What is your persception on this?

[Intrinsic1]

We have know each other for two and a half years now. Used to work together. At the beginning i was in the relationship and after my break up he was trying to persue me but didnt ever put enough effort in it, like he would make plans and would never follow through or would contact me for a while and then dissapear.

 

I was always trying to be careful and stay away from him because i knew that he was only interested in hooking up with girls from his athletics and work. I guess that kept him interested for a long time.

 

Multiple times ive heard from our mutual friends how much he likes me and even has feelings for me. He did pay me alot of attention aswell. and ones at a work event we even kissed. He acted really shy when he kissed me.

 

After we both changed work we would still keep in touch through facebook and sms and met for drinks with mutual friends from work. In the past months he was very persistant with trying to see me to catch up and that but my best friend who knew him also would always talk me out of seeing him because she knew he would just hurt me in the end, and like he did before, with making plans and then dissapearing and then appologising.. and also i knew he didnt want anything serious he is only 24, and i respected that. i knew some great girls who dated him but it never ended serious.

 

i knew all this and still, after him trying to get a date with me for 5 months, i thought it wouldnt hurt and we ended up seeing each other. We actually have many common interests like video games, music... however it was still abit strange. he always took ages to text back, and i was trying to be carefull and we didnt actually have sex. However we did have good time and he made me laugh like no one. That went on for a month and a half.

 

A few weeks back after i stayed over at his house on saturday, i asked if he wanted to come down and have some drinks with me and my friends during the week, he texted later that he would love to see me and will see what he can do, he was at mates house and it was already late so he didnt make it. On friday early morning he asked if i had any plans for later that day and i said i was going to a party and asked what he was doing. He never replied. Next morning we talked on facebook, he said he was helping his house mate tidy the house for some friends coming over, and i suggested he should come over and "tidy" mine, he replied that he will text me later and see what im up to. He never did. I assume he met someone at that party. I texted him 3 days later just saying about some news about our mutual friends and saying that i missed him and asked how he was doing, and he never replied.

 

i know it mite all seem so clear and its clear to me, but im just so confused with my self for letting mself be his victim again this time he hurt me more, clearly i have developed deeper feelings for him. and i miss him too. a week later i deleted him from facebook so i could forget him easier and also recently found out that my friends sister who had a one nite stand with him long time ago, texted him around the same time we stopped seeing each other , asking him if she heard it right and if he is my bitch now? my friend told me that he replied with his usual like 'oh no i dont like her' or something his style.

 

That last nite i stayed over at his house was very special to me, and he did give me indication that he wanted to see me again. and then that message asking if he was my bitch, and i assume he met another girl at his housemates party that i know will not last very long.. i am hurt because i wasnt exactly trying to be his girlfriend anyway and he could at least just text me back with SOMETHING! but i also got exacly what i was expecting, for him to hurt me again. What is wrong with me? If he wanted to get with me he could have at least had sex with me first, cos we were about at that stage. What is wrong with this picture? i feel like he will try to make his way back, but maybe not. I also feel like revenge. Im so tired of loosing this game with him all the time. We at least could have stayed civil, but he just ignored me, and i deleted him from facebook. Its so hard to find peace.. Did he just want to hurt me and play with my feelings? Validate his ego? Any ideas? thoughts? God i want revenge too Thanks for even reading this anyways, maybe somebody could relate to this, or learn something...

[silic0ntoad]

Honestly, I hate to put it to you like this, this dude played you. He got what he wanted. It's a jagged pill to swallow, but I doubt very much if the feelings were returned from his end, if not just simply played off to get you in the sack.

 

Cut this prick off. You deserve better, since you took it slow. He is simply trying to fufil a void in himself by using others. It's disgusting and shouldn't happen, but I doubt if you hear from him again it would be for anything meaningful.