Callisto Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 My guy is not interested in strip clubs either. But if he did go and get a lap dance I would not have a problem with that. I know he loves me, and if he wants to go out and have a good time, that's fine with me. No insecurities here. Link to post Share on other sites
raine Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 I wish I could be like those of you who it doesn't bother in the least. I'm not and doubt I ever will so in any case any man in my life would have to be on the same level as me with that. I do feel like that is close to cheating and I can't be in a relationship with someone who will continuously do something like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shopgrl Posted November 19, 2003 Author Share Posted November 19, 2003 I don't even think it's about insecurities. I am not one bit insecure to say the least. I don't think you have to be insecure to not want some half naked stripper rubbing on your man. I question why a man in a relationship would even want some stripper rubbing up on him. For fun? amusement? I just don' t think it's right for a man in a relationship to receive a lap dance from some random stripper. I would feel as though my man disrespected me if got a lap dance. This forum has put my mind at ease about going to a strip club for a bachelor party but for any other reason-- I'd still have to say no way, and.. especially to the lap dances. I know alot of girls who are ok with it and obviously alot on this forum are as well. A part of me wishes that I could be cool with it too but I know I'll never be. Link to post Share on other sites
Jessca Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 My bf will be going to his best friends wedding in FL in January. He went earlier this year to his brother's bachelor party and was back at home with me @12:30. I went with him for his brother's wedding but this next one he is on his own. I figure it like this, you can't force a man to only look at you forever. Let him be a man and let him feel like a man. Even if he does get turned on and comes home to you, you will benefit from it. I'll take sex however, whenever and for whatever reason from my man . Don't worry, it's no big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 You could be the coolest girlfriend ever. Link to post Share on other sites
Jessca Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 Originally posted by UCFKevin You could be the coolest girlfriend ever. Yes, I know this He tells me that all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
raine Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 As I said before, bachelor parties are one thing but I still don't see the need for lap dances and not on a regular basis. In the case where my bf went to a bachelor party they all got hotel room and he didn't come home until the next morning. What then? I will never like the idea thought but am more acceptable under bachelor party situations. Link to post Share on other sites
naoh75 Posted December 30, 2003 Share Posted December 30, 2003 Here is one for you, my girlfriend is a stripper, not as cool as you would think guys. She was not when I first met her, but started a couple of months ago. We both discussed it in the beginning, and at first I thought it was cool. Not anymore. All she does is sleep when she is not working, and then rubs herself in guy's faces all night when she is working, it makes me sick to my stomach. Link to post Share on other sites
spencer Posted January 3, 2004 Share Posted January 3, 2004 this is my first post here and I just have to add my 2 cents. I have a very hard time accepting this behavior with my boyfriends, current and past. I have been to stip bars in the past and they are disgusting. I have had friends work there, both male and female. In my 33 years of experience, this is what i've learned. Girls, you have to give it right back to them. (I learned this from Mom, my former boyfriend tried to keep me insecure with jealosy tactics) When they go to a club, You go to a club. What ever excuse they give you for going, thats why you go. Tell them "It meant nothing when he rubbed his (insert favorite body part here) all over you." If he is able to hold his insecurity inside. good for him. At least you have leveled the sexual insecurity playing field. This really does have a impact on some boyfriends. They don't like the feeling either. Unfortunately, many who engage in this behavior have never been on the receiving end. I put on my flame-retardant suit. Link to post Share on other sites
OrlandoGirl Posted January 5, 2004 Share Posted January 5, 2004 Spencer ROCKS! I totally agree Link to post Share on other sites
InLoKo Posted January 5, 2004 Share Posted January 5, 2004 In my experience, most men go along with all the "fun" in a strip club, because they don't want to appear wussy amongst the guys. But the truth is, most of them think it's tacky and share a similar opinion of the girls. I went to a strip place once (long story) and sat there whilst my (then) b/f had a girl's upper assets thrust into his mouth much to his embarassment. All he could do was go bright red and keep looking at me out of the corner of his eye. Not a nice moment for either of us. Let him go and be pleased that it is you he will be gratefully returning to. Link to post Share on other sites
Valerie318 Posted January 10, 2004 Share Posted January 10, 2004 [font=times new roman][/font][color=red][/color] I just want to understand myself. A couple of days ago my boyfriend went to a strip club with his friends. He lied to me about it, but I found out. If its "ok" for men to go to strip clubs then why lie? I think its a bunch of bull****... go when your single 'guy'! Why would it be alright to go to a strip club and view beautiful naked women!?!?! I guess I am so angry because my boyfriend thinks going to a club and dancing with guys is the same thing. How... the men are not naked... ?! Well what got him in check that night was saying, how would you feel if I was one of those girls? Would you like that...would that be ok ? He got mad...haha well this just means revenge, I need to feel good about myself again no cheating... just a wild night out with the ladies Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 11, 2004 Share Posted January 11, 2004 I think that "giving the same treatment to them" is a good way to teach your children a lesson. When you're a parent, it's your job to teach your kids how to behave. I think that "giving the same treatment to them" is a bad way to teach your significant other a lesson. No matter how right you are, it creates resentment. Which is more important to you, "winning"? Link to post Share on other sites
Jon S. Posted January 12, 2004 Share Posted January 12, 2004 Hey shopgrl, he's going to a bachelor party at a strip club, not a whorehouse. He's dealing with professionals who don't really care about him, just his wallet. Let him have his fun. Of course, you're allowed to have your fun too. You'll look back on this and say "it wasn't a big deal, because I didn't make it a big deal." If you honestly don't trust him, maybe there are problems in your relationship beyond strip clubs. Link to post Share on other sites
birdyxx33 Posted February 21, 2004 Share Posted February 21, 2004 Ladies....wake up!!! Let your men go to strip clubs. I found out my man was going...ha! I asked him if it would bother him if I went to amatuer night and stripped....OH YEAH,,,, really bothered him!! Do I care? NO...What a rush! Getting even is not going to male strip clubs, but me getting on stage and performing for a bunch of horny losers like him! I loved it! Men love to be seduced and women love to seduce. That is where we level the playing field! Wake up ladies!!!! Has the women's movement taught you nothing???? Let them see what it is like for us to get off all of this....I guarentee you will. It is absoultely empowering to get up there and tease the losers....give it a try...you don't need a perfect body...men like all kinds....have some ovum and give him the same that he gives you Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted February 21, 2004 Share Posted February 21, 2004 Wake up ladies!!!! Has the women's movement taught you nothing???? Good to know you got something out of it. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted February 21, 2004 Share Posted February 21, 2004 Good to know you got something out of it. Link to post Share on other sites
birdyxx33 Posted February 21, 2004 Share Posted February 21, 2004 Over the Hills, and Far Away....I think Tiny Dancer is a classic. Elton John refers to her as a she. Gay men CAN think that way ya know....Besides...he is a bi-sexual...not a homosexual. Hey...she was seamstress for the band boyfriend!!! Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted February 21, 2004 Share Posted February 21, 2004 It's a joke, his songwriter is definitely a straight man. And I don't think Elton John is bisexual. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted February 21, 2004 Share Posted February 21, 2004 Huh? Is Elton a stripper? Is Tiny Dancer a stripper? I'm confused Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted February 21, 2004 Share Posted February 21, 2004 Elton John does a song called Tiny Dancer, it's a good song. Link to post Share on other sites
birdyxx33 Posted February 21, 2004 Share Posted February 21, 2004 Over the Hills, and Far Away....I think Tiny Dancer is a classic. Elton John refers to her as a she. Gay men CAN think that way ya know....Besides...he is a bi-sexual...not a homosexual. Hey...she was seamstress for the band boyfriend!!! Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted February 21, 2004 Share Posted February 21, 2004 I know, you told me. Link to post Share on other sites
ladyangel Posted February 21, 2004 Share Posted February 21, 2004 http://www.mtv.com/news/articles/1439280/20010210/nulleminem.jhtml http://www.hannibal.net/stories/022598/eltonjohn.html Link to post Share on other sites
Angel Posted February 22, 2004 Share Posted February 22, 2004 If you don't like it, want it, care for it, DON'T AGREE TO IT!! My 44 year old fiance will be given a bachelor party, and I WILL KILL THE BEST MAN IF HE EVEN MENTIONS a female at his party. They both respect me and wouldn't dream of doing something like that, because they know I will kill! (OK, maybe in their dreams!) This is how I am, and if he doesn't like it, we shouldn't be together, because I WON'T CHANGE MY MIND!!! I am very sweet about it----never raise my voice and always threaten death with a smile. I am a teacher, I know how to do it! Link to post Share on other sites
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