neowulf Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 So anyways, after a 2 1/2 year dating hiatus, I finally decided it was about time to start going out and meeting people again. Only there's a small hitch... I went on a date tonight with a great girl and I was definitely feeling a level of attraction with her. I suppose I'm feeling a little nervous about jumping into anything too quickly. True I feel attraction, but she's such a sweet girl I just don't want to put the moves on too early and then suddenly decide "no, actually I'm not that into you". Providing of course she's even into me As I've gotten older I feel a real avoidance in stringing people along. Time is valuable and people's emotions are not play things for others amusement. I suppose I just don't know how many "dates" I should go on before I make a decision.. Would appreciate some perspective on this. Should I just take it a "date a time" and risk leading this girl on? Link to post Share on other sites
Calendula Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 I would say, yes, take it one date at a time. While you don't want to lead her on, you also won't want to wonder 'what if' in three weeks time. Let it be what it will be and don't try and make too much of it all at once. Even if she isn't 'the one' she could end up being a good friend and might even introduce you to 'the one'. I don't think that going on dates with this person for several weeks to a month would be stringing her along, as it takes time to truly get to know someone and be comfortable around them. Enjoy yourself, be relaxed and honest with her, and see where it takes you. Link to post Share on other sites
ashleigh422 Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 I agree.. relax.. enjoy yourself. I would say.. for me.. If i could ever get single again.. I would limit it to 4 dates.. If after four dates I don't know If I want a relationship with someone, then apparently I'm not feeling that strongly about us. But really, after that long a break.. please don't think you are just going to come right in and not meet a few frogs before you find the princess.. yes she may be sweet.. just beware. If I were you, don't overcomitt to the first girl you date when you re=enter the dating scene. Date around and then you can get a feel for things.. Link to post Share on other sites
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