broken hearted Posted August 19, 2009 Share Posted August 19, 2009 Dela-your son is very good looking! How old is he? Haha! I'm guessing not too old if you're only 43! Link to post Share on other sites
Author delajoonal Posted August 19, 2009 Author Share Posted August 19, 2009 hi broken... my son is 22 years old....thank you, he is a cutie patootie...but can be a sh*t too...LOL thank you thank you for saying...ONLY 43..LOL..like it isn't that old..yet..LOL... gosh, i look at the number and cringe..i so do not feel 43..heck, i am going to be 44 in a few months! OMG!...geesh, i am NEVER gonna meet anyone at this age... i thought 30 was pushing it..LOL...but then i met my H...ya, and look how that turned out.. ok, now i just sound crazy, i am talking to myself and answering my own questions..LOL need a nap! Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted August 19, 2009 Share Posted August 19, 2009 p.s.s. i am getting my hair done this week aND doing the whole spa treatment..me and my bff...finally, i am starting to do something FOR ME...got some new sandals...lol..now i am heading to the spa and well...LOOK OUT fella's...here i come...LOL (what a dork i am ..LOL) hi broken... my son is 22 years old....thank you, he is a cutie patootie...but can be a sh*t too...LOL thank you thank you for saying...ONLY 43..LOL..like it isn't that old..yet..LOL... gosh, i look at the number and cringe..i so do not feel 43..heck, i am going to be 44 in a few months! OMG!...geesh, i am NEVER gonna meet anyone at this age... i thought 30 was pushing it..LOL...but then i met my H...ya, and look how that turned out.. ok, now i just sound crazy, i am talking to myself and answering my own questions..LOL need a nap! Snap out of it Dela, 43 is nothing, Sharon Stone is 51! Besides, you look younger then i do. Glad to hear your going and doing something for yourself, enjoy that spa tripHit the spa and watch all the young Cali studs turn their head. Post some new pics when you get back, It'd be nice to see you smiling! P.S. It's a message board, the only way people know your talking to yourself is if you tell them. TOJAZ TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author delajoonal Posted August 19, 2009 Author Share Posted August 19, 2009 P.S. It's a message board, the only way people know your talking to yourself is if you tell them. TOJAZ TOJAZ LOL....well tojaz you just keep making me laugh this morning... what a Fabulous way to start my day...and to think i was just going to walk by my puter and check IT later....so glad i sat down to see how al my LS friends are... sounds like everyone had a great day yesterday...and is doing better:D Link to post Share on other sites
lupa Posted August 19, 2009 Share Posted August 19, 2009 P.S. It's a message board, the only way people know your talking to yourself is if you tell them. TOJAZ TOJAZ LOL....well tojaz you just keep making me laugh this morning... what a Fabulous way to start my day...and to think i was just going to walk by my puter and check IT later....so glad i sat down to see how al my LS friends are... sounds like everyone had a great day yesterday...and is doing better:D One day at a time, my friend, one day at a time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author delajoonal Posted August 19, 2009 Author Share Posted August 19, 2009 lupa One day at a time, my friend, one day at a time. ain't that the truth... Link to post Share on other sites
Auroracoladybug Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Hey dela I wanted to thank you by the way for being one of the first to respond to me initially...you kept me talking and not shutting down...that is proof that one day at a time is making it work for atleast me...loves and hugs Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Well dela try to not become too much of a 'cougar' Just jibbing you a bit! Glad to see the "new" perspective and attitude ~ 'That a girl!" Link to post Share on other sites
Author delajoonal Posted August 20, 2009 Author Share Posted August 20, 2009 aurora....wow! thank you:rolleyes: how incredibly sweet...i am just SO VERY glad i can be here and so glad we are ALL here to get thru this together... please feel free to PM me anytime you wanna chat or just need to vent..i am always checking and make time for my LS friends;) Gunny...what can i say...its been a grueling 6 months, i am not out of the fire yet...but everyday, and evey post and every LS member is helping me get there... who said cougar....who ME...LOL...~blushing~...tee hee! ya, it seems i have been a little fiesty lately, huh...LOL:D ALL thanks to you Gunny, tojaz, lisaUK, mrmay, so many others to list...but you all know i LOVE YA ALL!!!:love: ah..so much love on this board..where would i be with out you all:love: Link to post Share on other sites
Auroracoladybug Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 dela I will PM you when I get established lol you are so right though...with all of us...walking thru the fire together...I have found myself on here more and more just to keep up with my LS friends Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 Dela The story I old on Lisa's blog was true, the poor girl was totally broken, she was a close friend and I truly felt sorry for her as she really believed that she had found what she wanted out of life. Only to be shocked back into what life was really about, love and family, possessions and career don't mean didly As to the male side, another friend of mine about three years back decided he needed space from his wife and two kids. The teenage boy was named Junior. The wife went through her pain, she gave him about a year, then suddenly announced that this chit wasn't going to get her down and would someday marry again. Six months later she filed D. Then the hubby got scared and wanted to date again, but as it turned out he had competion. He lost, this summer I watched Junior walk his mother down the aisle and she remarried up, to a guy who also has two kids. I purposely caught the XH at a bar that night. Who wanted to know if it was true his name sake had given his XW away that day at the wedding The son will be a stater on his high school football team this year. It is going to be hard on him, having to watch the rest of the family with the new husband cheering on junior and no longer welcomed to the party. In almost every case that I know of the WS eventually figures out that the grass is not always greener, only to find that Consequences can be a bitch Link to post Share on other sites
Author delajoonal Posted August 23, 2009 Author Share Posted August 23, 2009 gallon... wow! i got goosebumps with that one...i felt myself feeling bad for the XH...now what does that say about me..geesh, i am too soft. but right on! for the wife who decided to get going and live HER life and it seems she found herself a good man too:) i just KNOW in my GUT, that my H will regret ALL of this... i heard it in his voice just last week even..i was looking back in my journals, and he called me at 130AM and kept me on the phone for 44 minutes..hmm? i actually had to say, HEY i need to go to sleep now..he still sounded sad and stil wanted to talk.... after 14 years together, i KNOW my H..and i knew something was up...as it was NOT the first phone call recently to sound this way.. but now, just this past thursday, i found out, that the online EA he had, 6 months ago, that started all this mess ( or so it seemed), has NEVER ended...so much so, i found in our cell phone bill, they called each other 21 times in ONE DAY!..and he still found time to call me 11 times that same day..LOL..and texting too.. and so this same thursday my H calls again, now he is ready for D... i just knew it was NOT him saying this..because he knows how much it will cost him in alimony and medical, so we had months ago agreed on Legal Separation only...his idea, fine by me... but i think, as a woman, i think OW sensed my H drifting away maybe? or something, cause he was calling me ALOT and NICE calls, like we were still together...which means, he was NOT there for OW... so i think OW is pushing for D, even tho she is still M herself! i hope that made sense..LOL anyway, i am not sure what their relastionship is exacly, he says they are not together..but OW is married with small children, a new home and business...so she really has a lot to lose if her H finds this is still going on? nope havent' called HIM yet...i did last time tho... anyway...my point...my H can sense i am moving on...the 180 DOES work...and after a while, IT just becomes whats natural.. and so i think what THEY all say, the books, the divorce websites etc...all have IT spot on with that one.. anyway...after all that rambling..yes,, i think you are very right, they do come back at some point..at least 99% do anyway..and yes, most of that time, IT is way TOOO late! sad really, cause all my H had to do was try one more time with me..MC maybe?...i was wllling to mend my ways, start over, whatever it took to save my marriage, i loved my H with everything i had... now, he has destroyed the trust we built for 14 years..i never doubted him, never NOT trusted him...neither of us strayed....so THIS EA he had, as such a bomb... and now to find out IT is still going on...how could i ever trust him again? i can't..so i have to move on too.. maybe one day, i too will be walking down that ailse again, with MY son giving me away.. p.s. wanna hear a funny...my H calls our son Junior TOO...LOL ..hhmmmm? we shall see. Link to post Share on other sites
KellyP Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 Delajoonal, I'd like to give you my perspective as a cheater. Alot of what everyone says here is right about grass being greener. I think you read what i cheated on TOJAZ with. At the time though, i really thought he was the one. It wasn't until it blew up in my face that I realized what I had given up. I think thats how it always happens. I have regretted it ever since but have never blamed him for not accepting me back. When I was cheating, I tried my best to keep them all in balance. I wanted them both! I was very selfish and pushed them both for more of a commitment although I still don't know what I would have done if i got it. I t was senseless and hurtful to a really great guy. (Sorry Tojaz :() I would guarantee that she is still with her husband, and to be honest, if he leaves you, she will probably go back to her family and leave him out in the cold. I think it's about the conquest more then the person really. Looking back, that's what it was for me. I don't know if that helps you or hurts you, but that seems to be how it works. Link to post Share on other sites
Auroracoladybug Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 Kelly...I think you are right in a lot of ways...I cheated on J 6 years ago with an ex...I wanted him to still love me and wanted J...the fight between J and I made me almost lose him and proved to me that I wanted him more than anything and COMPLETELY committed myself to him...I know now that I didn't have enough respect in myself and was way too selfish...I will never ever hurt someone I love again then have it come back as an excuse upon excuses "I said I forgave you but I never really did" I still go thru that stage of blaming everything going on on myself...god that hurts so much... Link to post Share on other sites
KellyP Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 Looking back, i think it was an ego thing. i really liked TOJAZ, but i wanted to know that i could get someone else. at the end of the day it cost me an awful lot. We stayed friends, but he's never given me a second chance. i guess once that trust is broken theres no going back. I'll have to read your story aurora. Link to post Share on other sites
KellyP Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 Kelly...I think you are right in a lot of ways...I cheated on J 6 years ago with an ex...I wanted him to still love me and wanted J...the fight between J and I made me almost lose him and proved to me that I wanted him more than anything and COMPLETELY committed myself to him...I know now that I didn't have enough respect in myself and was way too selfish...I will never ever hurt someone I love again then have it come back as an excuse upon excuses "I said I forgave you but I never really did" I still go thru that stage of blaming everything going on on myself...god that hurts so much... "I said I forgave you but I never really did" Did you mean that this was his excuse for leaving? I read your story and a handful of the replies. i don't think thats whats going on, i cant imagine anyone getting married and having kids with someone they haven't forgiven. it sounds like just an excuse. keep listening to TOJAZ, he seems to be helping you, hes the smartest guy i know Link to post Share on other sites
Auroracoladybug Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 Oh there are pleanty of excuses from him that was just one of many...I will have to compose a list lol...and a list of the reasons he was not a good H Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 "I said I forgave you but I never really did" Did you mean that this was his excuse for leaving? I read your story and a handful of the replies. i don't think thats whats going on, i cant imagine anyone getting married and having kids with someone they haven't forgiven. it sounds like just an excuse. keep listening to TOJAZ, he seems to be helping you, hes the smartest guy i know You need to find yourself a higher standard of friends!! TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author delajoonal Posted August 24, 2009 Author Share Posted August 24, 2009 kellyP... thank you for the insight on cheaters and stuff...i appreciate your candor:) yes, i called the OW, the other day, i asked how she could live with herself with knowing she took part in destroying MY family as well as her own...her reply.. " i didn't do anything, and i am enjoying my family right now..." i CUT her off .... she was so sickening sweet phony voice.. you know the one... like saying BAH-BYE...that sarcastic sweet gross voice! anyway, its so much to explain from what i have gathered in the past 6 mmths..bottom line, My H has become HER/OW puppet... he is in some kind of trance and has taken on HER/OW personality.. its gross.. she is making him divorce me NOW, to buy herself MORE time.. because she will NEVER leave her H or 2 small kids, brand new home they just bought and her own busiiness...so she has ALOT TO LOSE! and she is NOT going to give IT all up for my stupid H... so i think that is where i read the sorrow in his phone calls last week...kept me on the phone for up to an hour a few times... i KNEW there was something wrong, at the time, i didn't know he was still with her...BUT i knew he was feeling some kind of remorse...his voice.. anyway..someting must have happened between them..so devert the attention from herself ....she is complaining about him still being married to me...well, it was H 's idea to do legal sep, so i could keep the medical for my illlness and surgeries coming up this year... he had NO problem with that..and even offered to keep legal sep, because in his words, he never wants to get married again anyway..and was in no hurry, just so long as he didn't have to LIVE with me..LOL.. BUT..something happened...everything came to a head this past week... most stilll a mystery to me..??? anyway...guess what i just found, by complete accident..i was looking for an address to a family member and i found OW H's phone number..LOL as i called OW h 6 months ago on their home phone, when this all started, the EA... he then gave me his cell, i never used it..stuck it in a drawer...NOW how weird IS THAT, that i would find it after 6 months AND 3 days into finding out that my H and HIS wife (OW) are STILL TOGETHER..LOL.. hmmm..what should i do with THAT? Link to post Share on other sites
Auroracoladybug Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 burn it dela it is not worth it...or give it to some teenagers to call lots... okay so now my 2 yr old is acting like a dog ewww he licked my hand... Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 Dela, I'm a vindictive SOB, I'd make tthe call. You reap what you sow. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 What I would have done were it me? First I'd get me an "El Marko" or Sharpie permanent ink pen! Gas up the car! And ride all over town, visiting everywhere I could posting her phone number I could and something about a good time! As far as the OW's DH! I chat his ear full! I'd even make up stuff? "And did you know they're even having sex dresssed like clowns and with dancing brears dressed in pink tutu's? How sick is that?" :eek: Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 It never ceases to amaze me? How many men are completely, totally willing to completly and totally screw up their lives ~ throw away everything they've worked for, achieved in life ~ for a POA! Link to post Share on other sites
Author delajoonal Posted August 24, 2009 Author Share Posted August 24, 2009 OMG...Gunny i am laughing so hard....clowns..LOL:bunny::bunny: i did ONE better than write HER number and etc. about her..i didn't even have to drive anywhere... see the OW and her business belong to an online reviewing system...and well, i gave her/OW quite the review... for the WHOLE world to see! yep, even my friends here on LS can check IT out...just wondering if i post the link how much trouble i will get ????. anyone knows, let me know, and will post the link or at least the name..then everyone can see THE REVIEW....LOL also, YES, OF course i am calling the OW's H...but, its all in the timing..see both my H and his OW are sitting and waiting for the other shoe to drop... as i dropped the bomb on them last week...so now they know i will call OW H, as i did last time.. .so now they can sit and stew and wait and wait and stress out...LOL... AND this time, i have so much proof...just in case OW gets to her H before me... do you know..she calls MY H every single morning of the world at 830AM..EVERY FU**ing day!!!! ok, so THAT has nothing to do with this post..other than it bothers the crap out of me...argh! i mean really, what balls..to all someone else's H everyday, same time every day, like THEY are married...omg!..ok, being catty dela.. anyway........ it just kills me..this woman KNOWS my H IS married, i asked her 2 times, nicely, to please leave US alone...i even called her H..last time...nothing is stopping this cow..nothing...and the nerve to say she didn't do anything...OMG!.. .how DOES SHE sleep at night and NOW..NOW, well she can have my H..but when it comes to medical insurance and finances..well..that is a dif story!!! she is sticking her miss piggy face into something that she has NO right too...screwing my H is one thing, screwing ME is another!!! also, i am thinking, it has been 6 months, now my H is THE OM...does he not get that OW is NEVER leaving her H, with 2 very small kids, a new home, a business, all with her H invested...i can't figure out which one is stupider...is that a word..LOL..stupider..LOL:laugh::lmao: ok..time to grow up dela..LOL... anyway...i will keep LS posted on my EVERY move...~muhahaha~... tojaz...you know, i never thought i was vendictive..i always believed that what goes around comes around and well, it always worked that way from what i could see...i never had to lift a finger to retaliate... BUT...now that the OW is messing with my income and my insurance..i mean really, HOW far is she going to go???? ya, forgot to mention, SHE is pushing my H to take me to court to lower my alimony ALREADY after only ONE MONTH Of getting IT and also she wants him to cut off my medical..cause she doesn't want US, me and MY Husband connected in anyway...can you believe the nerve..and she hasn't even LEFT her H ! she has my H...leave it at that bi**h!!!... but she has gone too far with this...anyway, now i am repeating myself...but yep, i am going to take a page from your book my friend..the book of being vendictive..LOL...geez, i can't stop smiling...hmmm..revenge feels good..LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author delajoonal Posted August 24, 2009 Author Share Posted August 24, 2009 p.s. i have a STRONG feeling my H is going to regret ALL this...not by me doing anything vendictive..BUT because he is prolly starting to see the grass is not only NOT greener, but is rather fat and ugly...and this particular GRASS is NOT leaving her H. anyone want to see a pic of what my H left me for...omg..i am really so very embarrassed... just ask tojaz, lupa..they have seen, then can attest to this atrocity:sick: ACK! Link to post Share on other sites
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