luckyman7777 Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 I have been married to the same woman for over 20 years, but for years I have been lonely. I love the feeling of being in love and looking into my partners eyes and becoming one in a crowded room. It seems now that my wife has filled her life with so many things church, work, our son that I don't exist any longer. I have tried to tell he how I feel but she just gets angry. We can not be close in the same room any longer for fear of touching one another. I tried the other day just to touch her shoulder, but she jerked away from me. On a recent birthday she called me at work and said she was bringing a birthday lunch, I was thrilled after 11 years at this employer, she was finally bringing dinner. Later my son arrived with my lunch, I was so disappointed my employees noticed. I guess they felt sorry for me they sent out for a Birthday sheetcake and the highlight of my birthday was being hugged by one of my employees in front of all 25 others, this girl is a lesbian so no bad ideas!. I plan this coming weekend to get an apartment and move out. I have lived with my wife feeling so alone that I don't think I will notice the difference. Link to post Share on other sites
LisaUk Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 Before you do that, can I suggest you read the devastaion of those of us who have been left on this board. Please just sit down calmly with your w and tell her in plain terms how you feel, that you are about to check out and what to go MC first or it is over. Sometimes it takes this shock for a spouse to truely HEAR you. I do feel for you, but do everything you can to save your marriage first. Link to post Share on other sites
Thaddeus Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 Before you do that, can I suggest you read the devastaion of those of us who have been left on this board. Please just sit down calmly with your w and tell her in plain terms how you feel, that you are about to check out and what to go MC first or it is over. Sometimes it takes this shock for a spouse to truely HEAR you. I do feel for you, but do everything you can to save your marriage first.Lisa is right, but you have to do something before you do the sit-down with your wife. Get legal advice. Protect yourself and your assets. She must not know that you have done this. Hopefully you won't have to go the separation/divorce route, but if you must, you have to make sure that you structure it in such a way that you don't get financially raped. I'm NOT suggesting for a minute that you do anything underhanded or leave her destitute. But I AM suggesting that divorce courts in most jurisdictions are heavily weighted in favour of the woman, so you really need to do your legal homework first. Link to post Share on other sites
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