breakdown221 Posted August 18, 2009 Share Posted August 18, 2009 Hey I need some advice....I met this girl friday, im two years older than her. I really like her, and she made moves friday, holding my hand on the boardwalk, riding alone with me in my car(having her friend go in the other car)... but she has a boyfriend. She complained to me about her bf on sunday, and than she lied to him to hangout with me, but there was Nothing to do on a sunday night!...so she brought a friend I brought a friend..and we just drove around....she said i made the night fun cause i was funny.... I picked her up 45 minutes late cause it was an area I didnt know.....Ive been texting her...but I feel like im talking to myself at times, based on the way she answers...than last night she just stopped mid-conversation, I didnt double text, cause i didnt want to seem desperate..should I text her again today? Or let her initiate??? Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Author breakdown221 Posted August 18, 2009 Author Share Posted August 18, 2009 Ok she just commented on my facebook status..this is the only way she starts conversations with me..than we switch to texts....idk what to do.. Link to post Share on other sites
AlektraClementine Posted August 18, 2009 Share Posted August 18, 2009 Don't mess with chicks who have boyfriends. For one thing, you're being used. To stroke her ego. She stops texting because she's most likely with her boyfriend. If he finds out, he won't be happy and then you have a whole mess of drama on your hands Do you really want a girl like that? Who can't be loyal? Who cares what she says about her boyfriend. If he was that bad, she'd break up with him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author breakdown221 Posted August 18, 2009 Author Share Posted August 18, 2009 Don't mess with chicks who have boyfriends. For one thing, you're being used. To stroke her ego. She stops texting because she's most likely with her boyfriend. If he finds out, he won't be happy and then you have a whole mess of drama on your hands Do you really want a girl like that? Who can't be loyal? Who cares what she says about her boyfriend. If he was that bad, she'd break up with him. It's just, I dont usually get too many girls, and shes good looking, and he BF is such a *****..i workout...I got a car, this kid doesnt even have a car or anything Link to post Share on other sites
girl68 Posted August 18, 2009 Share Posted August 18, 2009 She doesn't want you, she wants you to worship her- nothing more nothing less. If you must, let it be- if she makes the move fine otherwise, get on with life. Because when push comes to shove (as in you really start to fall for her and want to be with her, only her) she's not going to leave her bf for you. All she wants is to be wanted desired and admired by a man other than her bf. *TRUST ME* I did what she did many a times... I never left. Link to post Share on other sites
Author breakdown221 Posted August 18, 2009 Author Share Posted August 18, 2009 Ok, but just a general question when texting someone you like. As a guy do you start every conversation?, the majority? Or should she have to show interest and start it first also. Link to post Share on other sites
girl68 Posted August 18, 2009 Share Posted August 18, 2009 It's impossible to have just a general question because you're speaking if she were single... she's not. Therefore the answer is different. She's playing you- and you bit, big time. Basically if you pull back with texts, calls and attention she will pick up the slack, but it ain't because she likes you, and wants you- it's because you pulled your attention away and she wants it back. It could be you, her other friend, her friends cousin, her moms friends little boy, basically it has nothing to do with you and her feelings for you- she is craving attention, it doesn't matter who she gets it from, you just bit her bait. Basically when this all gets flushed down the toilet I will be sitting here waiting with an "I told you so". Link to post Share on other sites
Author breakdown221 Posted August 18, 2009 Author Share Posted August 18, 2009 I really hope that thats wrong, but ill my view has definitely changed. Thanks...but what I meant was, in general who should be starting convos..cause usually I feel like with ANY girl that I like ALOT i start the conversations... Link to post Share on other sites
girl68 Posted August 18, 2009 Share Posted August 18, 2009 If it were a single available girl she will text you, she will start, she will not start; she will respond, you will respond. It goes both ways if both parties are interested and available to one another. If you really want to know and have hope get the straight up answer. Do you like me? If you do, are you going to leave? Tell her you're not down for games and if she just wants to be your friend- to stop touching you, you and to respect the natual boundries of her current relationship. It shows 1- you're not a toy. 2- that you're not going to play her little "please like me" game. 3- you are a man who knows what he wants. 4- that you are stong enough to throw her away should she cross lines. She's not exactly a quality girl- think about it... she's holding your hand while she's got a bf... where will she run if you're her bf and you get in a fight.... HUH? BTW... if you continue with letting her make moves on you you're a homewrecker accepting moves is just as bad as making them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author breakdown221 Posted August 18, 2009 Author Share Posted August 18, 2009 Ok, thanks girl68. Link to post Share on other sites
girl68 Posted August 18, 2009 Share Posted August 18, 2009 I will be curious to know how it goes with her... if you don't mind updating! Link to post Share on other sites
Author breakdown221 Posted August 20, 2009 Author Share Posted August 20, 2009 She broke up with her boyfriend, but at the same time I feel like in person theres a connection, but texting her theres no connection at all. We can talk in person fine back and forth. idk what to do haha Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Hey I need some advice....I met this girl friday, im two years older than her. I really like her, and she made moves friday, holding my hand on the boardwalk, riding alone with me in my car(having her friend go in the other car)... but she has a boyfriend. She complained to me about her bf on sunday, and than she lied to him to hangout with me, but there was Nothing to do on a sunday night!...so she brought a friend I brought a friend..and we just drove around....she said i made the night fun cause i was funny.... I picked her up 45 minutes late cause it was an area I didnt know.....Ive been texting her...but I feel like im talking to myself at times, based on the way she answers...than last night she just stopped mid-conversation, I didnt double text, cause i didnt want to seem desperate..should I text her again today? Or let her initiate??? Thanks! she is using you to make her bf jealous Link to post Share on other sites
Author breakdown221 Posted August 20, 2009 Author Share Posted August 20, 2009 She just broke up with him though...and I dont think he really knew about me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author breakdown221 Posted August 21, 2009 Author Share Posted August 21, 2009 Hey girl, another update...I was at work today..and she invited my friend to hangout..I joke around with her that she likes him but always denies it...hes going away to college soon so he'll be out of the picture..but she texted me when she was chilling with him..is she trying to make me jealous? Link to post Share on other sites
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