br4250 Posted November 20, 2003 Share Posted November 20, 2003 I dont know where to start. I am constantly sad as a result of not feeling like i am something. i feel worthless. i am constantly in a fog and am confused. i know a quite a few people, but i cant say i have a firend in the true sense of the word. I have the feeling that the reason no one really likes me as as a person is am boring and so out of it, i also think i am bad looking, well not that bad but goofy looking and i dont think i am being taken seriously. i would like a girlfriend to give all my loving, but i cant seem to find anyone, i am too self concious, and i dont know how to talk to them. i think im too nice of a guy, and i dont finish last, i dont finish at all. My life is a blur, and i cant, although i may try so hard in so many ways, nothing seems to change that. I am so unhappy, on so many levels. I am not hip, i am not the average person, i am shy, i am sensitive, i cant fix my problems. i cant remember the last time i was truely happy. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted November 20, 2003 Share Posted November 20, 2003 Have you got access to any sort of counsellors through school or maybe work? Sometimes we need someone to help us see a different perspective on our lives and counsellors are good at that. It is also possible you're headed for a depression and a physician could help you with that - and with a referral to a counsellor. Don't keep this to yourself. Reach out for help, please. Link to post Share on other sites
Author br4250 Posted November 20, 2003 Author Share Posted November 20, 2003 I dont know about a counselor, i dont think i could see one. im just gonna try and find someone to open up to. i dont like counselors, i have never met one i liked. i dont think they know whats going on, and i dont think they could give any more than generic advice that just masks my problems. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted November 20, 2003 Share Posted November 20, 2003 Hm. 'They' say that you need to find a counsellor you like and who you get along with. Did you actually have a counsellor for yourself or did you just meet some you didn't like? The thing is that it would take a lot of discussion and knowing you personally to really help - forums like these can point you in a direction to get help but you have a lot of stuff going on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author br4250 Posted November 20, 2003 Author Share Posted November 20, 2003 i dont know, im just gonna go to bed and hope tomorrow will be a better day. I cant help but think its not all me, im just gonna work on my problems. I do wish i had someone to talk it out with, but until then im just gonna try and make the most it. I think the biggest thing i need to overcome is find out who i am. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted November 20, 2003 Share Posted November 20, 2003 It really would be better if you could talk with someone, but there are good books about self-esteem if you really don't want to see a counsellor. I'm worried, though, that it may be depression. Did you ever talk to your doc about how you feel? Link to post Share on other sites
someone579 Posted November 20, 2003 Share Posted November 20, 2003 I was just like that 2 months ago. I used to be an easygoing and cheerfull person. However, I later found myself friendless and it seemed like everything was just going down hill. I was so depressed...for 2 darn months! I hated it. I didn't open up or talk to anyone because I was scared and insecure w/myself. I didn't realize this until now. Anyway, I re-evaluated myself. I ask myself why am I in this predicament? Is it me or is it everyone else that's the prob? The truth hurts. I am a shy and sensitive person too. I don't like to approach people. I always want others to approach me. I want things from others that I, myself were not willing to give. You must give before you take. It took me sometimes to realize this and to actually accept it and try to change myself. I think maybe you should do what you wan to do. Don't worry too much about what everybody else thinks. Don't be afraid to change especially when you know it's for the better. It won't help if you're just gonna wait around for good things to happen to you...you have to go out there and look for it. If people think you are boring and so out of it, then maybe you are. So, are you gonna be like that forever or do you want to be a better person? I am sorry if I sound too harsh, but I just think you really need to find yourself and be yourself. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
sexy Posted November 20, 2003 Share Posted November 20, 2003 Originally posted by br4250 I dont know where to start. I am constantly sad as a result of not feeling like i am something. i feel worthless. i am constantly in a fog and am confused. i know a quite a few people, but i cant say i have a firend in the true sense of the word. I have the feeling that the reason no one really likes me as as a person is am boring and so out of it, i also think i am bad looking, well not that bad but goofy looking and i dont think i am being taken seriously. i would like a girlfriend to give all my loving, but i cant seem to find anyone, i am too self concious, and i dont know how to talk to them. i think im too nice of a guy, and i dont finish last, i dont finish at all. My life is a blur, and i cant, although i may try so hard in so many ways, nothing seems to change that. I am so unhappy, on so many levels. I am not hip, i am not the average person, i am shy, i am sensitive, i cant fix my problems. i cant remember the last time i was truely happy. Hi there you sad person! Yes we are all sad and down sometimes but i quess thats part of life. Sometimes I think I want to die and just go away from here and never come back. But then I think of the people who cares for me and the people thats there for me so far my whole life. Then it just aint worth it my friend to feel sad and lost. Yesterday my friend died and I felt so down and hurt that i thought of taking my things and get out of this place. But then my boyfriend came to me and said i love you and just that little word made me feel so much better inside, and about myself. I'f got so many problems i just want to run away and never return back. But then i go sit and think about it and try to deal and in the end everything comes right again not always in the way i want it to be but its a start. If people thing your stupid and useless then **** them my friend cause you are who you are and no-one can change that. Girls might not see you as you really are. Personally i think your too soft get your hard and angry side out and show them you dont take **** and they will start too respect you more you'll see. People can sometimes turn us so down and it hurts like hell but what about them they arent perfect or all that they are stupid normal human beings and thats a fact. So stand up for yourself show them your other side cause i think your other side is dying too come out for a change my friend. What do you say gonne give it a try.? Link to post Share on other sites
Infusion Posted November 25, 2003 Share Posted November 25, 2003 I too suspect that it might be depression too. They often say that some people are depressed not because of their current situations in life, but because of a lack of neurotransimtters in the brain that causes such feelings to arise, which calls for medication. Link to post Share on other sites
mattdad Posted November 25, 2003 Share Posted November 25, 2003 As a lifelong battler of depression and inner demons, I believe that the times when I feel most depressed is when I feel that there is no hope for the future. No hope for a better relationship... No hope for true love... No hope for the happy times to return... No hope for a loser like me... ...and then I realize that as a man thinks, so is he! We are our own worst enemy in times such as these, and usually need no other person to treat us this way. We can be extremely vicious to ourselves when we're down... ...let me ask you this. If your best friend came to you all down and sad, would you kick and berate him or her? Probably not... Yet we do this to ourselves all the time... From what I've read, you are a highly intelligent person`that at least honors yourself enough to want the best for yourself... Please don't give up on yourself! I'll bet that right now you can come up with ten things about you that you like. (BTW when someone told me to do this I couldn't - therefore I cheated and had my family and friends fill in the gaps for me!) I'm willing to bet that you are more esteemed and loved than you realize... Let us know how you're doing, OK? Link to post Share on other sites
mattdad Posted November 25, 2003 Share Posted November 25, 2003 As a lifelong battler of depression and inner demons, I believe that the times when I feel most depressed is when I feel that there is no hope for the future. No hope for a better relationship... No hope for true love... No hope for the happy times to return... No hope for a loser like me... ...and then I realize that as a man thinks, so is he! We are our own worst enemy in times such as these, and usually need no other person to treat us this way. We can be extremely vicious to ourselves when we're down... ...let me ask you this. If your best friend came to you all down and sad, would you kick and berate him or her? Probably not... Yet we do this to ourselves all the time... From what I've read, you are a highly intelligent person`that at least honors yourself enough to want the best for yourself... Please don't give up on yourself! I'll bet that right now you can come up with ten things about you that you like. (BTW when someone told me to do this I couldn't - therefore I cheated and had my family and friends fill in the gaps for me!) I'm willing to bet that you are more esteemed and loved than you realize... Let us know how you're doing, OK? Link to post Share on other sites
greentea Posted November 29, 2003 Share Posted November 29, 2003 [color=red]hi there! how are you doing lately? [/color] Link to post Share on other sites
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