longlegzs80 Posted November 16, 2003 Share Posted November 16, 2003 Okay, this goes back to the thread about me crunching on a customer at work found in the dating section to this site. Anyways, I don't know his name, but find it really hard to just start a random conversation with someone I Am attracted too. Anyways, I think he could be interested in me because each of us hold eye contact with one another and he seems to get fidgety when he is around me and acts kinda shy. I really can;t take it anymore. I am not good with the small talk so I am afraid that I just might be bold enough to ask him out. Do you think I should be bold enough to do it because you feel he is showing the signs that he is totally digging me or should I wait for him to ask me and maybe try alittle flirty stuff with him to show him I am interested? And another thing, do you think I can be giving guys the wrong vibe? What to do..... Link to post Share on other sites
Goatsbreath Posted November 16, 2003 Share Posted November 16, 2003 Well, as a guy that likes this girl that works at a Corner Store I wish she would just ask me out. Or show me some signs although I have been told I don't do well with signs. I guess I dont pick them up well or something. I would ask her out but like you its hard to just go into the store and bye a pack of gum and say- "thanks for the gum,.....bye the way- you want to go out tonight." I mean I think she knows Im interested. I get all shy and at a loss for words everytime I go in there but Ive pretty much given up on the situation because its been going on for like a year now. I think I waited a little to long on that one....he he. Link to post Share on other sites
ASDFJKL Posted November 16, 2003 Share Posted November 16, 2003 I think that the best way to handle this common situation is to just wait on it and see what happens. So many people tend to rush things these days, because most of us are very impatient! This guy could very well like you...but there is always a possibility that he doesn't. Flirt with him a little bit more. Touch his arm while you're talking to him, tease him...if he responds to this well and flirts back, then you can move onto dropping very subtle hints to let him know that you're interested. Finally, if you're receiving the right signals, you can go ahead and ask him out. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author longlegzs80 Posted November 16, 2003 Author Share Posted November 16, 2003 What are the right signals to know if a guy is interested in you? I think holding eye contact with one another is one signal that someone is interested. So, what else? Link to post Share on other sites
Clancy Posted November 16, 2003 Share Posted November 16, 2003 Longlegz, the problem is that not all guys act the same when they are interested. Some guys are smooth and confident and smile warmly letting their eyes show interest and easily make conversation that leads to a relationship. Another guy who might have a major crush on the girl might totally freeze up inside and not be able to show any warmth at all and be rendered virtually speechless. I suggest that you just take the lead and ask this guy his name for starters. Tell him your name. Try to get some conversation going. Then get a little bolder and tell him you like something about him, (his eyes, voice, hair, smile, etc. ) I think he'll get the hint from there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author longlegzs80 Posted November 16, 2003 Author Share Posted November 16, 2003 I totally agree with you CLANCY. Guys are very different from one another. But with this guy, we hold eye contact with some word exchanged like a hello or how are ya kinda thing but that is it. It is kinda like we are letting are eyes do all the talking. Anyways, I really think he is the type of guy who is shy around girls he is attracted too. When he was in with his one guy friend, him and his friend were talking up a strom and his friend when they were sitting down happened to look over at me and smiled a big friendly smile. I smiled and waved. But, this one I want. I was thinking about doing something alittle crazy and out of the blue. Since my workplace is not the best place to talk to him in well actually talk to him with asking him out or whatever, I am going to make him alittle greeting card and stick it in his bag with alittle message inside along with wishing him a happy holidays. I will get it done and do it the end of NOVEMBER. Does it sound stupid? PLEASE LET ME KNOW. Link to post Share on other sites
Author longlegzs80 Posted November 17, 2003 Author Share Posted November 17, 2003 Why am I like this? Kinda feel like I am obsessing over this whole situation with this guy. Why is it so much easier for most women to find someone but I can't seem to find anyone who is willing to make a move to ask me out. Am I too desprite? I know, its yes. Normally I am not like this, just interested in this guy and not sure on what to do. Wish I wasn't so shy. Link to post Share on other sites
Duke Posted November 17, 2003 Share Posted November 17, 2003 Stop torturing yourself, you'd be better off just asking rather than obsessing about asking. If he's not interested, so what, he's not the only d00d out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted December 16, 2003 Share Posted December 16, 2003 Just ask, whats the worst that can happen? the best? Link to post Share on other sites
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