Cameron's Love Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 Hi all, my name is Jen. i've been in a long distance relationship for almost 3 years now. i met him online while i was working on an oil rig location in november of 2006. i was a medic and had to kill a lot of time sitting in a truck, so i went into a chatroom. i never expected to meet someone real on there, and bam. i did. within the first conversation i was hooked, and so was he. we've talked every day since then. but we haven't met yet. i told him i wanted to wait a year before meeting him, to know that he was really into me. but since then life has kept getting in the way. i'm in canada, and he's in the states...so it's not really a problem that way except for he has a record and can't leave the country. right now i am dealing with being broke and i'm struggling with my weight. two big reasons why i keep putting meeting him off. we can't go on like this forever. both of us are madly inlove with eachother right now...but i'm really scared that when we meet it won't be the same. i can't really talk to my friends about this because they kind of laugh at my situation...cuz it's "not a real relationship". i stumbled across this forum and i'm just lookin for people who have walked in my shoes. thanks all and nice to meet you! Link to post Share on other sites
SpanksTheMonkey Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 Hi all, my name is Jen. I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 3 years now. i met him online while i was working on an oil rig location in november of 2006. i was a medic and had to kill a lot of time sitting in a truck, so i went into a chatroom. i never expected to meet someone real on there, and bam. i did. within the first conversation i was hooked, and so was he. we've talked every day since then. but we haven't met yet. i told him i wanted to wait a year before meeting him, to know that he was really into me. but since then life has kept getting in the way. i'm in canada, and he's in the states...so it's not really a problem that way except for he has a record and can't leave the country. right now i am dealing with being broke and i'm struggling with my weight. two big reasons why i keep putting meeting him off. we can't go on like this forever. both of us are madly inlove with eachother right now...but i'm really scared that when we meet it won't be the same. i can't really talk to my friends about this because they kind of laugh at my situation...cuz it's "not a real relationship". i stumbled across this forum and i'm just lookin for people who have walked in my shoes. thanks all and nice to meet you! Hi Jen welcome to love shack congrats on the on line relationship now I'm going to burst a few bubbles for you sorry. I just wanna be honest as Ive been in a similar situation myself in the past. 1st off I don't believe you can ever be in love with some one who you haven't met in real life yet. The Internet is an amazing place believe me but its not quite reality just be careful and try to keep your feet on the ground a little. 2ed I'm overweight myself so don't feel bad its OK. But have you been honest and told him this has he seen a current pic of you? If not then you need to fess up imed so if its a major issue with him then you can deal with that how ever need be 3ed he has a criminal record I met a man like this on line and I gave him the benefit of the doubt guess what he turned out to be a alcoholic abuser. Just be careful I'm not trying to be a downer here just sharing my thoughts experiences on the subject... Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 Thinking out loud here: is this Love... or is this need? because you are both in difficult situations right now, and it sounds to me as if it's mutual support and comfort, but I'm guessing these are primary. You love him because of that. Not because you're IN love with him. Just my 2 cents..... Link to post Share on other sites
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