Thinking about gaining 25 lbs.

[Sistine Chapel]

Now I'm not insecure about my weight, but being 6'3 and 160 lbs I tend to have a slender figure.

 

I'm very athletic so I'm very tone, and I'm very strong for my size (benching well over me weight and dead lifting more then twice my weight).

 

Now I feel my body is dead near the perfect body type for parkour / free running, which is what I love to do. But I feel that I would look much better if I threw on that extra 25 lbs, although it might take a while for me to do it.

 

I guess I'm struggling between staying under 170 or pushing 185-190, with extra weight I feel my athletic ability might be hindered, or possibly helped. Not sure if anyone here is both a physics major, and a free running buff.

 

Do you think that, on average, bulky upper bodies are more attractive?

Or would, a highly defined, slender body suffice?

[GrayClouds]

Why 25lb's why not ten?

 

Though being happy with how you look is sexier then striving for something that does not feel right. If you feel good at 160 then dont let insecurity get the best of you.

[Trojan John]

The additional weight will definitely hinder you unless you gain the weight gradually while still doing parkour. I am about 9kg heavier than you and I feel like a fatty when I run or try to play football now.

[EarthGirl]

I won't give you the "it's what's on the inside that counts" speech because honestly I don't believe it is always that simple and that is not what you asked for, so I'll simply give you a very straight forward and practical answer about my thoughts on this...

 

I personally find slender guys with smaller lean but strong muscles a lot more attractive than bulkier soap opera type guys. I just think a thinner guy with lean muscles with his shirt off is really sexy and I dig a guy that is quick and swift and has a certain strut, as opposed to beefcakey and a little slower...

 

but it really depends on the woman because some women like that soap opera beefcake look (no, in all honestly it's not always so cheesy, some guys look good with muscles that are a little bigger (think Brad Pitt or Matt Damon or Taye Diggs), and some women find that sexy, it is just personal preference)...but it is just not my preference..

 

but I don't like guys who are super skinny, a little bit because it looks better and healthier to have a little meat, a little bit cause I don't want a guy that totally looks like a little boy, a little bit cause it's nice to have a LITTLE something to hang onto, but mostly because if I really like the guy I tend to worry about his health and that brings me a lot of worry and is not good for my own health.

 

but generally I like a guy who is a more lean figure and find that more attractive, but you know aside from the fat fetish stuff and weird stuff like that..some women actually prefer men who have a little cushion...not just rock hard muscle like the media would have you believe, but seriously just a little bit of fat ...something to snuggle into (I have it on good authority, some good girl friends have told me this and not in the presence of any men either "cushiony" or otherwise)...not a big pot belly or anything, but a little bit of meat and a big guy to really wrap their arms around.

 

It's all personal preference, I like it one way, which is my guy's natural body type fortunately (and lucky for him he can eat a lot more good stuff and still keep his figure easier than I can cause I have a horrible awful metabolism, even though I admit I do also have a big problem with food and don't exercise often enough...even though he is older than me) but if his metabolism betrayed him someday or he got addicted to some cheesecake and could not stop eating it every day and gained weight...even in a purely shallow way, 20 or 30 or even 40 pounds overweight, especially for a guy (some girls carry it better than others) is not the end of the world, even in a purely shallow way, honestly girls are more interested in a cute face and their guy just not being totally obese....

 

and beyond that of course you know girls do actually care about personality just as much as that other stuff, contrary to some peoples' opinions. Good looks can be icing on the cake or even necessary for some girls, but the goal, the holy grail, at least in a healthy relationship consisting of healthy people is a connection of the soul..

 

so don't waste your time trying to be absolutely perfect physically because it's likely that little things like the way you walk, and how you remember to call your mom every Sunday, and stuff like that is more important to her and sexier than 25 pounds whichever way it goes.

 

so I guess what I'm saying is i would not bother going out of your way to put on pounds...as it may be harmful to your hobbies anyway..and IF you happen to gain 25 or 30 pounds of muscle and/or fat somewhere down the line just through the natural progression of life and holiday cooking...just go with it. If I was only 25 pounds overweight I would be feeling gorgeous and much happier and healthier right now. But anyway since you don't know what type or women you will run into and end up liking, and what their "type" of guy is...you might as well just be who you are at any given moment..and most likely the women who is right for you won't notice much difference between the 160 pound you and the 185 pound you anyway.

[deux ex machina]

The additional weight will definitely hinder you unless you gain the weight gradually while still doing parkour. I am about 9kg heavier than you and I feel like a fatty when I run or try to play football now.

 

I agree.

 

From the sound of your post, you know what to do as far as gaining the right type of weight.

 

And yep. Totally with Trojan John here - if you are going to gain, gain slow and easy, see how it goes.

 

 

Do you think that, on average, bulky upper bodies are more attractive?

Or would, a highly defined, slender body suffice?

 

I prefer the highly defined, slender body.

 

That said, it depends GREATLY on the total package.

 

 

I'd say test and measure. Keep track of your results, and proceed from there...

 

I'm curious to see what your result would be.

 

Best of luck, whatever you decide.

[fatamus]

160 @ 6.3 is very skinny

 

you are not going to gain 25lbs just because you want to. Try gaining 5lbs of muscle first and see how you do. If it was that easy everyone would be their perfect weight. I know this one guy who can go from 170lbs to 213lbs of all muscle mass in 7 months and he eats whatever the hell he wants and is all cut up. 99% of people cant do that with a perfect diet, 5 years of time and all the steroids in the world. Genetics is a b*tch.

[Island Girl]

Wow. My husband is 6'3" and he weighs 320.

 

True he always has been more of a builder body and has genetics that kind of make it easy for him to be big and cut but my gosh.

 

MY optimum weight is 155 and I am a woman and only 5'10". Trust me that is lean.

 

It just seems unnaturally skinny to me. I'm sure you can run like the wind but that low weight seems unhealthy.

 

 

That said as far as attraction goes I obviously prefer a bit more bulk.

But it has - HAS - to be all over not just upper body. The guys who fill out their upper body yet have "chicken legs" are gross.

I'd take a leaner guy who has a balanced body over someone who is misshapen any day.

 

Some of my friends prefer the starving artist type. Tall and thin so they'd be all over you.

Some of them prefer a swimmer's build or muscular and lean.

 

Don't gain or lose weight for girls dude. There are plenty out there no matter what body type you are.

Be healthy and do what you want to do or what YOU are comfortable with.

[lord alfred douglas]

Dont make yourself gain weight, it will come on naturally later

 

Ive seen so many guys who were athletes in their 20's who are now my age (35) and they are big fat blobs, because they got in the mindset that mass is masculine and developed horrible eating habits that have caught up with them

 

Being skinny is the most natural state for most young people