blue_eyes Posted November 14, 2003 Share Posted November 14, 2003 i need help as soon as i can with this problem. i'm so scared right now. i just found something else that set off a warning sign in my head.. i don't know what to do. i thought i knew my bf. i love him, but he's changing it seems. before, it was just fairly innocent porno. now it is about torture and i found lots of vids and pics depicting horrible acts of violence. these aren't just those fantasy role playing sites.. these are those black market snuff kind of videos.. with real people. my bf has always had a fascination with serial killers, namely ted bundy. at first, he said he was just interested in the psychology of it all. but i have found "recipes" for destruction on the computer and death wish sites. he has never hurt me, but he has gotten very isolated and withdrawn and very moody. i want to leave him.. i love him. but this has gone too far. the thing is, i'm scared his fascination with this stuff is indicative that he may go off and really make these fantasies a reality. please help! Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted November 14, 2003 Share Posted November 14, 2003 How well do you really know him? His background, etc. Has he been using any drugs? New friends? Does he have a record? Could he have a medical problem? A sudden shift or dramatic change in personality, behavior, etc. can be so many things - something inherent that is brought into view by an outside factor, or a medical problem from depression and emotional problems to tumors or infections. That would scare me too. I think if I found my husband doing something like that I would try to find a professional to talk to about it - privately, and get him to a doctor for a complete medical and psychological workup. And I would distance myself from him for a while also if I were truly afraid. I've always been fascinated by mechanics of death and I also have a collection of "true crime" type books about murderers. I've been to some rather disturbing websites (I've seen the autopsy photos of JFK, Tupac, etc.) but my interest is more clinical and I don't associate with the criminals or the criminal acts. Do you think your BF associates with people who commit the crimes? A trained psychologist might be able to find out for sure. If you ara afraid then you need to get away until you, and he, can sort this out and he can be helped if he needs it. Link to post Share on other sites
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