i dont plan on it either. we dont even have to see each other because the office is big enough. she came bopping by this morning and spoke to the girl that sits in front of me for some reason. not sure what that was about, she probably could have handled that one over the phone, but i did not pay much attention to it. if there is going to be any kind of communication, she will have to initiate it. i feel thats only right. after all, i am the one who got kicked to the curb suddenly because some guy asked her to dinner last week. for everyone out there going through this in the early stages, i can say yes time goes by very slow, and it is hard but im thinking not contacting the dumper is better. i dont think i would feel any better if i did. she has not forgot about me and she knows how to get in touch with me. Link to post Share on other sites
davidindallas Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 yea time does go by slow im right there with you. its been about 5 days too, would of been longer but i "relapsed". It wasnt worth it so just stay strong. I didnt even contact her on her bday, and the urge was ery bad that day. Link to post Share on other sites
Author trueblue72ny Posted August 11, 2009 Author Share Posted August 11, 2009 yea time does go by slow im right there with you. its been about 5 days too, would of been longer but i "relapsed". It wasnt worth it so just stay strong. I didnt even contact her on her bday, and the urge was ery bad that day. i dont think contacting a dumper even on their birthday, or any holiday in general is appropriate, so i would say you made the right call not too. all the posts on here keep saying if they miss you they will contact you and i believe it 100%. if they do not contact you , than you are just pushing them farther away by trying to do so. Link to post Share on other sites
davidindallas Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 Exactly all you can do at the moment is worry about yourself and no one else. Its been about 2 months since my ex left me, and at first i couldnt even eat, sleep, or laugh. But things change ive come a long way from those first couple of weeks, i mean dont get me wrong i still think about her but each day its geting less and less even if it is the slightest bit. You just gotta look at it like this im sure were both great guys so its there loss. Link to post Share on other sites
wow123 Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 Trueblue, I am day 1 nc. I don't believe I will ever hear from her again. She isn't going to miss me. She went back to the guy she left me for (not sure she ever left him). Yes time is going by very slowly. Link to post Share on other sites
Devil Inside Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 Keep it up gentleman..it's the only way to go. Link to post Share on other sites
Author trueblue72ny Posted August 12, 2009 Author Share Posted August 12, 2009 day 6 . i am staying strong with the no contact but today i felt it building up inside me this morning when i woke up. ugggggg. i get to work today and two hours later my ex gf comes over and sits at the desk of the girl behind me this time. yesterday it was the girl in front of me. ugggggg. she was having a very long conversation. i wasnt really listening what it was about. i just overheard bits and pieces about going out, and cloths and this person and that person. it was heart wrenching. i wanted to look at her but i didnt re-act or say anything. i just sat quietly at my desk and remained busy. i guess even if she seems to want to make me notice her i should remain strong and let her contact me first if anything. this sucks. i am happy to hear her voice and see her around but it is torture not being able to talk to her. i think i am still ok for the moment. stay strong guys. Link to post Share on other sites
davidindallas Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Day 6 right here too. I say we should challange each other to see who goes the longest, i dont know about you but im a competiteve guy. Nothing like a little competetion to help push you. Link to post Share on other sites
Devil Inside Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Man...the morning is tough...hang in there guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Author trueblue72ny Posted August 12, 2009 Author Share Posted August 12, 2009 davidindallas: a little competition sounds good. lets try and see who holds out longest. she just walked by my desk again. three times today! i wonder why. she certainly has no reason to be on this side of the office. i suppose she is checking me out to see what my behavior is like. i just smiled the last time she walked by. i am not going to act like a sore loser over it. but i still have not contacted her. thanks devil inside. trying too! Link to post Share on other sites
silic0ntoad Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Yeah man, keep it going. Remember, we are MEN here. Men do not grovel for scraps at an Ex's table. We get the goddamned job done women or not! Anyway, keep it up people. I am over 2 months, and while things aren't exactly what I pictured, it ain't so bad after all! Just keep your chins up and your balls out and you'll be fine! Link to post Share on other sites
davidindallas Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 ok trueblue ill hold you up to it. let me guess your a new york giants fan? Link to post Share on other sites
Author trueblue72ny Posted August 13, 2009 Author Share Posted August 13, 2009 ok trueblue ill hold you up to it. let me guess your a new york giants fan? yankee's bro Link to post Share on other sites
davidindallas Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 o ok i said Ny giants because your profile name is trueblue. I was about to tear you up im a cowboys fan ever since i left my moms stomach. Link to post Share on other sites
carnegie Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 Day 2 NC. It's really tough. Yesterday i met her at public and i tried to avoid seeing her and talking to her...and last night, she sent a sms to me and said "why did you avoid talking to me? ok I will avoid talking to you, too". I ignored! Was I right? Link to post Share on other sites
adamt Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 I'm about 8/9 weeks down the line of NC. Stay strong it does get easier. if you feel the urge to contact the ex. just call a friend or family then the urge will pass. Keep yourself busy and the memories of the ex are starting to fade. We were in a 3 year relationship now it feels a lot shorter than that. Link to post Share on other sites
jv032889 Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 Day 1 1/2 NC! I'm so proud of myself. I turned off my cellphone to avoid txtn & calln. My parents and friends are there to support me 100%. You can do it trueblue!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author trueblue72ny Posted August 13, 2009 Author Share Posted August 13, 2009 hey guys keep it up. the start of day 7 here. so far this morning its been ok. i havent seen her so far. she left work the same time as me yesterday (which she normally does not) im not reading into it tho. things have been crazy in the office lately with them adding work to people. but i swear i got the feelings like she wanted to wave or me beep or something as i was riding by her leaving work. she seemed to hestitate for a second as i was driving by. i hope im not cracking up by thinking that. she was also looking while i was warming up the bike in the parking lot. man did i miss her last night. Link to post Share on other sites
silic0ntoad Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 I'm about 8/9 weeks down the line of NC. Stay strong it does get easier. if you feel the urge to contact the ex. just call a friend or family then the urge will pass. Keep yourself busy and the memories of the ex are starting to fade. We were in a 3 year relationship now it feels a lot shorter than that. Same here Adamt. I think it's almost 10 weeks for me. Stopped counting. It gets easier but there are still dark spots. Oh well. She's not coming back at this point. I've accepted that. Now I have to find someone greater in every aspect! Link to post Share on other sites
redy2 Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 today im on day 20 of nc. im proud that i made it this far. i plan to celebrate friday night when ive made it 3 weeks. Link to post Share on other sites
davidindallas Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 Its been 7 days for me too. Its funny because sometimes ill go a couple minutes without thinkin about her then ill relize wow i actually wasnt thinking about her for a few minutes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author trueblue72ny Posted August 13, 2009 Author Share Posted August 13, 2009 in the afternoon of day 7. no contact still. she just walked by on my side of the office. i just happened to stand up from my desk and there she was walking thru. i think she was trying to see what i was doing because there is absolutly NO REASON for her to be walking around were she was. i could be reading into things but i dont know. but she looked and i looked. than she stopped at a girls desk and we were facing each other from a distance. and i was looking at her some more. i think she could tell i was looking at her. and i think she enjoys it. but i have not spoken a word to her. i wonder if this is becoming some weird way of communicating to each other? regardless im holding out strong and not contacting her. Link to post Share on other sites
adamt Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 DOnt read into things too much. Just try to act as if she is not there. You might be doing NC but the eye contact is sort of breaking NC as it still makes you think what she is thinking. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 hey guys keep it up. the start of day 7 here. so far this morning its been ok. i havent seen her so far. she left work the same time as me yesterday (which she normally does not) im not reading into it tho. things have been crazy in the office lately with them adding work to people. but i swear i got the feelings like she wanted to wave or me beep or something as i was riding by her leaving work. she seemed to hestitate for a second as i was driving by. i hope im not cracking up by thinking that. she was also looking while i was warming up the bike in the parking lot. man did i miss her last night. Dude, lol, our lives are so in parallel it's not even funny. I ride too (though I haven't taken my bike to work lately). She used to stare at me when I warmed mine up too. Haven't talked to or seen her in over a week at work and ya know what? It's been GOOD. Her voice used to sooth me, now it just makes me cringe I can do without seeing or hearing from her again. Indifference is a good point to be in your life. You'll get there one day man. Link to post Share on other sites
davidindallas Posted August 14, 2009 Share Posted August 14, 2009 yea trueblue thats what i was thinking too. But dont worry about it because you are seeing her and sticking to your no contact, it makes you even stronger. Link to post Share on other sites
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