Longdistance relationship ended

[Bulletino]

Hi Everyone,

 

I've had been in a long distance relationship for over 4 months, these 4 months where great!

 

We have met each other on vacation and i where the first one who had to catch the flight. I realised in the air plane that i did not had her phone number, quite stupid! But when i came home I've send her a e-mail so everything felt together.

 

Directly after 3 weeks she had visited me ( 1500 Miles ) for 5 days, everything where perfect and she allready started to talk like; well i can live here and such things. We've called each other every,every and seriously everyday! Then it where my turn to visited her, so i had planned to make my visitation with my birthday. The days that i where there where alsmost unreal, her parents, friends and even her grandparents where suprised and so friendly ( because they really liked me ).

 

But the only problem was when i had visited her, i had a big fight with her best girl friend! She started to be annoying and jealous to me. For what? she don't have her on live, everything depends on my ex girl friend.

 

Since that i've left her that girlfriend started to get her attention,making jokes and beeying anoying when maked my phone calls to my ex girlfriend ( so she where trying to make me angry ). on some kind of moment i started to feel frustrated about the whole happening, so i've sayd it a couple of times to my ex, but she where saying; no that's not true! she's not talking about on you and more of those things ( defending her girlfriend ).

 

So i maked the most stupid mistake ( every guy does ) when she broke up with me. I started to write letters, directly starting to talk with her on msn, sending her message and more of those things. After a week she got mad on me, she said; If u had things go naturally, if u had give me a break then i had reconsiderd about the relationship again. Everyone in my friendslist are saying: She's brainwashed by her girlfriend ( so called : Best girlfriend ) and they are totally right with that. The days before she broke up with me everything where still okay and we never had any problems with each other.

 

Here's my question:

 

They have always said to me, her sister and she. When a relation has ended we are blocking that person on msn en remove him! But with me the still are standing online:|, so they haven't removed or deleted me.

 

So we started to talk with each other like 2 weeks ago, she wasn't really intressted in me. So i've asked her; why are u doing this? like if ther is nothing happend between us, if i'm some kind of strainger to u! Respown: i don't have a problem to talk to u! So i decided to go offline and if wished her goodnight, directly she respown ( there wasn't any conversation for 10 min ) I'm calling with my grandfather, so that's why!:S. Quite straings i think, why would she say that to me? :S.

 

The day after she came online when i where online, she came 4 times in 3 minutes online, perhaps to get my attention! So i started to talk again. Suprisely enough she started to be intressted in me:| so i quite the conversation just because i had to go.

 

4 days after, i've send her this in the middle of the night : A crying and a hugh emotion. She recieved it 5 days later around 12 pm because i saw her coming online, but my status where offline so she didn't know that i where online. Later on the day i've came online around 12.30 am, it took 30 minutes before she asked me something; What the hell did u mean with the crying and the hugh faces? So i've answerd on that; I've missed and i hate this situation. She didn't reply on that, quite straings if u ask me every moron knows what it means!

 

Then i've started with NC. The most straingest thing; she's coming online on the most straingest times that she never did! and sometimes she's aways for 2 days and then she's back for a couple of hours, i've noticed that she had blocked me but she's also unblocking me.

 

and one more thing; Everytime when i've asked her; How r u doing? answer: Verrrrrry good!!!

 

And she really never did it! never before, but if u are seeying pictures from her ( on the moment ) u can see her sadness in her eyes, everyone says that.

 

What do i have to?

 

Thanks,

 

Bulletino

[Island Girl]

You need to leave her alone.

 

You said you were in NC but you really weren't because if she contacted you about something you messaged back. NC means you do not reach out to her and IF she contacts you about anything other than an evaluation of the relationship and a possible second chance you ignore her.

 

That rule still applies. You are spending an awful lot of time and energy stewing over things that may or may not have meaning and trying to decipher actions that are pointless to think about.

 

There are a million reasons why she could be popping on and off, not blocking you then blocking you, etc.

You should have her blocked on any chats like that.

Watching what she is doing will drive you crazy (as it is doing right now) and it blocks you from getting your head on straight.

 

Seriously, if she came back right now, you are a mess both mentally and emotionally. I highly doubt you are the same person in your head that you were when you met her.

It sounds like you have become extremely emotional and needy. Those qualities are NEVER attractive. In fact, they are things that will drive a person away from you.

 

Get your head on straight.

 

And realize that if a friend has that much influence over her and her feelings then she is WEAK and her feelings for you were WEAK.

That may hurt but it is true.

If one of my friends didn't like my man - they better just keep their mouth closed about it because it isn't THEIR relationship - I love him and am devoted to him END OF STORY.

 

However, the way you acted (being needy and accusatory) may have driven a wedge between the two of you.

 

It is time to examine yourself and YOUR actions instead of trying to figure her out. You know what motivated you when you did certain things. You know why you were so threatened by a friend of hers.

You know why you did not accept her word that the friend was leaving the subject of you alone.

Try to take the time to figure out why you started to react the way you did. Why you became so fearful in this relationship.

And learn the valuable lesson which is why and how not to react that way again.

[Bulletino]

You need to leave her alone.

 

You said you were in NC but you really weren't because if she contacted you about something you messaged back. NC means you do not reach out to her and IF she contacts you about anything other than an evaluation of the relationship and a possible second chance you ignore her.

 

That rule still applies. You are spending an awful lot of time and energy stewing over things that may or may not have meaning and trying to decipher actions that are pointless to think about.

 

There are a million reasons why she could be popping on and off, not blocking you then blocking you, etc.

You should have her blocked on any chats like that.

Watching what she is doing will drive you crazy (as it is doing right now) and it blocks you from getting your head on straight.

 

Seriously, if she came back right now, you are a mess both mentally and emotionally. I highly doubt you are the same person in your head that you were when you met her.

It sounds like you have become extremely emotional and needy. Those qualities are NEVER attractive. In fact, they are things that will drive a person away from you.

 

Get your head on straight.

 

And realize that if a friend has that much influence over her and her feelings then she is WEAK and her feelings for you were WEAK.

That may hurt but it is true.

If one of my friends didn't like my man - they better just keep their mouth closed about it because it isn't THEIR relationship - I love him and am devoted to him END OF STORY.

 

However, the way you acted (being needy and accusatory) may have driven a wedge between the two of you.

 

It is time to examine yourself and YOUR actions instead of trying to figure her out. You know what motivated you when you did certain things. You know why you were so threatened by a friend of hers.

You know why you did not accept her word that the friend was leaving the subject of you alone.

Try to take the time to figure out why you started to react the way you did. Why you became so fearful in this relationship.

And learn the valuable lesson which is why and how not to react that way again.

 

Well like you've said; I'm leaving her all ready alone for 2 weeks. But i haven't blocked her from msn, i don't know why! but it's like that she's gone for ever. But It's quite interesting about the story that they ( sister and she ) where saying: Block and remove! like i wrote up on the page. But why would she have asked me about the crying & Hugh faces?

 

And yes I'm getting my own life back ( in control ) I'm making fun and doing everything what I've always did, it's not a option to go sit back and wait! Life's to short for that. And if she may contact me then it would be nice but before her ( that's how I'm thinking ) life where also good.

 

And u r story about: Weak that's totally true! Now I will keep up my NC for another 2/3 weeks:)

 

Thanks already!

 

By the way: My apologise for my English! I've never learned it on school!

[Island Girl]

Well like you've said; I'm leaving her all ready alone for 2 weeks. But i haven't blocked her from msn, i don't know why! but it's like that she's gone for ever. But It's quite interesting about the story that they ( sister and she ) where saying: Block and remove! like i wrote up on the page. But why would she have asked me about the crying & Hugh faces?

 

She may have wanted an ego boost of you letting her know you are still pining away for her.

She may have misconstrued the meaning of it and wanted it clarified.

Who knows. But at this point it doesn't matter.

THIS is why you need to block her on your messenger, etc. So that you won't keep trying to figure out why she is doing this or that.

Only she knows for sure and you are in NC so just forget about it.

Quit checking on her or more of this kind of stuff will happen and drive you nuts.

 

And yes I'm getting my own life back ( in control ) I'm making fun and doing everything what I've always did, it's not a option to go sit back and wait! Life's to short for that. And if she may contact me then it would be nice but before her ( that's how I'm thinking ) life where also good.

 

Good. That is what you need to be doing. And you should be thinking, "SHE was stupid enough to let ME go??!! Then she doesn't deserve me. I will now find someone who does!"

 

And u r story about: Weak that's totally true! Now I will keep up my NC for another 2/3 weeks:)

 

Yeah. I kind of could figure that out from the story.

 

So get the strong man back in charge. And figure out why you became so needy and fearful. If you get to the bottom of it then you can work on changing it so it never happens again.

 

Thanks already!

 

You are very welcome!

 

And I didn't say it before (SORRY) so Welcome to Loveshack!

 

By the way: My apologise for my English! I've never learned it on school!

 

English is my husbands second language. It isn't a big deal.

And yours is quite good for learning on your own!.

[Bulletino]

She may have wanted an ego boost of you letting her know you are still pining away for her.

She may have misconstrued the meaning of it and wanted it clarified.

Who knows. But at this point it doesn't matter.

THIS is why you need to block her on your messenger, etc. So that you won't keep trying to figure out why she is doing this or that.

Only she knows for sure and you are in NC so just forget about it.

Quit checking on her or more of this kind of stuff will happen and drive you nuts.

 

 

 

Good. That is what you need to be doing. And you should be thinking, "SHE was stupid enough to let ME go??!! Then she doesn't deserve me. I will now find someone who does!"

 

 

 

Yeah. I kind of could figure that out from the story.

 

So get the strong man back in charge. And figure out why you became so needy and fearful. If you get to the bottom of it then you can work on changing it so it never happens again.

 

 

 

You are very welcome!

 

And I didn't say it before (SORRY) so Welcome to Loveshack!

 

 

 

English is my husbands second language. It isn't a big deal.

And yours is quite good for learning on your own!.

 

Thanks! for answering my questions;).

 

I'm glad that somebody is telling me all this! it's almost quiet funny that she's is or should i say;) she was answering: How r u doing? Verry good! what she never did before. I've had seen pictures of her recently, and she looked so up set, and totally not happy! every single person in my life had admit that she looked horrible, with pictures of us beeying together. So i think she's confussed and don't know what to do. And i'll take u r advice of blocking her, because? If she wants to make contact with me? she know how she can find me. Text messaging or e-mail there's always a way to make contact. So I've blocked and removed her! and even her sister.

 

Now i will grab my stuf for training.

 

I'll keep it updated ( if there's something happening )

[Island Girl]

Good for you.

 

And keep doing what is GOOD FOR YOU.

 

Right now you need to be caring about yourself and your own well being.

 

Keep busy. Go out with friends, work out, and focus on your life.

[Bayern]

By the way: My apologise for my English! I've never learned it on school!

 

It's very good for never learning it in school. Parli Italiano?

[Bulletino]

It's very good for never learning it in school. Parli Italiano?

 

Thanks! No i'm not a italiano;)

 

Ciao:P

[Bulletino]

I have blocked and removed her from my msn list. But now there are some people who are asking me; why did u blocked and removed her? She's the one who has to contact you, and if u are blocking her from msn u are making the message clear for her, that u don't ever want to have any contact any more. So this all make me a little insecure:( if it was right to block and remove them..

[Island Girl]

I have blocked and removed her from my msn list. But now there are some people who are asking me; why did u blocked and removed her? She's the one who has to contact you, and if u are blocking her from msn u are making the message clear for her, that u don't ever want to have any contact any more. So this all make me a little insecure:( if it was right to block and remove them..

 

Don't WORRY about her reaction. She certainly is not worrying about your feelings or how you will take her actions.

 

If she wants to contact you -- and it is that important to her she KNOWS HOW. As you said she knows your number and has your e-mail.

 

And if it isn't important enough for her to track you down, believe me, you don't want to hear it because it will not be a discussion of the relationship.

 

Please understand that if someone BREAKS UP WITH YOU then that person is no longer deserving of an intimate place in your life. You do not concern yourself with what they think or feel anymore. Because, I assure you, they are not thinking of you, your feelings, etc. anymore.

 

If someone is stupid enough to let you go, then it is THEIR LOSS, isn't it?

 

And shouldn't you concern yourself with getting on with your life and finding someone who will appreciate you and wouldn't let you go?

 

Now, at this point, she MAY have a change of heart.

But she will never miss what is not gone. You need to be absent from her life in all ways so she can really see what she is giving up. Let her remember how you used to be (not the weak and insecure individual she dumped) and YOU need to find that guy within yourself again.

THAT GUY wouldn't take crumbs or be treated badly and still hang around begging for another chance, right? Find HIM again.

[Bulletino]

Don't WORRY about her reaction. She certainly is not worrying about your feelings or how you will take her actions.

 

If she wants to contact you -- and it is that important to her she KNOWS HOW. As you said she knows your number and has your e-mail.

 

And if it isn't important enough for her to track you down, believe me, you don't want to hear it because it will not be a discussion of the relationship.

 

Please understand that if someone BREAKS UP WITH YOU then that person is no longer deserving of an intimate place in your life. You do not concern yourself with what they think or feel anymore. Because, I assure you, they are not thinking of you, your feelings, etc. anymore.

 

If someone is stupid enough to let you go, then it is THEIR LOSS, isn't it?

 

And shouldn't you concern yourself with getting on with your life and finding someone who will appreciate you and wouldn't let you go?

 

Now, at this point, she MAY have a change of heart.

But she will never miss what is not gone. You need to be absent from her life in all ways so she can really see what she is giving up. Let her remember how you used to be (not the weak and insecure individual she dumped) and YOU need to find that guy within yourself again.

THAT GUY wouldn't take crumbs or be treated badly and still hang around begging for another chance, right? Find HIM again.

 

I really want to thank u for the time that u are taking to respond, I really can appreciate your reactions. But like u have said; She's not caring about my feelings, she's probably only thinking of her own feelings. So I've follow u r advice; blocking and removed her from my MSN list. Now tonight, I've heard from a friend of my, she where constantly coming online. Almost if she where looking for me ( he said it ) and I had a well done feeling, seriously I had a great feeling that I didn't saw here online. And like we've said before she know's how to contact me. Next month 23 Sep it's her birthday, first i thought to send her a Message by phone, to congradulate, but i think that's out of option. i assume. And what if she is contacting me?

 

Friendly Regards,

 

Bulletino

 

By the way: I've did it before after that we broke up, the 3th week. I've used NC for 2 weeks, after that i had unblocked them both here sister started to talk to me, she where very,very very interested in me like; what i had done those other weeks. And where I had been on vacation and more of those things. Friends of my and my self where assuming that wasn't my ex girlfriend her sister but that she spoke by her self. So she got all the information what she wanted, how life went with me and al those other things. I'm quiet happy that i've blocked&removed her. If things come back? it will stay forever, i've heard it once and it always kept on my mind.

[Bulletino]

Damn, I'm missing her! I don't know why:S but the whole entire day I've thought about her. Why after so many weeks after the break that I'm still having moments that I am thinking about her. And yes I've got plenty of other things and my mind. Are woman so different then guys? is there a change that she also have these kind of moments?

 

Friendly Regards,

 

Bulletino

[Island Girl]

Damn, I'm missing her! I don't know why:S but the whole entire day I've thought about her. Why after so many weeks after the break that I'm still having moments that I am thinking about her. And yes I've got plenty of other things and my mind. Are woman so different then guys? is there a change that she also have these kind of moments?

 

Friendly Regards,

 

Bulletino

 

 

If you had stayed NC for weeks it would be different.

 

But any time you have contact or watch her online, etc. you have to start over.

Today would be day one or two. So feeling this way is NOT surprising. It is to be expected.

You will have good days and bad days so expect THAT as well and just keep yourself from doing anything stupid like contacting her, her sister, or anyone else connected with her and it will go away.

 

Tell friends or whoever it is giving you updates about her NOT TO DO THAT. It will just make your days miserable.

 

The miserable days WILL get few and far between - Then they will be gone altogether and happiness will fill your days.

But you kept the game going for these last few weeks. So the time starts now when you will refocus on YOU and get your life back together.

 

CHIN UP.

 

 

Cheers!

 

I G

[Bulletino]

If you had stayed NC for weeks it would be different.

 

But any time you have contact or watch her online, etc. you have to start over.

Today would be day one or two. So feeling this way is NOT surprising. It is to be expected.

You will have good days and bad days so expect THAT as well and just keep yourself from doing anything stupid like contacting her, her sister, or anyone else connected with her and it will go away.

 

Tell friends or whoever it is giving you updates about her NOT TO DO THAT. It will just make your days miserable.

 

The miserable days WILL get few and far between - Then they will be gone altogether and happiness will fill your days.

But you kept the game going for these last few weeks. So the time starts now when you will refocus on YOU and get your life back together.

 

CHIN UP.

 

 

Cheers!

 

I G

 

 

Yeah well u are right on some points. But what do i have to do with; she gave me a golden lighter, on the lighter there is a text; From me to my dearest ... from ...

 

Do i have to throw it away? the pictures? and everything else what left. Okay i've put it in a box, and kept it out of my side. But still she's somewhere in my head. Today i had the feeling like; Okay her friendship can't stand forever with her best girlfriend, because she's going to study on another school. Besides her so called; best girlfriend! is back with her boy friend again, so that means she won't spend that much time with her anymore ( i guess ) normaly that will change the whole situation, or am i'm thinking straings right now?

 

Another fact. She told me twice that she loved me, she where even scared by her self about it. Once she where very very drunk and the other time 1 day before i went to visited her. She never said it before to a guy. I know i'm getting old memories, I've got a quiet intressting and helpful answer from a friend. Why don't u write a letter next week? so then u won't have any contact for at least a month. So things got has changed, u don't have to send it, maybe u can put it on some special place ( like the box ) and then put it away. So that i've wrote it down on a paper, he sayd that to me, would be a good idea?

 

Damn, i'm missing her smell,phone calls, messages ( we've send each other 1300 messages in 3 months :| with out the phone calls ) her sweetness ( what has left on it ) and some other things.

 

Friendly regards,

 

Bulletino

[Island Girl]

Writing a letter is a good idea. But do not send it. No matter what - do not send it.

 

And with her change of circumstances with the friend and school she just may have a change of heart. BUT you should not preoccupy yourself with this thought. You should do what you normally do in your life - even MORE actually because you want to be very busy. So busy you can not think about her and so busy that when you get home you just want to go to sleep.

 

Work on yourself to get back to how you used to be. The strong, intelligent, self assured guy you were before all of the drama and insecurity. Don't you miss him? Find him again.

 

You are doing really well so far.

[Bulletino]

Writing a letter is a good idea. But do not send it. No matter what - do not send it.

 

And with her change of circumstances with the friend and school she just may have a change of heart. BUT you should not preoccupy yourself with this thought. You should do what you normally do in your life - even MORE actually because you want to be very busy. So busy you can not think about her and so busy that when you get home you just want to go to sleep.

 

Work on yourself to get back to how you used to be. The strong, intelligent, self assured guy you were before all of the drama and insecurity. Don't you miss him? Find him again.

 

You are doing really well so far.

 

Hey:),

 

I've wrote the letter with 2 hours, 4 papers totally filled up. Like an hour ago i had to help a girlfriend of my ( just a normal, nothing special ) And she saw the papers on my table, she where interested and she asked me if it where good if she could have a quick view on it. So i agreed with it.

 

After 10 minutes she started to look on me, I've asked her; What the hell are u looking? she answered; Damn this letter is one of the most beautiful things what I've ever had seen, how u are describe things ( from the beginning till the end ) and so deeply. It almost seems that u can remember every single moment with her, u defently have to send it to her, she will read this paper over and over. And she couldn't stop talking about the letter :|. I even send the letter to another friend of my. And his words where the same like her words.

 

Damn, I'm having a very good day! and now 2 persons are saying; u have to send it! especially with a week ( then we didn't had any contact for a month ) and that's even the day that we started the relationship with each other.

 

It's so funny what people can do with you * i'm talking about my friends right now *

 

Bulletino

[Island Girl]

Fantastic. I am glad you are having such a good day.

 

Don't send the letter. Maintain NC. YOU need to heal.

 

There are plenty of threads here on LS about NC, staying in NC, why to stay in NC, etc. Everyone will tell you the same thing -- that contact creates a setback.

Even sending a letter then generates the questions: I wonder if she got it yet, read it yet, how she feels about it, what she is thinking, etc.

So you do not send it.

 

I know I keep saying this but just a few weeks ago you were lost and weak. Your mind got twisted and plagued by insecurity and you were fear driven. That is not your natural mental state. And you have not had enough time to get back to yourself and be strong enough not to go right back to that.

This is your time that you need to care for yourself.

And I am glad you have started to do that.

[Bulletino]

Fantastic. I am glad you are having such a good day.

 

Don't send the letter. Maintain NC. YOU need to heal.

 

There are plenty of threads here on LS about NC, staying in NC, why to stay in NC, etc. Everyone will tell you the same thing -- that contact creates a setback.

Even sending a letter then generates the questions: I wonder if she got it yet, read it yet, how she feels about it, what she is thinking, etc.

So you do not send it.

 

I know I keep saying this but just a few weeks ago you were lost and weak. Your mind got twisted and plagued by insecurity and you were fear driven. That is not your natural mental state. And you have not had enough time to get back to yourself and be strong enough not to go right back to that.

This is your time that you need to care for yourself.

And I am glad you have started to do that.

 

 

No i'm not sending her the e-mail, not yet! maybe with a month or so. But i really want to have her back, i can't describe why but she's special to me ( yeah to me, perhaps i'm not special to her ) i had so many ladies before, and now i'm having other ladies chasing me, but i refuse it constantly. Like my friends where saying; she and her sister are playing online games ( i've blocked and deleted them ) but they are really playing a game.

[Island Girl]

Just remember:

You don't want her reminded of the weak, insecure man she dumped.

You want her to remember the you from the beginning. Bad things fade and become less significant with time and the good things (if there are some - and there ARE in your case) remain. That is just the way the human mind works.

 

And even if she were to come back TODAY you should not just jump back in to where you started. A whole new respect and pattern has to be built again so you are not right back to being dumped in a matter of weeks.

 

She can not miss someone who is still there. That is why you need to stay ABSENT from her life. Sending the letter gives her a "taste" of you again - big mistake.

 

The NC is also for YOU so you can again become the strong self assured man she fell in love with. YOU need him back too.

Please quit focusing on her and what she is doing. You have done that for far too long. You can not maintain a healthy relationship and give up yourself entirely. You did that and look what happened. You lost yourself and became all consumed with her, what she thinks, how she feels, etc.

It is ALWAYS a mistake to do that. Learn this lesson now and you will be the better for it for the rest of your life.

 

I only wish you the best.

[Bulletino]

Just remember:

You don't want her reminded of the weak, insecure man she dumped.

You want her to remember the you from the beginning. Bad things fade and become less significant with time and the good things (if there are some - and there ARE in your case) remain. That is just the way the human mind works.

 

And even if she were to come back TODAY you should not just jump back in to where you started. A whole new respect and pattern has to be built again so you are not right back to being dumped in a matter of weeks.

 

She can not miss someone who is still there. That is why you need to stay ABSENT from her life. Sending the letter gives her a "taste" of you again - big mistake.

 

The NC is also for YOU so you can again become the strong self assured man she fell in love with. YOU need him back too.

Please quit focusing on her and what she is doing. You have done that for far too long. You can not maintain a healthy relationship and give up yourself entirely. You did that and look what happened. You lost yourself and became all consumed with her, what she thinks, how she feels, etc.

It is ALWAYS a mistake to do that. Learn this lesson now and you will be the better for it for the rest of your life.

 

I only wish you the best.

 

No u are right! I don't want to be the weak and unconfident guy. She had met a guy with a lot of convicts, and I'm still doing the NC.

 

So everything goes well with me, I'm glad that the sun came up today:) i had a beautiful day on the beach:D.

 

I'll keep it posted ( If any thing is changing ) or that I need some support:)

 

Friendly regards,

 

Bulletino

[Bulletino]

This Friday I'm sending her the letter. 4 pages

[Island Girl]

This Friday I'm sending her the letter. 4 pages

 

Did you read all of the threads from people here who broke NC and what the result was?

If not I'd advise you to do so.

 

I have yet to see of a case where it worked out for the better.

 

If you are dead set on sending the letter - please be prepared for some really hard days next week. And realize it sets you back to square one again.

[Bulletino]

Did you read all of the threads from people here who broke NC and what the result was?

If not I'd advise you to do so.

 

I have yet to see of a case where it worked out for the better.

 

If you are dead set on sending the letter - please be prepared for some really hard days next week. And realize it sets you back to square one again.

 

Hey I'm back;),

 

Well first at all i have to admit I had a wonderful week. A lot of work and busy with training, so i accomplished my duty;). I've send her the letter last Saturday ( 23th of august ) And I've had stayed off-line on msn for a couple of days, but i didn't got any reply on my letter. After a couple of days of staying off-line i came back online, but she didn't spoke with me at all. I didn't want to start the conversation because i allready had wrote her the letter. Some friends are saying, well it's a emotional letter and perhaps ( if u don't get a e-mail back ) it's a good sign:S otherwise she would have wrote u a letter to **** off. But i stay with my opinion; she's done with me and she don't want to spend her time on writing a letter back.

[Island Girl]

Hey I'm back;),

 

Well first at all i have to admit I had a wonderful week. A lot of work and busy with training, so i accomplished my duty;). I've send her the letter last Saturday ( 23th of august ) And I've had stayed off-line on msn for a couple of days, but i didn't got any reply on my letter. After a couple of days of staying off-line i came back online, but she didn't spoke with me at all. I didn't want to start the conversation because i allready had wrote her the letter. Some friends are saying, well it's a emotional letter and perhaps ( if u don't get a e-mail back ) it's a good sign:S otherwise she would have wrote u a letter to **** off. But i stay with my opinion; she's done with me and she don't want to spend her time on writing a letter back.

 

I am glad to hear you are doing so well.

 

The only thing you can do at this point is keep going with your life and not look back anymore.

You shouldn't start conversation - you are right - you wrote a letter and the next move is on her side.

I hope you get to the point where you will not be watching her activities (whether she is online or not, etc.). If you can't break yourself of this then you should remove her from your contact list.

 

But all in all you are doing fantastic with everything so far.

Stay strong.

[Bulletino]

I am glad to hear you are doing so well.

 

The only thing you can do at this point is keep going with your life and not look back anymore.

You shouldn't start conversation - you are right - you wrote a letter and the next move is on her side.

I hope you get to the point where you will not be watching her activities (whether she is online or not, etc.). If you can't break yourself of this then you should remove her from your contact list.

 

But all in all you are doing fantastic with everything so far.

Stay strong.

 

 

Hello there,

 

What's up? I'm doing fine!

 

The last 2 months i haven't looked on this forum anymore. Because i were to busy with other things, Blocked them both and placed them in a group were i couldn't see them anymore. And it worked out! for me:)

What if did recently? not much but it cost alot of energie: Work,work, college,school, college etc etc.. So i couldn't think about them anymore.

 

only Last month i've send her a message with her birthday: Happy birthday! That's all. But from yesterday i've unblock her sister and placed her in a group were i could see her again, but i will keep blocking my ex girlfriend.

If she want to have contact? because she's so lonely right now haha ( best girlfriend ) has emigrated to another country. She know how to find me.

 

Before i blocked her so, 2 months ago? i had a terrific fight with her:). Her sister and i were talking normaly ( 3/4 times ) with each other, and the last time my ex girlfriend came on her msn: Talking rude, and straings to me so i said: Block and remove me like i will! and i blocked her directly, but she can't for some reason but i'm fine with that. And for some reason i know she will contact, oterwish she already had blocked and removed me ( if she were serious about her words to me ) soon or later but first i will make a great time with other peope:)..

 

And how r u doing? still okay? Hopefully you are doing well!

 

Bulletino