What are you doing tonight?

[silic0ntoad]

Lol this has become a gathering place for the ladies, this thread, I see!

 

 

Friday night I hit a local bar, went out for a long car ride with a few people. Saturday I went to a friends and watched some really lame movie. Today I vegetated and took my dog to a local park. It was a decent weekend. She wasn't on my mind the entire time.

[icyness]

Right like you wouldn't be welcome Silic0n.

Although it did get rather bombarded by females huh, lol.

 

Sounds like you had a pretty nice weekend!

That's really cool you were able to coast through it without thinking of her too much.

Is it getting easier or do you find yourself going back and forth at all?

[soheartbroken]

Not on your mind the entire time? That's amazing progress.

 

I can forget about the breakup for maybe 30 seconds at best. Then I realize that I've forgotten it, and go right back to thinking of it! Awesome.

[silic0ntoad]

Right like you wouldn't be welcome Silic0n.

Although it did get rather bombarded by females huh, lol.

 

Sounds like you had a pretty nice weekend!

That's really cool you were able to coast through it without thinking of her too much.

Is it getting easier or do you find yourself going back and forth at all?

 

 

I'd be a liar if I said this is easy, or that my emotions have been constant. I drift back and forth. It's the worst for me when I am at work, or late at night, when I wake up in cold sweats.

 

It's just the way of it. This road is familiar to me, I've tread it before, I didn't want to again, but happiness will be my alias for as long as it need be, until it becomes truth, if you understand my meaning. It's easier to cope behind a mask.

 

I thought of her here and there. Mostly anger. But, I had more fun. Some color is returning to the shade she left behind.

[Sbrizio]

i'm in the same phase. In the span of 4 hours i move from resignation and a kinda melancholic peace to be in panic and having tears. Not enough rage unfortunately.

 

The weekend was fairly good, but maybe due to the fact that i met some ladies and that i wasn't even slightly interested in them, this morning the memories of her hit me again...hard.

 

Having 3 or 4 different states of mind in a day is the norm, i can see..think we can only accept and keep the knuckles tight? But's still f'g hard

[Peanut9330]

Hey guys just dropping by to see how are all you doing today hope a little better than Saturday but I have to say Saturday night helped me alot thanks for the support!

[caramel c]

Hey you all,

 

Today I have been doing quite alright. Sat night was theraputic for me, I think I needed it.

 

So, one thought I had today was: if he's not extremely bothered thinking about my feelings for him fading & me moving on and finding somebody else, then that's more reason to let my feelings fade & move on and find somebody else. Right?!

[alphamale]

well i'm leaving the office in a few (its 6pm almost) which means i'll arrive home around 7:15 or so. will probably get something to eat and watch tv for a few hours then go to bed around 10pm. have to get up at 6am you know.

 

i wish i was independently wealthy and didn't have to work, i'd be out on my 55 foot yacht with babes in bikinis and a kilo of cocaine

[bluewolf17]

i wish i was independently wealthy and didn't have to work, i'd be out on my 55 foot yacht with babes in bikinis and a kilo of cocaine

 

Yeah, I hear you. . Except I would be surrounded by oiled up Swiss guys combing my hair, giving me pedicures and licking my ear.

[Taucher]

i wish i was independently wealthy and didn't have to work, i'd be out on my 55 foot yacht with babes in bikinis and a kilo of cocaine

 

At the moment, I would be happy being on an inflatable dinghy with the girl who works in my local library. And a cake.

 

I am off to bed in a sec. Just gone midnight.

[Peanut9330]

well i'm leaving the office in a few (its 6pm almost) which means i'll arrive home around 7:15 or so. will probably get something to eat and watch tv for a few hours then go to bed around 10pm. have to get up at 6am you know.

 

i wish i was independently wealthy and didn't have to work, i'd be out on my 55 foot yacht with babes in bikinis and a kilo of cocaine

 

 

I hear you on that I have to work until 9 and I started at 10 but at least with the kind of hours i'm working I predict that in about 10 more years i'll have my 55 foot yacht lol minus the babes but i'll make sure there will be plenty of hunks on it lol Alpha you'll be the first I invite!!!

[Peanut9330]

Hey you all,

 

Today I have been doing quite alright. Sat night was theraputic for me, I think I needed it.

 

So, one thought I had today was: if he's not extremely bothered thinking about my feelings for him fading & me moving on and finding somebody else, then that's more reason to let my feelings fade & move on and find somebody else. Right?!

 

Right, I understand those feelings been through them before way back when I though I wanted to get my ex back it was terrible going through those thoughts day in and day out, and all this happened to me about 2 months ago, and as of the last 3 weeks I feel liberated and stronger and happier because I realized that I didn’t deserve what he did to me. I know that I deserve much better as we all do!! So keep your head up stay positive and most important enjoy life and have fun if u need support you know where we are!!

[icyness]

I'm glad some of you guys are doing better.

 

I'm having to force myself not to contact him again. It really is a snowball effect..you do it once and it causes you to want to again and again..at least for me.

I'm just continuously amazed at how much he doesn't seem to care.

I can't seem to dig myself out of this depression over it no matter what I do anymore.

[Peanut9330]

I'm glad some of you guys are doing better.

 

I'm having to force myself not to contact him again. It really is a snowball effect..you do it once and it causes you to want to again and again..at least for me.

I'm just continuously amazed at how much he doesn't seem to care.

I can't seem to dig myself out of this depression over it no matter what I do anymore.

 

 

Did he ask for space or tell u to leave him alone?

[Surfer Girl]

Since I have been laid off.... Getting clothes together for the consignment shop.... and converse myself into TV and hopefully getting a good nights sleep

[icyness]

Peanut, yes he did.

My problem is, because of my actions right after he left me, I can't decipher anything that was said anymore.

 

He told me to just give him some time and he promises we'll be friends when he was ready.

Not longer after that though, I took it too far for a couple of day and didn't leave him alone; he got so mad he went off on me and that's when he started freezing me out, that was roughly 6 weeks ago.

I have left him alone for the most part with the acception of yesterdays email and one a couple of weeks ago. Other than that, I've not called or texted him in over a month.

 

So, I guess I'm scared that even though he said he'd talk to me again, I blew it, and I don't know if he feels that way anymore. I told him if he wants nothing to do with me ever again, it's fine, to just please let me know. He won't say a word to me. I'm really wondering if this his way of telling me he's done forever, or he will talk to me again, he just refuses to right now since I made him so mad. I made it clear I really would be fine if he chooses to never speak to me again, just let me know..so why would doing this and receiving emails from me here and there be easier than just saying "I'm done for good..leave me alone." ?

I'm so confused.

 

So, even though I know leaving him be is the answer right now, I tend to sheepishly send a tiny email every few weeks to see if anything will come out of it.

[Peanut9330]

Icy I know how you feel when my ex broke up with me during our initial break up I did everything that your not suppose to cried, begged explained why we're perfect for each other wrote him a bunch of email called him and sent him constant text messages all the time. Wow that was a big mistake because all along he had another woman and as the saying goes he had his cake and ate it too, the only thing I was doing was giving him an ego boost and he had me right where he wanted me. After I realized what was going on after I found out that there was someone else I left him alone for good and it hurt like hell but I did it and in the back of my head I hoped every single day that he would come back to me, and after giving him that space he came back and at first I was thrilled and able to forget everything he did to me. However after a week it all hit me and when it hit I was furious. I couldn't understand how someone who I been with for 3 years who claimed to love me with all his heart can put me through this hell, and I got my answer. It was because he didn’t truly love me if he did than he would have never caused me the grief he did. At that point I realized that I have to be strong and move on and I walked away, and even though after this realization I still missed him and my heart ached for him, and than I had a thought do I really miss him and love him or do I miss the comfort of another person just being there for me and than once again I realized that I didn’t miss him just the comfort of a person. I know all this is easier said than done and it time you will heal and learn and grow stronger from this experience. It just takes time to heal.

[caramel c]

Peanut, yes he did.

My problem is, because of my actions right after he left me, I can't decipher anything that was said anymore.

 

He told me to just give him some time and he promises we'll be friends when he was ready.

Not longer after that though, I took it too far for a couple of day and didn't leave him alone; he got so mad he went off on me and that's when he started freezing me out, that was roughly 6 weeks ago.

I have left him alone for the most part with the acception of yesterdays email and one a couple of weeks ago. Other than that, I've not called or texted him in over a month.

 

So, I guess I'm scared that even though he said he'd talk to me again, I blew it, and I don't know if he feels that way anymore. I told him if he wants nothing to do with me ever again, it's fine, to just please let me know. He won't say a word to me. I'm really wondering if this his way of telling me he's done forever, or he will talk to me again, he just refuses to right now since I made him so mad. I made it clear I really would be fine if he chooses to never speak to me again, just let me know..so why would doing this and receiving emails from me here and there be easier than just saying "I'm done for good..leave me alone." ?

I'm so confused.

 

So, even though I know leaving him be is the answer right now, I tend to sheepishly send a tiny email every few weeks to see if anything will come out of it.

 

Icy what did you say in the email yesterday? Or is this what you said above?

[mike5770]

I am sitting here thinking od all the good times with her and now realizing she doesn't want me anymore and is probably with someone else..I would love to get in her brain and see what did it..when did she decide I am no longer viable and to cut me loose...I took a shower brushed my teeth used mouthwash didnt cheat..but not good enough..seems I am never good enough for the long haul!

[caramel c]

I am sitting here thinking od all the good times with her and now realizing she doesn't want me anymore and is probably with someone else..I would love to get in her brain and see what did it..when did she decide I am no longer viable and to cut me loose...I took a shower brushed my teeth used mouthwash didnt cheat..but not good enough..seems I am never good enough for the long haul!

 

These feelings won't last forever! They are only temporary. What kind of toothpaste do you use? I like crest vivid white. It's so good, you could eat it in a sandwich.

[Peanut9330]

I love crest vivid white

[icyness]

Peanut, thank you.

I'm so sorry you had to go through that..Amazing how the tables have turned and he won't leave you alone now!

You must feel very different from when he first broke up with you.

 

Although I have no solid proof he is with someone else, I'm really thinking there is a very good chance he is just because of the way he left me and stories like yours.

I can't believe how many I've read that the the dumper didn't mention anyone else then later the dumpee finds out that's what it was.

It's driving me insane..I know everyone says it doesn't help to know but I'm going to continue wanting to know regardless just because I'm very much in the dark at the moment about it all.

 

Caramel, my email was very short and very stupid. I said "I hope she makes you happy..whoever she is."

 

Again, I don't know that he is actually with someone else..I'm just trying to fish for something..anything..hoping he'll crack and tell me.

[caramel c]

Peanut, thank you.

I'm so sorry you had to go through that..Amazing how the tables have turned and he won't leave you alone now!

You must feel very different from when he first broke up with you.

 

Although I have no solid proof he is with someone else, I'm really thinking there is a very good chance he is just because of the way he left me and stories like yours.

I can't believe how many I've read that the the dumper didn't mention anyone else then later the dumpee finds out that's what it was.

It's driving me insane..I know everyone says it doesn't help to know but I'm going to continue wanting to know regardless just because I'm very much in the dark at the moment about it all.

 

Caramel, my email was very short and very stupid. I said "I hope she makes you happy..whoever she is."

 

Again, I don't know that he is actually with someone else..I'm just trying to fish for something..anything..hoping he'll crack and tell me.

 

Ok, at least you didn't spill your guts out. Don't do it again! Please!

[icyness]

Yeah, I'm fighting myself every second, but I won't do it again. I have about 3 email drafts spilling my guts but they remain drafts..I don't want to be totally back at square one, even though it feels like I am just because of that one email.

At least if he is with someone..I don't look like I'm trying to be mean or fight him on it right? Even though I definitely don't mean what I said in the email and it was a flat out lie..at least it was a nice one.

Ugh.

[caramel c]

Yeah, I'm fighting myself every second, but I won't do it again. I have about 3 email drafts spilling my guts but they remain drafts..I don't want to be totally back at square one, even though it feels like I am just because of that one email.

At least if he is with someone..I don't look like I'm trying to be mean or fight him on it right? Even though I definitely don't mean what I said in the email and it was a flat out lie..at least it was a nice one.

Ugh.

 

Listen, you are driving yourself nuts. And, I want to tell you that in most of my breakups I was the dumper. It was only once I started dating somebody after the first month after breakup, but I did not have somebody waiting in the wings before I broke up. And knowing my friends' histories as well, they didn't have somebody right away either - its not exactly something you should just assume to be true. He could just as well be dateless. And, WHO CARES? (ok ok I know but I had to say it)