Stuck with my utilities turned off

[Mayberry]

I recently moved in with my boyfriend of 2-1/2 yrs.

 

I actually have my own home that I am trying to sell! The neighborhood I live in everyone is so nosey. I mean they are really up your a$$ constantly. I cannot stay there because I get anxiety attacks from the suffocation of these neighbors.

 

It may be a coincidence but as soon as I shut my utilities off my boyfriend started being a real a**h***. Our relationship wasn't perfect before, everyone has little disagreements here and there, but he is being the most rude, cruel and inconsiderate person I've ever met. And now I have no place to go!

 

The last couple weeks he's had his friends over several times and it's been on weekdays. His friends never know when to leave. Most of the ones that stay forever do not have jobs. My boyfriend works for his dad so he doesn't have to go into work until 10am or he can even wait until Noon. I have to be at work at 8:30 am everyday.

 

It seems that I'm last and I do not matter anymore. He even encourages his friends to tell me "this is Robert's house". I'm so confused that I have cried for 4 days straight. What have I done? The more I act like suzy homemaker the more he treats me like I don't matter. I think he's trying to drive me crazy!

 

I cannot keep on crying every day and every night and still keep my head on at work. I worry all day long what's going to happen tonight? Will I have to go to a friends house to stay to get some rest?

 

I have always been one to be "stable". To me, this is an "unstable" situation.

 

How did everything suddenly become and chaotic mess?

 

Lost and alone -- Mayberry

[moimeme]

What have I done

 

You have chosen unwisely. If this guy was like this before you moved in, it was not realistic to expect him to change after. If you are positive he was not like this (and I can't imagine that he would have changed that drastically all of a sudden) then something may be real wrong with him.

 

It's him and not you. He's a jerk and it sounds like he's an incurable jerk. You deserve better. For your sake, leave. There must be someplace you can rent for cheap until your house sells. Or, go back to your house for a short while until you sell it and get money to move elsewhere. Don't stay with him; it is highly unlikey that things will improve with this guy.

[midori]

I agree with moimeme. I think there's a saying that goes something like, "if you want to know a bear you must visit him in his den" -- well, you've visited and seen what he's like on his home turf. And now you would be wise to leave and never look back.

 

Sounds like a total jerk; and irresponsible too.

[Mayberry]

The following is one example of being put last!

 

This all started when I moved in because -- well, maybe it's my fault -- but I thought we both agreed on this and now I have no say-so about what kind of evening that I would like to have.

I have social anxiety and it's very new for me to live with someone -- it's always been my house.

 

Anyway it seems like now everyone is coming to the trailer to visit. They visit so much that they are wearing out their welcome with me. It starts to irritate me and after about 5 hrs. I might say "How long are you guys going to stay" -- not rudely, but I will say those types of things -- because in fact they both are "KIDS" really. -- But, Robert got really defensive with me, actually quite cruel and now he trys to get everyone to stay as late as he can -- and tells me if I don't like it then I can move out -- he says this right in front of them.

 

 

Robert can be very entertaining. I love him for that -- BUT, He is the so-called "Class Clown" -- his nephew (27 yrs. old, but mama's boy, hangs out with teenagers), and his girlfriend (19 yrs. old) -- have been visiting on a regular basis (4 out of 7 days) and that doesn't count the other friends that have showed up recently. They want to hang out all the time because Robert puts on a free comedian show and they just feed him. That's why they say -- don't feed the animals at the zoo. I admit Robert is funny and he's on CLOUD 9 when they are giggling at him for 4-5-6 hours straight -- it gets ridiculous.

 

Several weekday nights I am going to have to get me a set of headphones and go back into bedroom or leave and take a long ride to escape the incessant giggling that gets to pounding in your head --

 

So this is basically the whole scenario -- I'm confused -- I am in shock that I do not matter any more! -- Mayberry