Wondering

[gw326]

Definitely will.It's a shame we all have to go through this pain and heartache.I've taken this time to reflect on whats best for myself and my kids.Taking care of myself.Been working a lot ,and trying my best to keep my mind off of things.I've come to realize that yes i could've done things differently in my marriage,but no marriage is perfect and i didnt start getting better emotionally until i realized it wasn't totally my fault.Can't explain why she thought being with the OM was the best decision as nobody knows ,even her own mother.I'm taking care of myself and my kids,and whatever happens then it's okay.As i mentioned i love her to death,always will.I simply refuse to let this destroy my life and for now and let the pieces fall into place.

 

Hope this all made sense as i'm just rambling,but if not then i'm sorry...

[gw326]

Talked to my wife earlier having a decent discussion.Talked about our oldest sons birthday coming up next week and such.However,without me asking about what i already knew she mentioned to me about the arguement between her and the OM on Saturday.She said things are okay now,but then said i dont know.For some reason she asked if i was seeing someone else or talking to another woman.For the ladies here,if she is indeed moving on like she says she is then why would she want to know if i'm seeing someone else? Anyways,she also acknowledged how great i've been doing with taking care of the kids by buying whatever the kids i need.She also for some reason wanted to know where i was going to live as i guess she found out her mother/step-father offered for me to stay with them.I told her i didn't know right now because i really don't.She apologized for lying to me once again about her and the OM.Finally,she noticed i guess by the tone in my voice or how i was acting that i was doing much better emotionally.Thoughts would be very appreciated here.

 

Thanks.

[mark982]

sounds like she'as really starting to regret her actions.giving you all kinds of praise etc. things aren't happy in her life,and she's tring to butter you up.

[gw326]

Thats what i'm thinking too,but i'm not going to worry too much about it.Shes even asked several times if we go several days without contact as to why i haven't called.She told me to call her sometime this week.I repeat CALL HER.

[gw326]

Small update:

 

I'm moving back to Arkansas on October 9th so i can be with my boys.I can't stand being away from them any longer.My wife seems like she might be coming around as shes asked me several times recently ," when are you coming back " and yesterday said quietly so nobody else could hear what she was saying ," get your butt down here ".

 

However,i'm not going to worry too much about her and i ,but myself and my boys.If it happens that we work things out then great but if not then it's okay as well.My oldest turns three this Thursday.I bought him a bike so i'm looking forward to watching him ride it.

[mark982]

be real careful,she's realised she royally screwed up,now she's(w/o telling you) she wants you back. watch your azz my friend,cause the same crap "will" happen again.

[gw326]

I definitely will.While i haven't talked to her about it yet ,and it is indeed what she wants i'll tell her flat out me or the OM.Who means more to you.If it's me,then cut all contact with the OM and prove to me you want to make it work.I've done everything i was capable of changing my life around,and now it's time for us to meet halfway.While it hurts that she went out and done this while we were married because of the love i still do have for her i will forgive her.I'm ready for either situation whether it's with or without her.

[SRV]

Small update:

 

I'm moving back to Arkansas on October 9th so i can be with my boys.I can't stand being away from them any longer.My wife seems like she might be coming around as shes asked me several times recently ," when are you coming back " and yesterday said quietly so nobody else could hear what she was saying ," get your butt down here ".

 

However,i'm not going to worry too much about her and i ,but myself and my boys.If it happens that we work things out then great but if not then it's okay as well.My oldest turns three this Thursday.I bought him a bike so i'm looking forward to watching him ride it.

 

Just from reading your earlier posts and the later ones, glad to hear that you are doing much better. Also try refraining from her trying to bait you into conversations other than the kids. She has shown you what she is capable of doing. Reading similiar posts to yours on the board, even with reconciliation, its just a matter of time before they revert to the same old socipathic behavior. Please reference bummedagain's posts.

 

Take care of your kids as you are, make sure that before you move there you are financially set for YOU and YOUR KIDS, that's it, nothing/no one more or less.

 

Good luck!

[gw326]

Yeah,thanks.I have plenty of money saved up.Thats all i'm really concentrating on is myself and my boys.As i said if it happens that we do get back together then great,but if not then life moves on.If we do then i'll make sure she is 100% commited to us working it out.I understand about once a cheater then always a cheater.Yes,we are legally married still,and not to make any excuses for her but she didn't do this until after i left.I believe that she was totally faithful to me when i was there.I'll find out soon i guess.

[mark982]

if you do some digging,i'll be willing to bet there was someone before you left.

[gw326]

I seriously doubt it as she was either at home with me,or at her sisters for an hour or two on occasion watching their shows they watched (Big Brother,Jon and Kate plus 8 ,etc).If there was something i would've known about it by now.If not from her then from someone else.I still am in contact with her family as if nothing has changed.None of them has any idea what my wife is thinking/doing.