susanl Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 Just a question --met a great guy we have been dating about 3 months and we are going away just the two of us in a couple of weeks for a weekend. He is wonderful and we have talked about going to a club in atlanta for swingers to watch see what goes on--but we have set down rules for us--no touching anyone else looking is okay having fun with each other is great and being sexy with each other is number one. So my question is --has anyone else ever been to these upscale clubs, what should I expect, what do I need to know etc? Thanks in advance Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 I don't buy that the two of you are so much into each other if after ONLY three months of dating you're wanting to travel to go observe people at a swinger's club. When I'm really into somebody I want to be with them...one-on-one....and I would never think of putting us in an environment such as you are contemplating, regardless of the rules you've set down. That's like deciding to rob a bank but making a rule that you'll leave the money at the door before you make your getaway. I do wish you great happiness. I'm sure there are many here who have been to these upscale clubs and will give you the skinny on them. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 I don't consider ANY club "upscale" if I have to share my love interest with the group present. I think if your current boyfriend is encouraging you to go there.....he is saying he would like group sex or more females than you. That doesn't make him a FREAK.....it makes him interested in using his relationship with you to fulfill a fanatasy with MORE people than just you. If that works for you....then enjoy the weekend. I'm not judging it....I just wouldnt' want to share someone I really cared about. Then again, if I didn't care about him.....WHAT is the name of that club?????????????????????????????? HEHEHEHEHEHEHE! Link to post Share on other sites
we2rcouples Posted December 29, 2003 Share Posted December 29, 2003 Susan, by now you've all ready had gone there, but: We both also wanted to go to a swingers club just to watch. It was rather fun, really turned us both on and we joined in. But if you don't think you even have thoughts about it, don't do. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted December 29, 2003 Share Posted December 29, 2003 I've been with my gf for about 4 months now and about 2 months ago she told me she was bi-curious. She mentioned she wanted a 3 some with me which I was fine with. I was first concerned about the jealousy, or the strain it could put on our relationship. But she has made me feel comfortable enough that she wouldnt get jealous, that there is a big difference between just sex & making love. We also were goin to goto a swingers type bar just to see what its all about. There is a web site that swingers discuss certain topics. The one topic was about a club we were thinking about going too. I learned that this club let in ALOT of single males and it turned into a 'wolfpack' Where this one couple had 3 guys staring at them, thinking she was going to 'please' them. Needless to say it got pretty ugly. If you think about going to a club, ground rules must be set. But also call the club & see how many 'single males' they let in. The last thing you want is for both of you to feel uncomfortable. Somethings are better left a fantasy, its hard to tell until you actually experience it though. You really have to be ready for anything that might happen at one of those places. Link to post Share on other sites
Author susanl Posted December 30, 2003 Author Share Posted December 30, 2003 Hi thanks for the reply. Just to let you know we decided to go and was really pleasantly surprised. Friday night was what you mentioned with a lot of single men starring and looking and I was a bit uncomfortable. But Saturday night was couples only and we had a great time. First of all a couple of things--this was a very upscale club and by the way with a great dinner and breakfast buffet and it was extremely clean and everyone who worked there was very pleasant and helpful. We had laid down some ground rules prior to going---we didn't want anyone else touching--looking was fine for all parties concerned but that was it. Like I said Saturday night was wonderful and in fact we are going back to the same club this weekend. The way we set the ground rules where we were only going to be with each other and no one else it was very sensual, sexy and stimulating--and it was a great chance to dress up and be sexy. So again as long as you set the ground rules it is fun Link to post Share on other sites
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