Ways to "re sexify" yourself

[parrotlover]

Okay, so that's not really a word.

 

However, as I've been with my hubby for a while I've watched my appearance go downhill.

 

I'm no 21 year old anymore! I'm 30! And quite frankly, I enjoy being 30. I had none of that dread that women talk about when nearing their 30th birthday. Maybe that's because I have everything I ever wanted in life?

 

Anyway, back to my point.

 

I've let myself go. I'm not as thin as I once was (and I'll never be THAT thin again) but I'm not obese. I weigh 130 pounds and I'm 5 feet tall.

 

So I'm working on shedding a few pounds to kinda trim up that middle fat around the belly.

 

I looked at my clothing and it's all FRUMPY. Now, I don't want to look like one of those woman that look old trying to look young. But I do want to look a bit nicer.

 

What sorts of things can a 30 year old woman do to help get her sexy back? Daily sorts of stuff. Not crazy stuff, or desperate stuff, just normal.

 

I work a physically demanding job from home so sometimes I just am going to look like crap. But I only work 4 days a week, so at the very least those other three days I can try to look good.

 

Suggestions?

[mem11363]

My wife is 46. She looks mid thirties - and most of that is because she eats a really healthy mix of food and avoids things that cause her to eat to much. So she eats fruits and veggies a LOT - but does not eat any bread or other carbs that cause her to overeat.

 

She also walks 3-4 miles daily. Sometimes with me and sometimes with the dogs.

 

That combo is really effective. She is 5 foot 2 inches. At the start of this year she got up to 127 - the most she has ever weighed in her life. And she got a bit freaked out - started doing the stuff "above" and is back at 110. She looks incredible and I crave her.

 

To me, being fit/trim is way, way more important then makeup/clothing etc. The other stuff is a nice "add on" but it is not "core".

 

I went on a site that have weight by height/age percentile. For a woman her age and height she is in the 2% percentile. If she was "average" she would be at 156. I cringe at the thought of my beautiful wife weighing 156 pounds.

 

 

Okay, so that's not really a word.

 

However, as I've been with my hubby for a while I've watched my appearance go downhill.

 

I'm no 21 year old anymore! I'm 30! And quite frankly, I enjoy being 30. I had none of that dread that women talk about when nearing their 30th birthday. Maybe that's because I have everything I ever wanted in life?

 

Anyway, back to my point.

 

I've let myself go. I'm not as thin as I once was (and I'll never be THAT thin again) but I'm not obese. I weigh 130 pounds and I'm 5 feet tall.

 

So I'm working on shedding a few pounds to kinda trim up that middle fat around the belly.

 

I looked at my clothing and it's all FRUMPY. Now, I don't want to look like one of those woman that look old trying to look young. But I do want to look a bit nicer.

 

What sorts of things can a 30 year old woman do to help get her sexy back? Daily sorts of stuff. Not crazy stuff, or desperate stuff, just normal.

 

I work a physically demanding job from home so sometimes I just am going to look like crap. But I only work 4 days a week, so at the very least those other three days I can try to look good.

 

Suggestions?

[Devil Inside]

Parrot for me nothing is sexier on a woman then confidence. I actually like a woman with some curves...so that is not the issue. If you feel good it shows...and that is sexy. I agree that exercise is a good way to gain confidence because it makes you feel good about yourself.

 

I also find that when women wear sexy panties and bras it shows even with their clothes on. Something about a sexy pair of panties that get me every time. Just knowing a woman has something naughty on underneath those jeans or under that skirt drives me crazy.

[quankanne]

yep, confidence is a great garment. Do something for yourself that makes YOU feel good & girly – for me, that's getting a pedicure every so often.

 

clothing (as you mention) is good. Start with a couple of interchangeable pieces and definitely sexy undergarments will put you in the right mindset.

 

men pick up on the attitude change.

 

if your feet can handle it, a pair of high heels that you feel comfortable wearing also does the trick.

[Lizzie60]

Wow... parrot.. how depressing.. you're only 30 for Pete's sake.. come on!!!!! 30 is the new 20...

 

Cheer up... you sound much older than your age..

[Eve]

I work a physically demanding job from home so sometimes I just am going to look like crap. But I only work 4 days a week, so at the very least those other three days I can try to look good.

 

Suggestions?

 

I dont get how you can be working a physically demanding job and still be putting on weight? I say look nice everyday, concentrating on making sure that you like how you have done your hair etc. You may not be able to dress up as such but choose whatever you wear well. If you spend a lot of times in jeans and t-shirts for example, make sure they accentuate your legs and bum etc. Personally I think women who have curves look far healthier, I call it having a bit of 'jiggle in the wiggle'.. so dont understand the idea of being very very slender. Of course, I understand that there are different body types but think it more important to be well toned more that anything else. Overall I think men prefer boobs and bums, especially in nice underwear. But yeah, concentrate on toning the tummy area, most definately, that can be a real confidence boost. Too much jiggle is not good and is a health risk.

 

So, take time chosing what you are going to wear. There are hundreds of nice stylish t-shirts/causual clothing out there that look great! but it is important to do this for yourself everyday. Not for a man or anyone else. Do it for you. Being old fashioned I still think that its all about how a person carries themseves which makes them attractive. So try and not get too caught up in the visual side of things even though this is an essential part of the process. Confidence is ultimately the greatest turn on.

 

Enjoy your days honey, life is wayyyyyyyy too short to do anything other than this. Probably turning 30 has been a bit of a shock..

 

The main women I admire (in real life) are in their 50's! They have helped me to really value myself, how I look and my impact on others. Lean towards accepting yourself and work with your body, especially regarding eating well and keeping yourself hydrated. Maybe also sign up for 'pilates', 'yoga' or Salsa classes... get out of the house more.. Gosh, you can do anything you want!

 

 

All the best,

Take care,

Eve xx