How much should I talk to her? and more questions

[Cowboy2theCore]

Sorry it is so long. Please help me out. Thanks!

 

OK.. This past Friday at this club a girl came up to me and told me that some guy was stocking her and she wanted me to act like I knew her so he would leave her alone. I was like ok and she sat down next to me. We talked and went to play pool and danced. While we were dancing we made out. Well when the night was over I asked her for her number and she gave it to me. After they closed I asked her if she and her female cousin wanted to go to get something to eat and so we did. After the night was over with I gave her a kiss goodbye and asked her if she wanted to go ride horses tomorrow. Well I could have gotten in more detail about everything above but I figured I would make it quick. From the beginning I was attracted to her. Her personality was amazing and I have never and I mean never meet anyone with the type of personality she has. She could joke around about everything and just make it fun to joke back. I loved making her laugh. We could talk and talk and we could talk someone. I really liked her after the first night. But the one thing is... she is not from her.. She lives about 7 hours away and was only down for a couple of days.

 

The next day she text me good morning and I replied back to her. She wanted to come ride horses. I had to go do some things and made the time we meet later in the afternoon (3ish). Well I meet up with her and she followed me back to a friend’s house to go ride. We rode horses and sat around and talked. She still had that since of humor that I fell for that previous night. Her smile was amazing and just everything felt great. I kept on asking her when she wanted to leave because I knew she had to be somewhere with family soon. Finally she was ready to leave. I walked her to her truck and kissed her goodbye and thought that was the last time I would see her because she was leaving tomorrow to go back home.

 

That night she text me and mentioned something about taking a vacation to Florida sometime (state she is living in). She didn't mention visit her; she just mentioned that Florida would be a nice place to take a vacation, but I knew she ment for me to come visit her. Well by what all she was saying to me made me think that she really really likes me. That night I and a friend of mine were going out and she said she wouldn't be able to go when she came over earlier to go horseback riding.

 

 

When I was at the club that night I text her and asked her if she wanted to come out. She did but didn't have a ride. Eventually I left the club and picked her up. It was late when I did and by the time I got back to the club with her we would have had like 40 mins left. We decided to stay outside and wait until they closed because I was waiting on my friend. We talked and made out until he came out to leave. We left to go back to his place. We saddled up a horse and me and her rode double. My friend didn't ride and left early. He wanted to give me and her some alone time which was his choice. If he stayed that would have been cool with me. I was not expecting to do anything sexually with her. Well we rode horses, laid in the wet grass looking at the stars and talking, kissing, and holding each other. She fit so perfectly in my arms. She complimented me on the way I hugged her and kissed her. She still had that great personality and humor. It was an amazing night. We stayed up till the sun came up. I kept on asking her if she wanted to leave to let me know and I will take her home. We finally left around 7 in the morning. I asked her if she wanted to come back to my place and she did.

 

We both layed down in my bed to go to sleep. I started kissing her and trying to get her in the mood to move into 3rd base. Which I also tried when we were at my friend barn, but she didn't want to then. Well she didn't want to and so we both went to sleep. We both only got about 3 hours of sleep because I had to take her home. I took her home and kissed her goodbye. I told her to call me when she makes it home. That was the last time I saw her.

 

She text me a couple of times on her way home and called me once. I texted her late that night and told her I needed to apologize about something and wanted to talk on the phone about it rather than through text. She called me after she got gas and I told her I was sorry for the way I was sexually hyper and that I should have treated her with more respect. I did feel bad about it and still do. Well we talked on the phone for over an hour and her phone was about to die so she had to let me go.

 

When she got home hours later she called me from her sister’s phone because her's was dead. She woke me up, but I didn't care. I loved hearing her wonderful voice.

 

All of the above happened more than a week ago. Ever since then I have talked to her every day on the phone. If I do not call her then she calls me. She made a comment today that we have been talking every night since we meet. I asked her if that was a good thing or bad thing. She said it was good. I work odd hours compared to her schedule. So when she is sleeping I am at work. She asked me one time to give her a morning wake up call. I called her. Every since then I have called her and woke her up in the morning. I always ask her if she wants me to and she always said if I want to. I flirt with her and let her know that I like her. She has talked to her friends about me and they all don’t have anything nice to say really. They tell her that dating a guy in the military is not good. She knows that I am getting out in 9 months and that I could go to college anywhere I wanted to. I have not mentioned that I could go to college in Florida because I don’t want to scare her. I am going to go down in a couple of weeks to see her. She wants me to come down. After those couple of days she will be taking another trip up here probably. She mentioned something that I could take a trip once a month to go see her. I know she wants to see me, but I don’t know if she only wants to be friends. She said that she is picky and have told a lot of people know. This girl has a lot of guys asking her out and she also has some guys stocking her. She can get a lot of guys but she said she has been single for 2 years by choice. I kinda need some advice.

 

I know this is long. Here are some questions:

 

1. How often should I talk to her? Every day like it has been? (we talk for hours)

2. Should I try a LDR (long distance relationship) with her? (only LDR for 9 months if we last)

3. Should I continue to call her in the mornings?

4. Do you have any more advice you can throw my way?

 

I just don’t want to mess anything up. I have a habit of doing that in the past and just trying to learn from my mistakes. Thanks to everyone that reads this and replies back!

[SoulSearch_CO]

It sounds wonderful. Why mess with perfection? It doesn't sound to me like she wants to be "just friends." I say that because of all the kissing and cuddling and wanting to see you and telling her friends about you. I think you're doing great. Just keep doing what you're doing. No need to change anything. Just let things progress. Nobody can see into the future (damn, I know I wish I could), so just take it one day at a time - enjoying every moment you get.

 

She said to keep calling her in the mornings - so do it. She'll let you know if she doesn't want you to anymore.

 

Cute. Don't change anything.

[wiko]

I agree, keep it the way it is. If you try and start a long distance relationship after such a brief encounter jealousy will likely hit you HARD, I know it did for me (and I'm not really the jealous type). I'd never do it again. She DOES seems like the type of girl you'll want to stay in touch with, you never know where you'll both be living in a year or two.

[Cowboy2theCore]

Thanks for the advice. I talked to her today and just felt different. I like talking to her but for some odd reason I am thinking she only wants to be friends. I will just keep on doing what I am doing. Oh, I also didn't call her today and waited on her to call me. She called about a hour and a half before I had to be at work. I couldn't talk long so i told her to call me at work. She did. We talked for about 2 hours. I asked her if she wanted me to call her in the morning and she said that would be fine if I wanted too. I told her that I liked to hear her voice before I go to sleep and she was like aww.. ain't that sweet. So I guess everything is going alright. I just am scared I will mess things up. I always and I mean always have a problem of messing things up. I swear I have bad luck with women no matter how much I try to say and do the right things. It is not cause I am trying hard because she can't tell I am trying. I think before I say or act. If anyone else wants to give me advice or add onto the advice you already gave me then please do so. I could use as much advice that I can get. I want to make this work. Also, just to make a note: She was saying that I needed to start sending in college transcript to colleges I am thinking about going to. I am going to college next August which is a year away. I couldn't tell if she was trying to hit something or just stating facts. Thanks in advance to everyone that post a comment.