should we marry a pretty or an ugly woman

[stuckinwithyou]

here is my thoughts and I might be wrong

if you marry beautiful Girl

you have to work hard to chase her before marriage

Big diamond ring

always jealous from other people looking at her

she probably will have lot of girlfriends " she always wanted this and that because her friends has it"

she can get any job she want "if you are not rich"

if you get divorce she might take you to the cleaner " because all she has to do is to show the judge how pretty she is" and that will make u look like an A.S.S

Oh yeah you will be reminded every day to the rest of you life how lucky you are to have her and how special she is for you.

now for an ugly girl

you don't have to worry about her leaving you

she won't ask you for much if u don't have lot of money

you don't worry about her in the real world 'you can leave her in France and she will come back to you "

in divorce you will have equal battle "because either of you pulling each other hair equally"

now I know it is not the rule because you might have sweet pretty woman then you must be in heaven

But if you get bitchy ugly wife you need to stay away from sharp objects and firearms or the medicine cabinet.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

here is my thoughts and I might be wrong

if you marry beautiful Girl

you have to work hard to chase her before marriage

Big diamond ring

always jealous from other people looking at her

she probably will have lot of girlfriends " she always wanted this and that because her friends has it"

she can get any job she want "if you are not rich"

if you get divorce she might take you to the cleaner " because all she has to do is to show the judge how pretty she is" and that will make u look like an A.S.S

Oh yeah you will be reminded every day to the rest of you life how lucky you are to have her and how special she is for you.

now for an ugly girl

you don't have to worry about her leaving you

she won't ask you for much if u don't have lot of money

you don't worry about her in the real world 'you can leave her in France and she will come back to you "

in divorce you will have equal battle "because either of you pulling each other hair equally"

now I know it is not the rule because you might have sweet pretty woman then you must be in heaven

But if you get bitchy ugly wife you need to stay away from sharp objects and firearms or the medicine cabinet.

I hope thats an just a attempt at humor gone horribly wrong no?

 

Cause if not its fairly shallow and totally stereo typical way off the mark matter of fact not even in the same zip code as the mark lol..

[LakesideDream]

This is a funny thread. It brought back both new and old memories for me. When I married my ex I thought she was "cute". She wasn't beautiful by any means, lean and rangy she was sweet and I thought she loved me and was devoted to me.

 

After five years or so (of 25) maybe a little longer the kids came, 2 in 13 months, and life changed. I certainly recommitted to my marriage. With the responsibility of two children, I knew I had to be the best I could be. Of course I failed, but I tried. Somewhere around that time my wife became much more attractive to me. By the time the kids were five or so I believed she was beautiful. I was very proud of her as a wife and mother, and for her beauty as well.

 

I felt that way until after the eventual divorce. About 2 years ago I was chatting with a friend, and brought out some pictures. My friend was taken up short, they had never met my ex. Finally my friend said to me that they were suprised at how plain, even "homely" my ex looked. They were expecting a "beauty" as that was the way I had always described her. I was stunned by their comment.

 

Later I looked at a whole bunch of photo's, in a new light. You know what? Without the fog of love, and sexual attraction I had to agree. My ex wasn't "my type" at all. Today I wouldn't look twice at someone who resembled her, other than to remark on the simularity. I've had a few good chuckles about it too.

 

The "moral of the story"? True beauty is in the heart.

[carhill]

OP, here's the thing with 'ugly' people. They've had to deal with being ugly their whole lives. They've learned to be independent because no one wants to help them. They've learned to deal with rejection because of rampant repetition. They've learned a lot of life skills that pretty people never will. So, if you think a person will stick around simply because they're ugly, you're dead wrong

 

However, if you move beyond the superficial categorization of humans into classes of appearance, you might find one who accepts and loves and remains committed to you because you're a decent and caring and loving human being. Hope springs eternal

 

My experience with my wife was somewhat similar to LsD's. In fact, I would generally say that's been my experience. The 'aura' of a woman I loved altered, in my mind, what her appearance really was/is. I think that is a good thing. A human thing.

[LucreziaBorgia]

I was talking to a friend of mine not too long about this, and his take on it was - if you are going to settle down, don't settle down with the hot chick. Why? Because hot chicks are the sort that need constant validation and when your validation wears thin they will start looking outside for it. According to him, you stand a better chance at getting your heart stomped if you go for the hot (usually bitchy in his words) chicks than if you do the average ones.

[Lusitan]

I was talking to a friend of mine not too long about this, and his take on it was - if you are going to settle down, don't settle down with the hot chick. Why? Because hot chicks are the sort that need constant validation and when your validation wears thin they will start looking outside for it. According to him, you stand a better chance at getting your heart stomped if you go for the hot (usually bitchy in his words) chicks than if you do the average ones.

 

 

And some females got the whole bitchy attitude without being conventionally hot. One of my class mates is one of those and boy, she spends her entire time saying how attractive she is because, in her mind, to be chased by guys, means she's attractive. Of course I closed my mouth as the thought of this "very obese classe mate of ours being chased by guys" because I didn't want to be bitched at, passed my mind

 

Her male friends, from what I've seen, are there to validate her, since she's always saying her friends(with a very happy sound to it) want to ' do' her, I would, if i was a guy interested in her, for a relationship, stay very much far away with her, after getting to know her

 

She's always complaining and nagging, plus, she has some sort of reality distortion since she says she looks very much like Angelina Jolie(she looks like Angelina Jolie as much as a rock looks like a tree), she thinks this because guys tell her this - to get her in bed. And when the guy gets it, and goes away(because he can't stand the bitchy attitude) she says all they want is sex

 

Average girls rock:love: They are sweet, caring, romantic(have you ever seen a hot chick romance a guy?), kind of girl I'd take home to meet my mother. The kind of girl who makes me think of home baked apple pie.:love:

[TaraMaiden]

I hope thats an just a attempt at humor gone horribly wrong no?

 

Cause if not its fairly shallow and totally stereo typical way off the mark matter of fact not even in the same zip code as the mark lol..

 

His other thread is a scream....

[Sam Spade]

As a general rule of thumb, yes - i think it is much better to marry a pretty average girl (rather than a reeally hot one). All else equal, hot girls are more demanding/entitled - just because they can - and I ain't having it , no way, no how.

[SummerLady]

here is my thoughts and I might be wrong

if you marry beautiful Girl

you have to work hard to chase her before marriage

Big diamond ring

always jealous from other people looking at her

she probably will have lot of girlfriends " she always wanted this and that because her friends has it"

she can get any job she want "if you are not rich"

if you get divorce she might take you to the cleaner " because all she has to do is to show the judge how pretty she is" and that will make u look like an A.S.S

Oh yeah you will be reminded every day to the rest of you life how lucky you are to have her and how special she is for you.

now for an ugly girl

you don't have to worry about her leaving you

she won't ask you for much if u don't have lot of money

you don't worry about her in the real world 'you can leave her in France and she will come back to you "

in divorce you will have equal battle "because either of you pulling each other hair equally"

now I know it is not the rule because you might have sweet pretty woman then you must be in heaven

But if you get bitchy ugly wife you need to stay away from sharp objects and firearms or the medicine cabinet.

 

Being attracted to someone is important but without love and compatiability nothing matters. I dated a very very attractive man in college, woman drooled over him and you know what, he was lame in everyway to me. I learned this at 22. Looks were important but not the most important thing. It was actually a depressing lesson to learn at an early age but I am glad I learned it. Looks fad after a while and if there is nothing inside all you got is an empty shell of a person. Very boring...

[quankanne]

preach on, Jimmy Soul ...

[reservoirdog1]

I was talking to a friend of mine not too long about this, and his take on it was - if you are going to settle down, don't settle down with the hot chick. Why? Because hot chicks are the sort that need constant validation and when your validation wears thin they will start looking outside for it. According to him, you stand a better chance at getting your heart stomped if you go for the hot (usually bitchy in his words) chicks than if you do the average ones.

 

I'm a bit of a sappy romantic, so this should be read in that light.

 

Somebody once said, "one day, someone will come into your life who makes you realize why it never worked with anybody else." The older I get, the more I think that finding a life partner is, ultimately, a matter of chance.

 

Just focusing on women who meet some objective or popular standard of "hot"ness is fine. Rock on. Just remember that faux-"inspirational" poster: "Reality: no matter how hot she may look now, somewhere there is a guy who's tired of putting up with her shyt.":D

 

But don't discount the notion of meeting a woman one day who doesn't fit your usual aesthetic criteria, but who nonetheless captivates you. Chemistry's a funny thing -- it depends on a combination of looks, verbal interplay, complimentary personalities, pheromones, and total random chance.

 

About five years ago, I went on a first date with a woman I met on the internet. When I arrived to pick her up and she opened the door, my first thought was "hmmm... not quite as attractive as her photo." Not unattractive, but just not quite what I'd seen. We went for drinks and found we had incredible chemistry. For a number of reasons it didn't turn into anything and we've both long since moved on. But for the next five years, she was the gold standard -- I judged "chemistry" by that date with her.

 

Nobody quite matched it until I met my current GF. We met at a party about six months ago. As she's told me since, for the first twenty minutes after meeting me, she thought I was a bit of a cocky a-hole. But there was something between us that sparked very quickly, and we're still together, and it's better every day. I'm in love.

 

So, the moral of the story: surrender to chance, and don't limit yourself. You never know where you'll find love.