why porn when he has me?

[sweetmind20]

Hello, i was just wondering something... I know i don't have much to complain about.. my Boyfriend is very loving and we are intimate quite often. My question is what is the point with guy's love of porn ? i can understand if they're not getting any.. But my bf gets it plenty.. i was just wondering people's opinions. At times, i feel really insecure and jealous when i stumble upon the history page with lots of porn downloads.. i don't understand why he does this.. he doesn't even look at other women when he's with me. he focuses his attention on me. but he does download lots and lots of porn content when i am away. (we don't live together) so, should i be worried? i would appreciate anyone's opinion. thanks!

[UCFKevin]

Nope. Don't be worried. Just be glad he's not out there banging other broads. It's just release. Sometimes masturbating is a hell of a lot easier and quicker than sex. And it's easier to masturbate to porn than, say, the Learning Channel.

[friend6]

I wonder the same thing about my fiance. We do live together, and he is the most amazing person. He does so much for me, and I know he would do anything for me. But I get so upset when I find porn on his computer. It drives me crazy.

 

And it really hurts. I just don't understand why he needs to look at that when he has me. He often does it right before I come home, why not wait till I get there?

 

And some of the things he looks at disgust me. I don't know how to talk to him about it, how to bring it up, or what I would even say.

[UrbanAngel]

There really is no cause for your concern. These are just two-dimensional pictures on a computer screen, and don't hold a candle to a real, loving woman. Obviously you cannot be there every single time during the day when he gets aroused, and this is just a way of spicing up the situation when he, uh, takes matters into his own hands.

 

It sounds like you both have great relationships, enjoy!

[Faerie Princess]

I agree, don't worry. Some time ago I was jealous of my husband's porn. In fact we fought over it on a number of occaisions. The real reason I was jealous was because I felt that i wasn't enough, not because he did.

 

He was totally happy with me, and still is for that matter. He likes to look at porn. It's fantasy, it's entertainment, sometimes even a masturbation tool. It's not about fixing something that's missing.

 

Not everything in your s.o's life is about you. He's an individual with his own thoughts, interests and yes, desires. It doesn't hurt you that he looks at images. If your relationship is sound, you nurture and care for each other, none of the rest of that stuff matters.

 

Focus on yourself. Are you happy with who you are? If not, work towards goals that make you happier. If so, (and it sound like he is.) then let him have his porn. Maybe even find your own interests, if not porn, knitting web pages!