honeydollbaby Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 I have had a man in and out of my life for 10 years. he is the love of my life but has been horrible to me in the past. he always seems to smooth it over and i have never been happy with anyone but him. he let me use his phone and a text popped up from an old girlfriend. it was a naked pic. I then out of curiousity and KNOW i should respect his privacy, but he has cheated before, went through his phone. he has pics sent to this girl and another girl whom he has a child with and also pics and videos and dirty texts from them too. this all happened yesterday. i don't know how to confront him and how to bring this up seeing as i didn't respect his privacy. Please help me on how to approach this and what i should do... i have been with him for so so long and he is great to me. i don't know why i can't keep him happy. please send me some advice because i didn't mention anything to him yet becuase i don't know how... thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 I have had a man in and out of my life for 10 years. he is the love of my life but has been horrible to me in the past. he always seems to smooth it over and i have never been happy with anyone but him. he let me use his phone and a text popped up from an old girlfriend. it was a naked pic. I then out of curiousity and KNOW i should respect his privacy, but he has cheated before, went through his phone. he has pics sent to this girl and another girl whom he has a child with and also pics and videos and dirty texts from them too. this all happened yesterday. i don't know how to confront him and how to bring this up seeing as i didn't respect his privacy. Please help me on how to approach this and what i should do... i have been with him for so so long and he is great to me. i don't know why i can't keep him happy. please send me some advice because i didn't mention anything to him yet becuase i don't know how... thanks! Why do you want to bring it up? It's obvious you won't be able to change him. If you want to stay with him despite his cheating, just ignore it. If you cannot accept this, you will have to break up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author honeydollbaby Posted August 21, 2009 Author Share Posted August 21, 2009 thank you for the reply i know that i should walk away... i just don't want to yet. i would want to see his reply if i ever bring it up to him, but i know it will just be lies too. im stuck and love sucks. haha Link to post Share on other sites
stace79 Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 I have had a man in and out of my life for 10 years. he is the love of my life but has been horrible to me in the past. he always seems to smooth it over and i have never been happy with anyone but him. he let me use his phone and a text popped up from an old girlfriend. it was a naked pic. I then out of curiousity and KNOW i should respect his privacy, but he has cheated before, went through his phone. he has pics sent to this girl and another girl whom he has a child with and also pics and videos and dirty texts from them too. this all happened yesterday. i don't know how to confront him and how to bring this up seeing as i didn't respect his privacy. Please help me on how to approach this and what i should do... i have been with him for so so long and he is great to me. i don't know why i can't keep him happy. please send me some advice because i didn't mention anything to him yet becuase i don't know how... thanks! Okay, first off, you say he's been horrible to you in the past. Well honey the past is present, too, because of this discovery. Second, you've never been happy with anyone but him? He is great to you? How is sharing naked photos with other women making you happy and being great to you? Third, this is not about you "keeping him happy." It's a two-way street, and you're the only one walking down it. Seriously, you would be better off to tell him you went through his phone, and hopefully he will get pissed and break it off with you. You need to ditch this guy, get some self-respect and move on! Link to post Share on other sites
Author honeydollbaby Posted August 21, 2009 Author Share Posted August 21, 2009 you are DEFINATELY right ... i totally understand this. i just am kinda in shock because he was being so different than he had in the past. i don't know how to tell him i looked and i know if i do he will get pissed. ahhh idk why he had to do this! Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 you are DEFINATELY right ... i totally understand this. i just am kinda in shock because he was being so different than he had in the past. i don't know how to tell him i looked and i know if i do he will get pissed. ahhh idk why he had to do this! You should not be worried about him getting angry at you. He did this to you. You found out by invading his privacy...so what? Your 'sins' vanish compared to his. Why are you so afraid of him? He does not deserve your trust. Link to post Share on other sites
Author honeydollbaby Posted August 21, 2009 Author Share Posted August 21, 2009 im just afraid to lose him. it really sounds pathetic now that i say it... idk. i need to just do it and say to hell with whatever he says. i deserve better... i always just wanted to change him but i know i can't... thank you for your advice. i really appreciate it! Link to post Share on other sites
stace79 Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 im just afraid to lose him. it really sounds pathetic now that i say it... idk. i need to just do it and say to hell with whatever he says. i deserve better... i always just wanted to change him but i know i can't... thank you for your advice. i really appreciate it! I wouldn't even give him any reasons or get in to an argument. Just tell him he isn't what you want and you don't want to see him anymore. Then leave and don't look back!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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