Over the Air Posted August 19, 2009 Share Posted August 19, 2009 Seriously.. I'm a 27 yo and still haven't had sex yet. Still holding on to my vcard after all these years. Well, I've had sex with my hand of course. But I don't think you can lose your virginity to your own hand. I think I'm officially one of the very last holdouts. Absolutely everyone else I know who's my age, has had sex by now. Hell, even all the 18, 19 year olds know have had sex by now! Pretty much everyone else lost their virginity long, long ago. Most of them in their early-mid teens FFS. ****. I'm still in no hurry to have sex, and I don't think I will be for a long time yet. I just feel so alone on being the only one whose still a virgin. Sure, I was often wanted to, as a teenager. All teenagers do. But I knew I wasn't emotionally or mentally stable enough to handle it, and I didn't want to put that extra burden on myself, so I resisted. Then when my teenage hormones died down, it didn't even matter to me anymore. For me, virginity is a HUGE deal. It is very significant and important to me, and the emotions surrounding sexuality run very very deep.. but thats just me. Each to their own, of course. *sigh*. Suddenly feel so depressed. Only because it's 6:30 in the morning and I'm all by myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Enema Posted August 19, 2009 Share Posted August 19, 2009 . For me, virginity is a HUGE deal. It is very significant and important to me, and the emotions surrounding sexuality run very very deep.... Why? Who damaged you in this way? Link to post Share on other sites
Sprig Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Nah, I was the same as you. I did loose my virginity until I was 27. Some people are just put together differently and for me I just wasn't interested in having sex with just anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Tatiana82 Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 I can sympathize with you're feeling, I'm 26 and in the exact same boat. Although waiting until you find the right person is something to commend, you are so right, it's easy to feel incredibly lonely in such a situation. Link to post Share on other sites
caramel c Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 There is nothing wrong with holding out, absolutely nothing! And when you find that special someone they will love you for it. Don't worry about a thing, there is no hurry. Anything you want to learn from experience can be learned at any time. Only you will know when the right time is for you. Link to post Share on other sites
MissJoness Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 When men are older virgins, they are usually so depressed about it. Why? Link to post Share on other sites
Rhythmic Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 When men are older virgins, they are usually so depressed about it. Why? Male worth is often judged by sexual success with women. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross PK Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 I'm 33 and still a virgin. It used to really bother me, now I really don't care anymore, I've pretty much lost interest in women. Link to post Share on other sites
londondude Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 I lost my 'v plates' at 21. As a guy yes I think there's a lot of pressure...and the thing I feel is that even having slept with a couple of women (I'm now late 20s), I'm supposed to have slept with a lot more. It comes down to knowing what you want...forget about society's judgements...what do YOU want? If it's something you want personally then you have to work out what's stopping you, change those behaviours and go out and get it. Are you too shy? Too picky? Don't get a chance to meet a lot of girls? And take pride in the fact that you had the guts to do something about it rather than just giving up. And if you DON'T want it, screw what society's says...being true to yourself takes more guts...that would be more of an achievement than succumbing to peer pressure or society's 'norms'! Best Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 When men are older virgins, they are usually so depressed about it. Why? Usually because it sucks. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
rudeaims Posted September 1, 2009 Share Posted September 1, 2009 WOW. I have heard of this concept...I always thought it was an urban myth. Link to post Share on other sites
The Collector Posted September 1, 2009 Share Posted September 1, 2009 Your whole post is a reiteration and a 'poor me' complaint... do you want help? Do you want to tell us if you have ever asked a girl out, or been rejected? Do you want to tell us how you would approach a woman, what your personality is like, what steps you are considering to get a girl? Your situation is not uncommon, and can be changed with a little effort, and potentially an entire rethink to your current mindset. So details please. Link to post Share on other sites
ABrokenWing Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 When men are older virgins, they are usually so depressed about it. Why? It's not just men. I'm 30, female, and a virgin, wish I wasn't. I could go out and find just anyone, I've even had ppl offer, but I just don't want it to be just whomever. I think it's normal to feel kinda down about it cause of the way the media views older virgins in today's society. Link to post Share on other sites
EsmerKiss7 Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 I think it's kind of nice... I mean I regret losing my V card to the guy I did.. blah, M-F'er. It really is a special thing tho, and I think people forget that these days. Link to post Share on other sites
solo_flyer Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 When men are older virgins, they are usually so depressed about it. Why? Everything about the construction of nature and how or bodies and minds are designed all focuses on increasing our chances of procreation to spread our genes. If you haven't done it then you feel like there's something fundamentally wrong with you and that on some very basic underlying level, you are a failure. Link to post Share on other sites
Musa Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 Dont worry dude you will have your chance.everyone does Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 seriously dude its your choice. Don't let your virginity define you. If you did lose your virginity right this second you would learn the amazing truth that your still the same person. Sex isn't anything special... well other then its really fun. But more important then the sex is the emotions you build with a person you are in a relationship with, and yes falling in love and having a person love you back. Then you got it all, the fun of sex and the love of a person who loves you back. Sudenly all those love songs on the radio will make more sense. So please tell me why so hopless? have you been asking girls out and being shot down? Collector has a point Link to post Share on other sites
Vlad Posted September 11, 2009 Share Posted September 11, 2009 Did I miss somethig here people? how do you all know this person is a he and not a she? Link to post Share on other sites
Pedigree Posted September 11, 2009 Share Posted September 11, 2009 He made reference to having sex with his hands. If it was she, the reference would be to fingers. As far as the matter of the topic, people shouldn't be rushed by other people's opinions on this matter or any other matter. Everyone at their own time. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted September 13, 2009 Share Posted September 13, 2009 yeah the hand thing was a dead give away that he is a dude. You never ask a girl whose your bf your hand? Link to post Share on other sites
saddy Posted September 18, 2009 Share Posted September 18, 2009 Well, I think you're putting way too much expectation on sex. As for you, I had sex very late the first time. And I must say that it just wasn't that great, probably because of the stress. I have to say that I was much better with my hand! haha But it'll be much better with time, don't worry. And if you avoid being too close too girls because you fear they might discover that you're still virgin, so what's the big deal? Would you prefer going out with the girl who's virgin at 27 or with the girl who has had sex with 100 different partners? I guess most girls think the same way... Link to post Share on other sites
Maxwell Sage Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 Bah... I lost my v card at age 16... The sex was no good, but it was a confidence booster. I know I sound irrational for this, but I was extremely pessimistic about it ever happening. I never had GOOD sex until I was right about to turn 19... Now that I'm right about to turn 22 and the girl with whom I shared said experience with has left for another man, and needless to say is sharing what made me so elated with him... I'm questioning whether I would rather not have engaged in such acts... =\ Just try to be content with where you are. Keep putting yourself out there and you'll eventually find someone whom you feel is worth losing your virginity with. Once you fall in love, it will be amazing. Trust me. Link to post Share on other sites
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