soda Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 1. What Hollywood puts on the screen isn't any more real than "reality TV." Romantic comedies are just that. It feels good because it's an escape from reality. Those people are also prettier than you, me, and everyone in between. 2. Your spouse gets to deal with sick kids, bills and your bad breath and "issues." Anybody else gets to deal with you when you are "charming." The man or woman who is flirting with you has never heard you fart. 3. People who have affairs are selfish, lazy, and cowardly. Their friends and family do judge them. People forgive but they don't forget. 4. You really don't have an "amazing connection" with that "friend." He or she has just succeeded in figuring out what you want to hear when you want to hear it. To be honest, that takes a freakish amount of work or there wouldn't be so many books written about marriage and relationships. 5. You probably said "I do" in front of someone. If you didn't mean it, you probably shouldn't have done that. 6. Everyone deserves a good love story. One. If you need more, you should pick up a trashy novel. 7. Be careful what you ask for. You might get it. 8. If you've found someone "better" than your spouse, be prepared for the reality that five people who truly are better than you are lined up waiting for your spouse. 9. Kids pick up on everything. They're probably not interested in trying to understand the nuisances that "made you cheat" and subjected them to years and years of being shuttled from home to home. 10. It takes a lot of lies to cheat. You'll probably still be caught in the long run, anyway. Facing up to the consequences of your lies will last beyond the divorce. 11. Likewise, your friends, employers, and families probably know more about what's going on than you think that they do. Silence is not golden. In fact, silence usually means that people haven't figured out how to tell you that you're a creep. 12. If you want to be appreciated, work harder at your marriage. 13. If you have to hide your behavior, you're doing something wrong. 14. Men--she birthed your babies. Her fun parts are neater, cooler, and more loving than you could have hoped for. 15. Women--the other guy isn't interested in raising your kids, no matter what he's telling you. 16. Life really is this simple. There's nothing to figure out. If you don't know what you want, it's because you've made your life unneccessarily complicated. Cut the drama and you'll be just fine. 17. There are exceptions to every rule. Yours is probably not one of them. Get over yourself. 18. People always seem better than they are. The more that you learn about them, the more flaws you'll find. Don't trade celery today for dog poop tomorrow. 19. Winners never cheat and cheaters never win. 20. He or she is only flirting with you because he or she is convinced that you're stupid enough to buy into it. Do you really want to be with someone who believes that you are stupid? Link to post Share on other sites
RA1 Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 This doesn't seem to ask a question. Should it be in the Rant sction? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 Nice points! I especially like #4. The whole 'connection' and 'soul mate' thing is ridiculous in the context of an affair. I've been on both sides enough times to know that it is easy to convince someone that you are their soul mate. All you have to do is listen carefully to what they say about themselves and mirror them as much as possible. Tell them what they want and need to hear. Works every time. Link to post Share on other sites
DNU1 Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 Nice list. I especially like #2: "The man or woman who is flirting with you has never heard you fart." Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 Some of the points are ok, but others are neither simple, nor truths... 3. People who have affairs are selfish, lazy, and cowardly. Their friends and family do judge them. People forgive but they don't forget. Lazy? An affair is usually quite stressful. 12. If you want to be appreciated, work harder at your marriage. Because every marriage can and should be saved...wtf? 13. If you have to hide your behavior, you're doing something wrong. This is so wrong I don't even know where to start. 16. Life really is this simple. There's nothing to figure out. If you don't know what you want, it's because you've made your life unneccessarily complicated. Cut the drama and you'll be just fine. Life is only really that simple if you dumb yourself down and repress your emotions. I'm starting to see why you are such a happy person. 18. People always seem better than they are. The more that you learn about them, the more flaws you'll find. Don't trade celery today for dog poop tomorrow. You are so bitter it's almost sad. Almost, but not quite. It is funny, however 19. Winners never cheat and cheaters never win. That's why all the powerful people in the world are inherently honest and trustworthy. 20. He or she is only flirting with you because he or she is convinced that you're stupid enough to buy into it. Do you really want to be with someone who believes that you are stupid? Except of course if 'soda' is flirting with you? Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 Soda cool list. Some were funny, some so true it makes you wonder why most people don't see it. #13, #16, #18:D Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 #13 So sex is wrong, unless you do it in public, in plain sight? Link to post Share on other sites
AlektraClementine Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 Perhaps it means "If you are hiding your behavior from your spouse, it's wrong" Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 Perhaps it means "If you are hiding your behavior from your spouse, it's wrong" Thank you for the rational response. UOL, it is clear our belief systems are different, as I have read some of your other posts. We disagree, let's leave it at that. Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 Perhaps it means "If you are hiding your behavior from your spouse, it's wrong" Perhaps it also means that soda believes in the third coming of zombie jesus, or that the tooth fairy will save his soul. I prefer to think it means what he/she actually wrote, not what might be read into it. And some of the stuff in that list is just plainly, obviously not true. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 I think it's a pretty good list, myself, because there ARE a lot of truths to it. Life isn't about a pretty package always within our reach, but about the messy, badly-timed, annoying realities that hide wonderful opportunities if we just look beyond the obvious. nice job, soda! Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 Thank you for the rational response. UOL, it is clear our belief systems are different, as I have read some of your other posts. We disagree, let's leave it at that. I would have preferred some arguments that explain your point of view, especially for the points that are so false, 'it's makes you wonder why you don't see it'. But of course, you are free to believe whatever you want, no matter how nonsensical. Link to post Share on other sites
Hi.P.O'Crit Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 I like most of your points and agree with most of them except. 19. Winners never cheat and cheaters never win. Seen too many and known too many people that disprove this one. As much as I wish it were true, doesn't seem to be. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 I would have preferred some arguments that explain your point of view, especially for the points that are so false, 'it's makes you wonder why you don't see it'. But of course, you are free to believe whatever you want, no matter how nonsensical. There is no reason to argue over "your" opinion of what is false. You say false, I say they are true. Won't change your beliefs, won't change mine. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 I like most of your points and agree with most of them except. 19. Winners never cheat and cheaters never win. Seen too many and known too many people that disprove this one. As much as I wish it were true, doesn't seem to be. They lose in the long run. I just wish I was around to see some of them go down. Link to post Share on other sites
silktricks Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 Love the list #19 could be called into question, but on the other hand, if somebody cheated - they didn't truly win. They cheated... kinda like riding a bus to end up first at a marathon... maybe you cross the finish line first, but if you didn't run 26 miles, you didn't win the marathon. Link to post Share on other sites
freestyle Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 the list is brilliant. I agree with silktricks, there will be arguments on both sides of #19, but I see a parallel to an analogy I once heard: "Someone may steal from you...........but they`re the one who`s really losing..............." Link to post Share on other sites
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