nicolas Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 hi... ooookkkkk, question... when me and my gf first started going out, she'd e-mail me pretty much everday, she seemed so energetic and happy and loving in her letters. We've been going out for 3 months now (tomorrow's our anniversary) and last time i saw her... we had a very... ermm.. intimate time together anyways, soo ya now lately she hasn't beenwriting me anymore... but we still talk on the phone everyday. just wondrin... y wouldn't she e-mail me anymore? like... i figure... either she's kinda figured... well she doesn't really like me so much anymore... or i dunno maybe she just feels we;re at a stage where we don't need to give each other so much attention? oh as well, i recently got a job too... and she mentioned that she was dissapointed that we wouln't be seeing each other as often... and she sometimes jokes bout us being married too... maybe i'm just blowing the whole missed a few e-mails outta proportions? as always, thanks for any possible answers u may have. Link to post Share on other sites
nicholas Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 ok.. remember how i said she jokes around bout getting married... but then when i asked her how long she see's us being together she said... at least till my birthday... which is like... in 2 months... sooo is this bad? Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 Anyone who mentions marriage within the first three months of a relationship is...perhaps a little nutty. That's pretty scary. WHy aren't you going to see her much anymore? And you asked how long she sees you two being together, and she said at least until your birthday?! What the hell is that about? Link to post Share on other sites
wiseOLDman Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 nicolas, if the two or you are talking everyday, it's quite possible that you're covering all the topics in the conversation and she just doesn't have anything to email you about. Not sure how email has become such an important factor in the dating game. As for her response on how long you'll be together, how would you expect her to respond? Not that her response was particularly appropriate, but jeez, how can one really answer a question like that until they make a committment to marry? Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 you two sound youngish too, so intimacy maybe a confusing thing for her, maybe she feels guilty for doing whatever with you, maybe she is very self contiouse?......... who knows? just ask! also girls get weird after sex, we think that maybe that is all we were there for, or that is all that the relationship will be now......so that could be her reasoning to pull away, to see if you want her for her. and i often feel that i call too much or send to many little klove notes and that i could be annoying, so maybe she is feeling insecure that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 How have YOU been acting since you were "intimate" together? Did you acknowledge it or just take it for granted? Maybe in evaluating how you reacted....will give you some clue as to why she is responding the way she is. Maybe she thinks YOU will end up leaving her because you "got what you wanted" and she is playing cool to save her heart. Females can get on some goofy head trips when sex is involved..... I think you guys need to TALK! Link to post Share on other sites
nicolas Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 ok... lol first of all we didn't have sex... and nothing involing the word sex (i.e oral sex) ok, for thoe pervs out there, nothing below the belt ok? lol now that that's outta the way, umm after she was just askin me if wat we did was ok, and i said yap.. and she said she was ok too... but then she kinda hesitated... cause after iw as like... sooo yup... cause well i didn't really have anyting to say... i didn't want to bee too enthusiastic cause didnt' want her to think that was like.. my goal... but maybe i didn't say enough... ? i said 'i love you' .. Link to post Share on other sites
Callisto Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 You said you loved her after a couple of months? Maybe she got a little scared. Then again, just because somebody doesn't e-mail you everyday does not mean they care about you less. As long as you two keep in touch, I'm sure a few missed e-mails isn't a huge thing. Link to post Share on other sites
nicolas Posted November 19, 2003 Share Posted November 19, 2003 well, we both said it... like she did first..i don't think she's freaked out bout that Link to post Share on other sites
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