konasexone Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 I started doing the 180. I don't communicate with her directly. That pisses her off to no end. Frankly I can't stand the sound of her bitching voice. I think I'm falling out of love with her. I visited the kids today at her place while she was at work and told them I would see them Friday. She had called but I wouldn't speak to her. She doesn't sound happy anymore. Sucks being her. She is turning into a loser in my eyes, more and more every day. I almost want to thank her for leaving. Last week I thought I couldn't live without her. This week I couldn't live with her. She has to many issues that need dealing with, incest is one of them and she's back to her family and can't break from them. I just don't know if I should acknowledge her efforts to communicate with me. Talking to her brings me down. I love seeing her angry and I'm wishing her much pain right now. Am I on the right track? If she doesn't come back, I'll do just fine. Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Yes and No? Ideally the best time for one to seek divorce is when you feel ~ indifference. You just don't care one way or the other about the relationship, the other person, what's going on in their lives. If anything when you do see them? You almost feel some pity for them. They seem pathetic. Keep working on yourself, your life, your relations with your children, your family and friends. Link to post Share on other sites
delajoonal Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Yes and No? Ideally the best time for one to seek divorce is when you feel ~ indifference. You just don't care one way or the other about the relationship, the other person, what's going on in their lives. If anything when you do see them? You almost feel some pity for them. They seem pathetic. Keep working on yourself, your life, your relations with your children, your family and friends. Gunny....some of these words stuck with me... the part about feeling pity ....i have felt sorry and much pity for my H for a long time now...THAT in its self is what is keeping me from getting really angry..i just feel sorry for him...and it gets stronger every day..i do not hate him, i just pitty him... as for caring about what is going on in H 's life...well, not so much anymore..i had access to half dozen phone numbers from our cell bill..and well, i only called one and then i realy felt even more pitty...it was the Golf Course..LOL...my point, i had no desire to even call the other numbers..i just don't care anymore....i mean a part of me still cringes when thinking of him having sex with another woman...but something has changed...and that strong pull that would make me cry and rip my hair out...is just NOT there anymore...weird, last week, i couldn't live without him... i guess it is true, with each backslide...IT gets easier..come out of them faster and with more clarity...yes? if i was served D papers today..i would cry..but ONLY for the years of good memories, family functions, holidays, etc...but NOT for losing this person that ignored me for 8 years to play A video game day in and day out...not for this person that cheated with an online EA...and def not for this person that called me names and yelled at me..when i had done NOTHING wrong...nothing...just my breathing was bothering him...a**hole! anyway...thanks Gunny..i like that post...i am going to remember those words and try to use them everyday...and keep on keepin' on:D;) Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Gunny....some of these words stuck with me... the part about feeling pity ....i have felt sorry and much pity for my H for a long time now...THAT in its self is what is keeping me from getting really angry..i just feel sorry for him...and it gets stronger every day..i do not hate him, i just pitty him... as for caring about what is going on in H 's life...well, not so much anymore..i had access to half dozen phone numbers from our cell bill..and well, i only called one and then i realy felt even more pitty...it was the Golf Course..LOL...my point, i had no desire to even call the other numbers..i just don't care anymore....i mean a part of me still cringes when thinking of him having sex with another woman...but something has changed...and that strong pull that would make me cry and rip my hair out...is just NOT there anymore...weird, last week, i couldn't live without him... i guess it is true, with each backslide...IT gets easier..come out of them faster and with more clarity...yes? if i was served D papers today..i would cry..but ONLY for the years of good memories, family functions, holidays, etc...but NOT for losing this person that ignored me for 8 years to play A video game day in and day out...not for this person that cheated with an online EA...and def not for this person that called me names and yelled at me..when i had done NOTHING wrong...nothing...just my breathing was bothering him...a**hole! anyway...thanks Gunny..i like that post...i am going to remember those words and try to use them everyday...and keep on keepin' on:D;) You've come along way in a short time! Atta Girl! Link to post Share on other sites
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