wakeboard_28 Posted November 17, 2003 Share Posted November 17, 2003 Hi! I just want to say that I have decided to move on in the world of relatonships and need some advice. I keep on seeing a quote on some of the posts that reads, "If you love something enough you'll set it free and if it feels the same it will come back." I feel better that I am trying to move on but I want to know if I should give her another chance if that time comes. She said to me before I broke contact with her almost two weeks ago that she could see us being together in the future. I just don't know what to do. I still love her enough to say yes if it happens but part of me wants to say no, because I don't want what she did to me to happen again. The quote only confused me because the end of it said "if it feels the same way it will come back." Should I let her come back even it is a few months from now. I haven't talked to her for a little while and I am not desperatly trying to contact her because I need to get over her, but the feelings are still there even when I surpress them. I'm not trying to win her back I'm just wondering what I should do if this situation occurs. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted November 17, 2003 Share Posted November 17, 2003 IF and when she comes back.....whether you take her back or not will depend on where you are at that point of your life. By then, she may be a messed up memory and you may have someone else in your heart. When people break up....the person leaving often times plays with words. "I can see us together in the future" is one of those kinds of statement. It's like....you are dumping them....but want to leave them with a little hope so you don't feel so guilty. I've said totally STUPID things in the past just to get thru the break up. Two weeks seem like an ETERNITY when you are used to being with someone all the time. Realistically though, two weeks aren't very long at all. It could be two months or two years down the road....and if you end up in a situation where both of you are available.....who knows what might happen???? Till them though....you've got to live your own life and move on as though it ISN'T going to happen. ____________________ [color=red]Make your own smiles......[/color] Link to post Share on other sites
BklynGuy Posted November 17, 2003 Share Posted November 17, 2003 Question? Why did your ex break up with you? When my gf of 4 1/2 years broke up w/me over the phone when we had plans to go out that night, she said to me "If you love someone, set them free if it comes back it's meant to be." I dwelled and hoped and prayed and thought and cried and moaned and frolluped. I was praying she'd come back to me. I thought about many things in our relationship and prayed I'd meet her again in another stage of life when I was on my feet. I didn't believe she'd try to come back ever, but she did. When she did, I vented and blew her off! Told her not to call and I was sooooooooo mad @ her because she cheated on me. I couldn't believe I was even talking to her. Then, I realized she wasn't this great person I once saw her as. She was a wolf in sheeps clothing, that had been playing me for about 2 years. I saw the signs but stuck my head in the sand. I lived in denial and it got me nowhere. Sometimes people leave to come back, sometimes they never will come back. It is what it is - a play on words so that you keep them in the back of your mind somewhere. Getting into someone's head is an intelligent tactic. Don't read too much into it. When a bird wants to fly let it go. Even if it comes back, it doesn't mean anything. Who is to say they will not fly again? Link to post Share on other sites
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