yharden Posted August 25, 2009 Share Posted August 25, 2009 Hello, I recently found out that a person I care deeply for got married to a woman he knew for only 3 weeks before he proposed to her, and then they got married 3 month later. Therefore, they only knew each other for 4 months. They are both in their late forties although she might be older than that since she looks so much older than him. Additionally, his first marriage lasted 22 years, and it was a whirlwind romance too (they knew each other for 6 months before they got married), and it failed miserably with him feeling like he was never accepted by his wife. Oh, and he married the second woman 1 year after his divorce was final. I guess I am just curious what people think about this situation. Will it last, or is it doomed from the beginning? Link to post Share on other sites
shunter Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 If both have been dating and had no problems meeting people, then this is bliss. some scenarios: 1. Married quickly. But one or both do not have lots of social experience so they havent properly experienced dating. doomed 2. Married quickly but both have dating experience and it doesnt just feel right but they know the difference between "it feels right" that is wrong (typical) or truly right -- and this is the right right. bliss 3. waiting five or ten years to get married. this is bad, in my opinion. it is "settling down". the guy finally says "well im getting fat and old, i might as well settle down with her since i have no other prospects and i waited five or ten years for prospects" married after a year, two years,three years, thats normal and goes either way Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 I have no idea. I am guessing from your comment about this being a man that you care for deeply that you are hoping that the marriage goes BUST (especially since he married an old, wrinkled bag!)! Link to post Share on other sites
FreddieMay Posted August 27, 2009 Share Posted August 27, 2009 I believe every marriage deserve a blessing. Doesn't matter how long they've known each others before they got married. I wish them a happy future together:) Link to post Share on other sites
SummerLady Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 If both have been dating and had no problems meeting people, then this is bliss. some scenarios: 1. Married quickly. But one or both do not have lots of social experience so they havent properly experienced dating. doomed 2. Married quickly but both have dating experience and it doesnt just feel right but they know the difference between "it feels right" that is wrong (typical) or truly right -- and this is the right right. bliss 3. waiting five or ten years to get married. this is bad, in my opinion. it is "settling down". the guy finally says "well im getting fat and old, i might as well settle down with her since i have no other prospects and i waited five or ten years for prospects" married after a year, two years,three years, thats normal and goes either way I dated my ex husband for over 1 year and my marriage sucked azz. I may be a dreamer but when its right its right. I am not saying go out and marry someone after 1 month but dating someone for a long time is no guarantee as well. Sometimes its just right and you both know it......I am a Romantic, still after all I have been through, round of applause please:) Link to post Share on other sites
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