4givrnt4gtr Posted September 2, 2009 Share Posted September 2, 2009 So, I posted on Thursday how I was planning a surprise visit to my bf. Which became more like a last minute visit because he figured it out before i got there. In any case, I want to post my experience in case anyone wants to pull something like that. Advice # 1... make SURE they have enough time for you at the time of your planned visit.. Long story short I unwittingly added pressure on an already crazy weekend. We had a great time for sure (at least I did, and he assured me he did too) but he just wasnt in the place to entertain me and take care of all his other plans. Actually, nothing got done, one particular thing a direct result of my visit, so I felt horrible. Advice # 2....If you are going to visit, make sure you are as flexible as a gymnast. Since you will be sorta encrotching in their time, you pretty much gotta do what they have to do. The visit should be about BEING with them. Advice # 3....If at all possible, make sure you have means to move around independently. Since it is a surprise visit, they shouldnt feel like its a burden for them. I flew in and rented a car, which came in handy as it gave us means to start moving (he moved to his own place over the weekend). PErsonally, I had a great time. It made me feel like he isnt all that far away and I can come see him at the drop of a hat if i really need to. I wont do it too often though, if at all. My boyfriend is the type of person that needs to have a set plan or he gets flustered. Since my surprised visit ruined a lot of his plans I told him that I wont be coming out again unless he specifically asks me to. I think if everything had gone smoothly though, I would definitely do it again, as i think it made us feel like we're really not that far away after all. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted September 2, 2009 Share Posted September 2, 2009 I feel bad for you. He seemed to be encouraging of you coming down there when he should of said "I'd love to see you, but it isn't a good weekend for this." He should communicate with you a little better so this doesn't happen again. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovin a scrapper Posted September 2, 2009 Share Posted September 2, 2009 I still would have loved a story on a complete surprise visit. I know a lot of us on here would be very interested to see how something like that goes. Still I think it sounds like it was fun for you even though it wasnt perfect. Link to post Share on other sites
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