gwynieatpain Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 I posted another thread about the same situation in the cheating forum. The more I think about it, the more questions I have now. My story: I was dating this guy on and off for about 1.5 yr. I was the dumper for the past two times and the reason for quitting it was that I was still upset about my cheating ex of 5 years. I couldn't love him wholeheartly. Trust me, it's the worst feeling ever. I was so destroyed and needed to take a break from dating. So I went straight NC for 5 months after the second break up. 2 months ago, he contacted me out of the blue. We started going out again and thought it will be a chance for us to reset the clock. He treated me as good as he was in the past. So I decided that I needed to make things right. But, just found that last weekend he was with some girls whom he met when we were apart and it hurt me so much. I told him the ball was on his court. He could blame me for what I caused him in the past but it was him decided to come back afterall, he couldn't make it as an excuse to messing around with other girls behind me. Either, leave me alone, or we rebuild our relationship together. He didn't say anything but he said he would think about it. Now I'm like losing all the control over the situation. I expect the worst that he probably won't come back. What he told me was really confusing ... 1. he said he has never considered me as an option (maybe I wasn't even considered to be an option, much behind) 2. he said since I came back he starts keeping distance from these girls (but still leading the girls on) 3. he said those girls were back up, coz he didn't know when I would leave again coz I'm so random. What he said had hurt me so much. Karma. 4. he said he couldn't treat me wholeheartly. Afterall I left without saying a word the last two times and the sad memory was still there. (so why he came back to me then? Revenge?) I really want to call him. Yes, the right thing to do is to give him time and space. But, it's gonna show him that I'm the same old me in the past who was so random and wouldn't bother to give him a call during the week. If he doesn't get back or I just leave it, probably it will be the most regrettable thing I have ever done. At the same time, it's him being dishonest. I don't understand why I have to take up all the blames. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
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