burning questions, haha

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i have some questions if you don't mind answering... =p (for people that have cheated or haven't, basically everybody, haha)

 

1) when your SO asks about your past, do you tell them you have cheated before? (if you have) if not, do you lie about it, or just single it out? my bf cheated before, but he lied about it, and i found out later from his sister. If you lie or make excuses for your cheating, does that mean you're not admitting to your mistake and that you'll do it again? (he says he won't bc the same girl cheated on him, and he said that the pain is unbearable and he wouldn't want to give the same pain to anybody)

 

2) i always thought there was something between his "godsister" and him, and even found a bracelet near the side of the bed (not mine =S), made some excuse that i kind of excepted... (he also said that before when he cheated, once he had sex when his "mistress", he broke it off with his gf)

 

3) every time they are together for long periods of time together 5+ hours, i get upset and ask him for "reassurance". last fight, she was helping him move, and the moving/appraisal van was 5 hours late, and they were at his house. to make matters worse, nothing got sold, and so it's like there's no "evidence" that the van ever came, and i said, "it's hard for me to trust you, especially with your past"

 

he blew up at me, and he said, "fine, if you don't trust me then fine, there's nothing to say and i don't want anything to do with you"

 

my question is that if you didn't cheat, but your gf kept insisting you did cheat, and based that on your past (you weren't truthful about it at the beginning), is his reaction justified for blowing up at me that i don't trust him? or do you think he's laying a guilt trip on me?

 

my theory is that since his past is faulty then yes, he should be judged by it, and that it should be his responsibility for reassuring me there is nothing going on? (granted, right after i knew he cheated, i found the bracelet, and i've gotten insecure about "godsister" for about 6 months, so he could be tired that i don't trust him)

 

of course, i know everybody is different, but since you cheated before, and say that you would never cheat again, i would really appreciate your opinion =)