Living in the past

[Bernadette]

I need some advice please, I was previously engaged to someone who I had been with for five years. I called the wedding off with 8 months to go. It was the best thing I ever did. We had broken up and gotten back together so many times it wasn't funny. Looking back now there are so many reasons that we should never have been engaged in the first place. I have now been in a different relationship for 19 months and I am very happy, I have found someone who is very caring, loving, romantic and special to me. He has just turned 30 and I know that he is thinking seriously about asking me to marry him as he brings it up all the time. He is not perfect but I guess nobody is. We always argue after he has been drinking alot but other than that I couldn't be happier. I am very scared because of my past that I might make another mistake, being of European background, it is looked very badly apon when you break off one engagement let alone two. I just want to be sure this time. What can I do to prove to myself that this is the right or wrong thing to do??

 

Anyone with any advice especially anyone who was called off a previous engagement please reply, I need any help I can get.

[mari'beth]

i recently called off my engagement, also be cause we fought all the time. we make up, and i put the ring back on. its a teeter totter thats been going on for months, i wish i had the courage you did. you sound much happier this time around. I think you'll be fine.