Author Subway Posted September 21, 2009 Author Share Posted September 21, 2009 Going to see a lawyer tomorrow just to make sure I don't get stitched up. I've found more stuff out that points to her lying her arse off to me, repeatedly. I went and saw her (ex) best friend. Previously friends for 12 or 13 years. All that **** at the beginning when she asked the question. "No if you don't want to do it it's not that important to me". rubbish. Her best friend told me that she spoke to her about it before coming to me and said to her "I have to talk to him about it, it's eating me up". It's not just me, this ex best friend (who my wife discarded about the same time as she started to discard me) has seen the changes in my wife too. How she has turned from a caring, loving, warm person into a self absorbed nightmare, and quite quickly too. She said she thought it was just her. Went to docs for my depression score, 2 months ago i had 11 for anxiety and 8 for depression. Today I had 20 for anxiety and 18 for depression. Thats what she has done to me, but now my eyes are opening, and its partly thanks to you folks. I just wish I could find bullet proof evidence. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 I just wish I could find bullet proof evidence. So you could................??? You know what she's said. You know how she's treated you. You know she's acted inappropriately. In your heart, you know she's checked out of the marriage. All you should care about is that she's turned away from you. Whether or not she's running to someone else shouldn't matter to you. That's the power of the 180. It stops you from seeing things in the context of the relationship and helps you think about what's best for you. Time to start thinking that way... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Author Subway Posted September 22, 2009 Author Share Posted September 22, 2009 Thanks mr lucky. You are right and as of yesterday this is how i'm thinking. Whoever she is chasing is welcome to her. I can and will do better. I deserve someone who will not prey on my fears to get their own way. 180 is working for me so far. i dont want it to save my marriage anymore. just using it for me. We now only communicate about practicalities which works for me. Today is the first day me the rest of my life :-) Link to post Share on other sites
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