Author sheithappens Posted September 21, 2009 Author Share Posted September 21, 2009 btw thanks for the advice bright, anyways,it wouldnt be weird since its been like a month and a half of no contact to just receive flowers?!?!, since she doesnt bring me up to mutual friends or doesnt even check if im ok and obviously it seems like she is done with me, can it be a front? can it be possible for her to get over me even though she didnt want to break up at first? can she be pissed off cos i ditched her when she needed my support? is it more than likely she is over it from her actions or can she still be hurt? Link to post Share on other sites
brightlights Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 It's hard not to think all these thoughts, but you have to try not to cause it's gonna cause you more pain to think that way. Just keep yourself strong, and don't over think the situation. You never know why she hasn't contacted you, but if she was really serious about you, a month and half is too short of a time for her to move on to someone else unless she had someone lined up that you know of, if not she's just probably just concentrating on her lsat's. Just be careful about your expectations after sending the flowers and note. You can't send them with any sort of expectation other than just wishing her well on the test, because if you do you'd be setting yourself up for something that might just not happen. So be strong and keep yourself busy, pick up a hobby or something and that'll definitely help take your mind off of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sheithappens Posted September 22, 2009 Author Share Posted September 22, 2009 thanks bright, well i dont have any expectations because my hope as well as my heart is slowly dying, i was thinking bout sending the flowers the day of her test so she gets them when she gets home and sending her a letter that same week, she has told her friend that she has been busy with her job and coming home to study, she doesnt handle stress that well, i really want to apologize to her for bailing out on her when she needed my support you know.... we will see what happens, god only knows whats going to happen and will have to accept what is in store for us...... Link to post Share on other sites
Broseph Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 Well If it helps out your situation I have decided to not contact my ex at all on her birthday and not send any of that stuff. Its not because I don't love her, she still is my best friend and I would love to catch up. I am doing it for me. The initial shock of it all sucks, I mean to me these people just suck because I think you should always talk over stuff before pulling triggers. My ex let her emotions get her and made a choice without discussing it, man that sucks. The bottom line for us sheit is they chose to not be with us. My situation is different because my ex has outright said that she wants a 'friends' relationship but I don't know how to be a friend with her. Every time I have ever met up with her I kiss her, I mean what do I do now hug? Sometimes you have to start moving on at the same time is all I am trying to say. Tomorrow will be tough for me but what will be even tougher is going through a constant cycle of emotion. Who know maybe one day I will make another shot at being with her but that today isn't today, or tomorrow or anytime soon. I am trying to focus on me now. I guess I remember what got me through my last bad break-up, i bought a guitar, I met a lot of new people, I moved to a new country. Now I cant be sure that my last opportunity is dead but there are other opportunities that exist everywhere around us. Dont be so focused on the past and the future, focus on the present. Your a great dude and hopefully everything works out, keep me informed. Oh yeah and that is not to say that I wont have my weak moments, I will but the more that I have been trying to think positive the more good days I am having. I think I'm cycling though my emotions alot faster, I am not dwelling as much on what could have been, what can I do and where to go. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sheithappens Posted September 22, 2009 Author Share Posted September 22, 2009 thanks dude, yeah your right man, i have been doing a lot to keep me busy , i joined a rugby team , lol, its pretty cool cos you let out a lot of aggression, anyways , it just get me scared man cos like im the one who screwed it up you know, i didnt think about it and i let my anger get the best of me, thats why i feel bad, and the funny thing is she didnt really do anything wrong to be dumped you know.... it was just all unnecessary stress for her that i cause and i really want to make it up to her ..... good luck with your situation bro Link to post Share on other sites
Author sheithappens Posted September 23, 2009 Author Share Posted September 23, 2009 three days to go, month and a half of no contact, am i dead to her? Link to post Share on other sites
brightlights Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 I highly doubt she thinks your dead to her or has forgotten about you. A deep emotional connection doesn't fade away in a month and a half. Your almost there, stay strong and I know it's hard but try not to think about things like that and focus on other things whether it be work, sports, etc......just focus on something else, it'll help trust me, during my 4 months of NC I wrote, directed, and produced a children's theatre show, which definitely helped me not to think about it as much. Just find a distraction and it'll ease the thoughts a bit, they won't disappear all together cause only time can do that, but it'll help quite a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sheithappens Posted September 24, 2009 Author Share Posted September 24, 2009 thanks bright, yeah you are right, 2 more days, i am going into it not expecting a response or anything like that, hopefully something positive comes out of this you know...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author sheithappens Posted September 25, 2009 Author Share Posted September 25, 2009 tomorrow i pick out the flowers, i am not expecting a response or anything like that, but it would be nice Link to post Share on other sites
Author sheithappens Posted September 25, 2009 Author Share Posted September 25, 2009 got them, they will be delivered tomorrow in the morning hopefully she isnt home, i am not expecting a response or anything since it has been about a month and a half since we have last talked you know Link to post Share on other sites
Author sheithappens Posted September 26, 2009 Author Share Posted September 26, 2009 today is the day, i hope i dont get owned Link to post Share on other sites
Broseph Posted September 30, 2009 Share Posted September 30, 2009 What ending up happening? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sheithappens Posted September 30, 2009 Author Share Posted September 30, 2009 well she ended up taking the test in another city ( it was confirmed that she did), the mom said the flowers were beautiful and the delivery driver called me and told me that it would be better if i sent them when she got back which is tomorrow, i am sending them again and i am also sending her a letter kinda of a im still alive / maybe good bye letter.... i am worried that she might be seeing some other dude or something like that..... do rebounds last? Link to post Share on other sites
Broseph Posted September 30, 2009 Share Posted September 30, 2009 I know what you are saying baout some other dude and I find myself thinking the same **** sometimes, there was this one guy around my girl who seemd like such a thieving diceptive bastard but in the end we shouldnt f*c*i*g care. I read a post in here the other that hopefully makes me turn the corner... it was about some guy who after a year being dumped was still wondering if he could get his girl back and the guy stright up told him "that yeah maybe you could but in the end you just wasted a whole year of your life". Lets not waste a year mate, youll want the year back sometime in life. So to answer your second question how long does a rebound last, well hopefully you dont stay and listen long enough to find out or care. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sheithappens Posted September 30, 2009 Author Share Posted September 30, 2009 yeah thats true dude, do you think i effd up b sending a letter as well? i am not expecting a response from her or anything like that but i did it for myself you know, i dont want to live with regrets man Link to post Share on other sites
Author sheithappens Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 so i sent the stuff yesterday and still no response, i am not sure if i went in over my head you know Link to post Share on other sites
Broseph Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 Yeah sucks no response yet but I think the next few days you gotta take it like this.... Situation A- she gets the stuff and doesnt repond, well if she does this she is an ungrateful bastard. Screw her she doesnt deserve you Situation B- She doesnt get the stuff, the whole time you will stew over this waiting for an email call or anything. You relize in two weeks its not coming and think the worst Situation C -She calls you and thanks you for it and maybe gives you the closure you need. Either way man you sound like you have a big heart and someone else might deserve it. Sit back reflect on yourself and move foreword. i hope evrything goes well keep us updated Link to post Share on other sites
Author sheithappens Posted October 2, 2009 Author Share Posted October 2, 2009 thanks man, it probably either a or b, i know that the flowers got to her house, whether or not she read the letter i dont know, but hopefully something good comes out of it you know Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 Man, I hate to say it, but giving her flowers ain't gonna send her running back. If it was that easy flowers would cost 10000 dollars. Hang in there.. it will feel better in a few days. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sheithappens Posted October 2, 2009 Author Share Posted October 2, 2009 yeah dude i know, i guess every time we fought i would send her some, anyways i did it as like a congrats for her lsat, i did write her a letter bout what i thought about this situation but oh well man, i will find out sooner or later , gotta keep my head up and be proud you know Link to post Share on other sites
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