ziggue Posted November 20, 2003 Share Posted November 20, 2003 I was just wondering if a girl and her boyfriend brake up and she still wants to be friends with the guy do any of you guys think it means she is still hopeful that they will get back together? Curious about what you guys think about that type of situation. Link to post Share on other sites
maxmuscle Posted November 20, 2003 Share Posted November 20, 2003 Its called "Having you cake and eating it to" Link to post Share on other sites
innocent Posted November 20, 2003 Share Posted November 20, 2003 either she really just wants to be friends or she is just trying to be nice and say that she wants to be friends, but really doesn't, she just didn't want to hurt your feelings sorry to be blunt, but that is the honest truth ( coming from a girl who has said this before) Link to post Share on other sites
MARQ GREGG Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 Originally posted by ziggue I was just wondering if a girl and her boyfriend brake up and she still wants to be friends with the guy do any of you guys think it means she is still hopeful that they will get back together? Curious about what you guys think about that type of situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 I agree with Innocent! I've used that one also. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ziggue Posted December 4, 2003 Author Share Posted December 4, 2003 Um I'm a girl by the way. I was taking about one of my friends. Lol. It looks like her and her ex are together again and if they are I'm happy for them. He seems like a nice guy. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted December 4, 2003 Share Posted December 4, 2003 The TRUTH is, in fact, that females value friendship HIGHLY thats why you find some that arent willing to move into a relationship and would rather keep their friendship w/a guy cause they dont want to destroy the friendship but it's not always true that a female wants to stay friends after breaking up....it depends who was the one that broke up, and what type of person she is. ive got a friend, and she dated this guy for 2 - 4 months?? broke up and theyre still friends. she calls him up occasionally if she ever needs a lift or whatever to go drinking. she calls him more times than she ever called me! seriously, my friend is very friendly with him and bugs him, but i think im sure she was teh one that broke it off. thats how girls are! theyre friendly mammals looking to make friends with many ppl....it's their nature. Link to post Share on other sites
Regulus Posted December 6, 2003 Share Posted December 6, 2003 It really depends on the depth of the relationship and how much was emotionally invested. If you were friends before and it was just an intense fling for a few months, then friends afterwards really means friends. I have no problem with that at all and never expect anything more but a friendship. You obviously got a long before and the boundaries just blurred for a while. The flip side is longer relationships. I never understand my guy friends who remain very close with their ex's after a painful breakup. They still act like they are her bf but get none of the benefits associated with a relationship. In every case, they are hoping something more will return and it never does. They of course will never openly admit it and claim its "just friends", but I can see the pain in their eyes when they are with that person. Quite a self-destructive pattern. It's always best to get over someone first and leave the friendship thing for way down the road, if at all. To directly answer your question, I think a lot of guys foolishly play the friend card in hopes their ex will change their mind. Link to post Share on other sites
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