bigworm23 Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Alright hear me out... I met a girl a couple months ago - friend of a friend. I've never been one of those, "love at first sight" types...but oh man...I got hit with it bad. The first night we met we stayed up late talking, we have so many things in common. We got along great. I'll be frank, I'm usually a looks first personality second type of guy...but this girl's personality is what really gave me these feelings, although she is probably one one of the best looking girls I've ever felt this way about too. Anyhow, we both hit it off, I know she was into me, as I was her. Problem arises...she was moving to the other side of the country. We've connected on facebook, and have exchanged messages here and there. I cannot get this girl out of my mind. This has never happened to me before...ever. Sure, I've lusted girls before...but this is on an intellectual and aethestic level.. She's the complete package. She's currently on the opposite side of the country as me, but I feel like I can't just give up on this....she's amazing. I've never been in a position like this before.....what do I do?
torranceshipman Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Make it very clear how you feel about her, then see what happens!
Author bigworm23 Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 you don't think thats silly with us being so far away?
Author bigworm23 Posted August 19, 2009 Author Posted August 19, 2009 see I could...but I think that might be coming on too strong...I mean, ultimately, our relationship so far has consisted of one night hanging out with said mutual friend, and some playful messages on facebook. Normally I would have forgotten about this girl by now, but I just cant get her off my mind. I don't want to come on too strong given the circumstances...but I don't want to loose her either..
Author bigworm23 Posted August 21, 2009 Author Posted August 21, 2009 thinking about writing her an email and just laying it all out there... good or bad idea?
Hkizzle Posted August 21, 2009 Posted August 21, 2009 Alright hear me out... I met a girl a couple months ago - friend of a friend. I've never been one of those, "love at first sight" types...but oh man...I got hit with it bad. The first night we met we stayed up late talking, we have so many things in common. We got along great. I'll be frank, I'm usually a looks first personality second type of guy...but this girl's personality is what really gave me these feelings, although she is probably one one of the best looking girls I've ever felt this way about too. Anyhow, we both hit it off, I know she was into me, as I was her. Problem arises...she was moving to the other side of the country. We've connected on facebook, and have exchanged messages here and there. I cannot get this girl out of my mind. This has never happened to me before...ever. Sure, I've lusted girls before...but this is on an intellectual and aethestic level.. She's the complete package. She's currently on the opposite side of the country as me, but I feel like I can't just give up on this....she's amazing. I've never been in a position like this before.....what do I do? My friend felt the same about a girl he met. She got an offer from her company and moved from the UK to China. He quit his job and moved there, then found a new job there, then proposed to her and now they're married with a kid. Your problem is nothing in comparison, the question is what you want to do about it? P.S: If you quit your job and move across the country and she thinks you're a psycho and ignores you, I'm not liable. My point is there's always a choice.
Author bigworm23 Posted August 21, 2009 Author Posted August 21, 2009 its tough...I'm not about to move across country for a girl I've had one night of conversation with and a few facebook messages. But I truly beleive there was a real connection between us..and she made a comment about not wanting to have to move anymore. So I feel like there is potential there. I think I may start with an email and just kinda lay things on the line and open the door for a visit in the upcoming future....that seems reasonable to me..
letinmotion Posted August 21, 2009 Posted August 21, 2009 I wouldn't necessarily say the ship has sailed--in fact I am a firm believer in its not over until YOU say its over. Plan a trip out to where she is and invite her along to do something. Do not make a big deal out of it. Its likely that she hasn't made any friends yet and would gladly take you up on your offer. Start the escalation process and see what happens. A relationship is about building. You are going to go just about nowhere if this girl is quality by just messaging each other on facebook. Go get her!
espec10001 Posted August 21, 2009 Posted August 21, 2009 Heh, can't count the number of times this has happened to me. You meet your dream girl, she's both pretty and smart, and then you find out she's moving/isn't from there/has a boyfriend, whatever. My advice is give it a try with email and see what happens.
Confusedalways Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Send the email. Can't hurt, and you will always wonder.
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